Ok I am absolutely prepared to get flamed and be told that IABU.
My dds dance and do festival dances -basically dance competitions.
I work pt and put a lot of time and money into their hobby which they absolutely love.
I have no queries with the amount of time I spend at festivals, in fact I love it. I enjoy relaxing and chatting to other mums. I have made lots of friends and enjoy watching the dances etc etc.
Anyway when my dd1 did a ballet dance I had no choice but to have a tutu made. It cost a lot (for me)and I will not sell it as it holds sentimental value and one day I am hoping dd2 will wear it. It no longer fits dd1.
As more children are doing festival dances the ballet teacher asked me to bring in dd1's tutu to show the other girls and give them the number of the dressmaker. This was in November.
Several people asked me if I woukld sell them the tutu, I replied that it is not for sale. No probs.
Another girl who is doing a ballet dance, told dd how much she liked the tutu. I told my dd to let her know that it wasn't for sale, but I would be leaving the dressmakers details with the dance teacher.
Now today my dd has said can this girl borrow her tutu as even though she has known for 6 months that she needs her own tutu, she hasn't bothered to get one!!! This girl is 14, almost 15.
I am annoyed for the following reasons and initially told dd no she can buy her own like I had to:
Why has she left it until the week before to ask?
Why has her mother not got one sorted-this is not something you can usually buy off the peg and the dance teacher has told her this.
Why does she assume that because I won't sell it I will in fact let her use it for free.
What is getting to me is that her mother has a very good professional job and drives around in a massive car which I could never afford to run.
Btw I don't dislike her or her mother but find it very very cheeky and feel like she has put my dd in a very awkward position.
The tutu cannot be washed either so it isn't like I am lending her a pair of machine washable trousers.
She would need it more than once as "She hasn't got the time now to have hers made."
Am I being completely unreasonable about this to feel bloody put on.
I also told dd that really this girl's mother should have initially asked me in which case I would feel fine saying actually no it isn't for sale.
The other thing that occurs to me is that this girl "borrows" her other outfits from the dance studio.
Sorry for the long post.