He's being a complete arse isn't he?

[Lexie1970]

DP currently in major huff at mo but from my point he is being totally unreasonable!

As we still have lots of snow, boots are being kicked off at door and left in porch. I have brain like a sieve and what I can't see I don't think about. Last night he went out to fill my car with diesel and came in about 20 minutes later. Now to get out of front door he has had to step over 2 pairs of his boots, 2 pairs of DS wellies and my boots. To get back in he has had to step over again. If this was me I would have put all boots in the hallway when I returned.

Both get up to go to bed about 10 and he asks if I am leaving the boots outside or do I plan to bring them in? I am flabberghasted as I can't understand why he didn't bring them in. follows a row with me saying that why didn't he bring them in as he had to walk over them and saw them and him saying i should have bought them in, I am lazy blah blah blah

Upshot is I bring mine and DS boots in and leave his outside. He comes down brings in his and chucks my boots on front lawn and also chucks remainder of glass of lemonade at me!! Tosser!!

Thoughts?

Thoughts? You both need to grow up. "What I can't see I don't think about" isn't an excuse for not doing something that needs doing, and leaving his boots out was very childish. Equally, he behaved like a particularly immature three year old. If you were my kids I'd make you both say sorry.

Erm....ok - the glass of lemonade being chucked is way out of line. There was absolutely no need for that at all.

Regards the boots....why is it ok for you have a head like sieve and expect him to pick up after you? Leaving his boots outside like that was petty and childish.

You are both being ridiculous.

He threw a drink at you?!!

What a total wank-stain

Is he normaly violent to you/others?

normally

I think you owe each other an apology.
You shouldn't have left them out in the first place, he could have brought them in but didn't, you were childish for leaving his outside, he was even more childish and aggressive for then throwing your boots out - throwing a drink at you is out of order though.

Sounds like the OPs husband left his own boots outside! Why is it up to the OP to bring them in? There were other boots outside too, not just his.

If the boots were in the porch, what exactly is the problem in the first place?

Our boots have been left out in the porch all week - is that bad then?

Thoughts?

You are BOTH being unreasonable, and childish, and just behaving terribly.

You are meant to love each other, care for each other and be kind to each other. Go home apologise to each other, have a kiss and cuddle and agree to start being better examples to your children.

Well he probably should have just brought them in when he saw them rather fuming over you not doing it. But then you could have just said "Oh, the boots. I forgot, I'll do them now" when he asked you. Not worth a row imo, and certainly not worth flinging drinks around over.

Why should the OP do as he says though? they were in the porch, not in the middle of the garden.

He called you lazy because you are. He went out in the cold to fill YOUR car with diesel and you had a go at him because he didn't tidy YOUR boots that YOU'D left scattered in the porch?
I don't agree with him throwing the lemonade at you but I'm not surprised he lost it with you.

The Man Is Always In The Wrong.

Leave The Bastard.

I think it was provocative of him to ask if YOU were going to bring his and everyone else's boots in - he could have said 'oh, the boots are still out, we'd better get them'. Were you already being snippy with each other by that point?

I don't know why he didn't bring them in when he came back from the petrol station, but you were childish in not bringing his boots in - though he had been out of order - and he behaved outrageously by throwing your on the lawn and throwing lemonade.

How do you usually resolve these rows?

Why didn't you bring your boots in when you took them off in the first place? If they were dripping snow you could have put them on some newspaper.

He was doing a good thing filling the car up and probably didn't like being accused of not sorting the boots. He had left his outside so presumably was happy for them to be out. However he shouldn't have thrown the lemonade.

DickieDavis the OP has said it was 2 pairs of her DHs boots, 2 pairs of her DCs boots and 1 pair of hers

How does it make her lazy? Did she say that she had scattered them in the porch? Oh yes, of course, I forgot its the woman's job to tidy up everyone's crap isn't it?

Sorry but I can't get over the fact that he went out to fill your car with diesel! I hate doing that. Any many who did that for me wilingly would get his boots moved.

But I think he was probably being a bit childish and so were you.

You lead a strange life. Who makes a special trip to fill up a car? Don't you just go when you're next out? And why can't the boots stay in the porch? What's the big deal about bringing them in?

All that aside, you are both being utterly ridiculous. You sound like a two year old.

I agree dickie

I cannot condone the lemonade chucking, no matter what.

Had I been your dh though, I would've been annoyed at your it's-fine-if-I-leave-the-boots-lying-around-because-I-have-a-head-like-a-sieve -but-if-you-do-the-same-you're-in-the-wrong attitude.

dickie - 2 of the 5 pairs of boots out there were HIS. 2 were his child's, 1 was the OPs.

He left his boots out too, so why should he get to have a go at the op for doing exactly the same as him?

How is it lazy to have forgotten about the boots but not lazy to have stepped over them twice and not simply grabbed them and brought them in

Mos sane people woud have picked them up on their way back in rather than actively stepping over them and then whinging.