AIBU to wonder why parents let their DC run around the bank SCREAMING and banging into people?

[Denj33]

.....without saying a word? (and just smiling at them when they step on people's feet)
My 13 yr old DD just had to stop him swallowing paper and running out the door, and his mum just laughed, no sorry or thank you even when her DC was pulling my DDs hair

I occasionally have botox and on going last week there was a woman with a screaming toddler in the waiting room! The staff had to tell her that children werent allowed in the clinic. Who on earth takes a young child with them when they have botox.....

I dunno. I am mostly blithely unaware of other people's kids unless they are literally treading upon my extremities or those of children or adults who are in my company. I don't really understand why anyone really cares about this sort of stuff in relation to one-offs with strangers in public places - who knows what's going on really?

I've been lucky with ds so far but a) he's only 2, no room for smuggery and b) I remember my cousin as a child absolutely running riot, he was impossible to engage with or discipline and being out and about with him was torturous. As an adult, he has a very severe mental health condition that it is now apparent he was exhibiting even then.

I just can't get my knickers in a twist about a bit of boisterous behaviour in a queue in the bank. How long were they even there? I also agree with the poster that says that threads like these seem to exist purely for other posters to wax lyrical about how amazing their own parenting skills are and how they would never allow x or y behaviour and have never put a foot wrong in all their years as a mother. Bully for you, I say, bully for you.

My DS has AS so whenever I see an older child having a 'tantrum' I try not to judge as I know I get looks when my DS is haing a bad time. hence my reason for asking, Grownup
I would not though not 'get involved' when he is misbehaving.

I think most agree it is not a child misbehaving that is an issue. It is parents who ignore their child misbehaving or even laugh openly at their child. All, or at least most of us have been in public with kids having tantrums, etc, but if your kid is misbehaving you do need to try and stop your child doing this imo.

By the bank I had stopped engaging him at all, he had already been going for five minutes at the bus stop, then ten or fifteen minutes on the bus to town. His discipline was dealt immediately when his bad behaviour began, he was given warnings and then punishments were followed through on for his naughty behaviour. The rest of the tantrum was a response to try and make me back down in my opinion, and the best thing to do was to ensure he was safe, people around us were safe, and go about my business quickly. Ignoring the behaviour is not the same as not getting involved.

I don't tend to go out very often with both my children as I can generally only manage one at once in an outside environment, especially as DD runs off a lot at the moment, and I am always very aware that people are probably judging what I deal with and what I ignore, but as my Mum keeps telling me, I have to pick my battles, do what is necessary first and deal with everything else second. It's embarrassing sometimes, being the mother with the tantrumming child, but I got my rent paid and I made a point about punishments not being given up simply because he makes a lot of noise and lolls around on the floor.

I find the less you take them into situations like banks the worse they behave when they simply have to go with you and a 10 year old whining is just awful.

"FreePeaceSweet - they clearly are naughty, and you can discipline them."

How are they being naughty?