But the fact is, people are just jealous. I'm not saying that is a 'wrong' emotional response - it's completely understandable, but if he were going on and on relentlessly about his dull hobby or the fact that he is very poor and how hard it is, or about his job, or his disability, or whatever his particular obsession of choice might be, people would still find it boring and irritating and they might still dislike him for it, but they wouldn't get so fucking angry and bitter!
I find it uncomfortable and awkward when casual friends or aquaintances go on and on about what they don't have and how tough things are for them, to me, knowing am pretty well off in comparison. It's difficult to know what my response is supposed to be, or how I can contribute helpfully to the conversation without them immediately batting it back with 'oh, you're alright Jack, what would you know?'
I don't know whether they are trying to make me feel guilty, or spoilt or greedy, but it sometimes feels like it.This is why people often end up socialising with people from the same or similar socio-economic group as their won. Poor(er) people thing rich(er) people snub them for being 'not good enough' but in reality it's much, much more complicated than that - it's about not needing to tread on eggshells your whole life.
Relatively affluent people are entitled to talk about their life and what goes on in it without the assumption always being that everything they say is designed to make someone else feel inferior for crying out loud! Especially as IME, half the time we are responding honestly to direct nosiness questions rather than forcing the information about how bloody fantastic we are onto a reluctant audience.
When I was in the UK I had to listen to so many 'jokey'
jibes over the years from people who thought they were entitled to belittle tease us because we seemed 'rich' in comparison to them. From friends we have known for twenty years, to tradesmen who came into my house and felt they could start taking a snidey pop at me in the name of humour
because I had a big house in a nice area, a nice car, a DH with a very good job and I didn't work but had a cleaner. So???
Imagine how that would work in reverse.....oh, but hang on. It doesn't. Because it's not acceptable among most people with an ounce of decency to keep pointing out someone's financial shortcomings.
I have a 'friend' here on my compound in Qatar who is on a tight budget and if we have been shopping for anything I dread getting it out of the car because I am terrified she will come out of her house and start asking questions. She is always making little PA digs about how much better off than them we are, and I hate it, but I don't spew bile at her for it - I just end up trying to avoid her!
Anyway - massive hijack, but loosely relevant to the Jumeirah Jane bashing, and just wanted to get it off my chest.