He's being a complete arse isn't he?

[Lexie1970]

DP currently in major huff at mo but from my point he is being totally unreasonable!

As we still have lots of snow, boots are being kicked off at door and left in porch. I have brain like a sieve and what I can't see I don't think about. Last night he went out to fill my car with diesel and came in about 20 minutes later. Now to get out of front door he has had to step over 2 pairs of his boots, 2 pairs of DS wellies and my boots. To get back in he has had to step over again. If this was me I would have put all boots in the hallway when I returned.

Both get up to go to bed about 10 and he asks if I am leaving the boots outside or do I plan to bring them in? I am flabberghasted as I can't understand why he didn't bring them in. follows a row with me saying that why didn't he bring them in as he had to walk over them and saw them and him saying i should have bought them in, I am lazy blah blah blah

Upshot is I bring mine and DS boots in and leave his outside. He comes down brings in his and chucks my boots on front lawn and also chucks remainder of glass of lemonade at me!! Tosser!!

Thoughts?

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he threw a drink at you!!??

What an arsehole thing to do... immature, disrespectful and horrid.

But you both sound like you were trying to score points off each other though.

I'm glad it sounds like you've sorted things out, and I can just about see how occasionally chucking things in anger is normal enough, as long as you're not actually trying to hurt each other. But I am most disturbed by the idea that you both went to bed while there was lemonade was drying all over the floor and walls. I can't get my head around that!

So depressing. I think it is a wonderful privilige to have a DP who earns enough and is happy for their OH to stay at home with the children. One who then goes out & fills up the OHs car with fuel on a dark, snowy, cold night is a decent human being & I think that is above & beyond what a lot of DP's would do.

Being scatty about the wellies, is a very poor excuse IMO. Either you do care or you don't care that they are in the porch, rather than the hallway.

I'd be seriously pissed off too, if someone had a go at not bringing them in too. I hope I wouldn't throw lemonade - but I'd certainly feel like it.

I've changed my mind after reading the sanguine advice obn this thread.

DH should leave the OP.

Sorted.

Did your DS see or hear any of this? Because if so, you are massively BU.

whatme now that is what I would expect on the relationships board

dreaming DS was fast asleep - it was 10 o'clock!

salamanda I certainly wasn't cleaning it up then and it was only lemonade not red wine or coffee

Good grief - he's at work long hours, he pays for your fuel, he goes and fills it up for you, you can't be arsed to bring in boots even though you are a SATH, he would rather step over them than move them and you both have a strop and he flings lemonade.

This is either "welcome to the toddlers' thread" or a reflection of underlying resentment at your work/domestic roles.

Where did he get the £60 from if it wasn't from your joint finances? Can't you fill up your car and use a bank card, you know, like normal people?
You were both acting like silly kids .