To think that our parents never parented like this and we all turned out ok?

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Honestly every day i log onto MN and there is always some variation of the following:

Ds doesnt like school, should i keep him home its making him anxious
MIL fed dd fish fingers and i am furious
Dh said the house wasnt clean is he emotionally abusing me
I think my ds should fo half days because hes tired
Can rides be banned from supermarkets, im thinking of a petition
Im disgusted that ds was playing with a toy gun at friends party

Yada yada yada la la la
Really? Can you imagine any of our parents doing this, i couldnt even get a day off with stomach ache, let alone feeling tired, a vesta curry or crispy pancakes was considered the height of sophistication, we watched Nightmare on Elm Street at age 9, and apart from the knifed glove i have in the airing cupboard it didnt do me sny harm, parents wouldnt question the school on hours or teaching skills.

Honestly it just makes me i think people have too much time

Yanbu it is very annoying

I'm not at all sure I turned ok. I'd much rather have been parented the way I parent.

It drives me NUTS.

Not to mention if a man so much as leaves the toilet seat up then the default answer is "Dump the bastard"

And go back 10,000 years, or even to other parts of the world now, and things were even worse - yet oddly enough kids survive.

Many of these things are better labelled "First World Problems"

But do you parents as below hully?

Of course we all make subtle changes and times change and knowledge about things is better. But honestly some of this is ridiculous.
(but giving kids vesta curry 5 nights a week is not advised

I agree to a certain extent. Although my mother didn't question the teacher I had when I was 7/8 and as a result I actually contemplated throwing myself down the stairs, just so I wouldn't have to go to school. I was suicidal at age 7 because my mother was "old fashioned" and didn't believe in interfering even though she knew for a fact that my teacher was beating children, throwing scissors, screaming in our faces etc. I'd much rather many children were mollycoddled so that one genuinely suffering child could be saved from what I suffered.

But what would we all do all day without these threads? I for one need something to occupy my mind for hours a few minutes here and there and a nice "oh ffs you stupid woman" at the monitor does me the world of good and a nice bun fight can keep me entertained for ages!

I am not sure that my parents 'parented' at all. They just were parents. It's become a skill rather than just something you do because you have kids. Which is more or less what I do I think....

I saw a friend state on facebook she was keeping her children off school if it went below zero its frigging winter put a jacket on take them to school Oh and buy a hat it is annoying children are indulged to much imo , My dds are older i didnt parent like this ,

oh and a lot of people sound controlling on Mns it has me controlling really ??

And as for 'turned out OK' the jury's still out But you could be the most involved and micromanaging parent in the world and still fuck it up.

at the knifed glove in the cupboard. YADNBU. There have been more than a few threads on mn that I have just thought wtaf, and thank god they bear no resemblance to my rl.

Mind you in my day it was get out to work and that was it . Had to go back to nightschool to get qualifications.

is ok to eat Findus crispy pancakes 5 7 days a week?

With Waffles?

YANBU totally agree!!! I ate fish fingers, the odd crispy pancakes and oh dear lord i drank pepsi!! Plus i ate shit at parties and made myself sick one day eating too much junk at a party
Plus i had to be dying to get a day off school, in fact 9 times out of 10 i was sent and only if i'd thrown up at school, temperature etc then i got sent home, was i allowed off!
I am still here to tell the tale

I pride myself in my DS trying varied foods, including the odd sausage roll, or a fruit shoot, as long as he eats his varied meals veg and fruit and does exercise i'm happy, but i certainly don't buy into this new form of parenting!

Oh and I sold home made rose water perfume to strangers! Without a sticker listing the potentially lethal water and Dad's prized rose petals ingredients on the back! Shock horror!

I made rose water I didnt sell it though wasnt that enterpirsing ,

But... I never had a carseat, let alone a seatbelt. My mum used to smoke whilst BF me and doing a crossword, She weaned me onto cows milk too soon and Im well iffy with dairy, so OP I totally get you but... ^

I have worked with children since i left school (16) so 20ish years and they way parents parent have really changed in all that time and you can see the difference in how parents react and interact with the Littlies they are much more precious these days ,

YANBU I think we're becoming a nation of wet wimps

Can you imagine anyone complaining years ago that someone had the audacity to 'smile at their baby on a bus'....or worse still that the Grandparents gave them a sweet?

Depends on your parents. Mine were far more protective than I am.

My parents parented the way I parent. I'd always presumed that the biggest influence on parenting styles/skills was our own parents?

Thinking about it, I'm slightly softer than my mother as we weren't allowed any sweets until we were 6, whereas DD does occasionally have chocolate and has had since 15 months.

Mrsjay - I believe there is still a gap in the market!

WorraLiberty - people have issues with people smiling at their baby's on buses? Really? How sad :( I stop and chat to the little old men and ladies who smile at mine and coo and say how gorgeous my baby is etc etc! It makes my day! :)

I think we worry way more than our parents ever did, and that is motivating many parents these days.

We have moved on safety wise, that I am please about.

When I was a little girl, my Sunday treat was a visit to Battersea park. I would sit in the front seat of our Ford cortina ...my 'booster' seat was my Dad's brief case!