To think motherhood lasts until you die?

[DrWispalove]

basically, MIL and FIL have said they have done their bit, now it's their time to have fun. We would like to see the grandchildren but don't really want to be bogged down in problems and issues with the family. Just happy perfectly orchestrated grandparent moments please, in-between trips around the world.

I was stunned. I think I will only stop being a mummy when I die. it's not a short
-term contract. How could a parent not want to know what troubles their children, even if their children are in their 40s. AIBU and a soppy old git to think motherhood doesn't expire until we do?

It's actually something I'm looking forward to - being a wise old bird with kids and grandkids and helping them by providing advice and support and sorting out issues and problems (over the phone or in person) into my old age. That's the best bit of parenting for me - the older they get, the more complex and interesting children/young adults become. Why would I want to switch off from being a parent when they turn 18?

We told out Teens that we are going on a long holiday for our 50th Birthdays so 10 years time , ooooh can we come , erm no you will be 29 and you will be 24 so no you are not coming

I think it depends on the timing too. I went to university at 18 (but still came home for most of the holidays) and left home properly at 22. Had my first baby at 31. My DB left home before me and had kids later. Now my parents are very keen to be involved in their GCs lives, but maybe it helps that they had 9 years to themselves first, when my DB and I did not need much parenting or any grandparenting.

Sorry OP , I'm with your inlaws on this one. Yes they will always be parents, that doesn't mean that they have to sacrifice the rest of their lives to suit your partner and yourself.