to have wanted to slap this "Mum"?

[HassledAndHarrassedMummy]

Just been to pick my daughter up from playschool and two of the other Mums were talking about toys thier kids play with......
The long and short of it was that one of the mums was talking about how her son wanted a dora doll and that her and her husband thought it wasn't "normal" for him to want a doll and he should be playing with cars and other "manly stuff". Blah blah blah. She just kept saying that it wasn't normal.
AIBU to be completely aggrieved by what this woman was saying??? My DS got a cooker for his 2nd b'day as this is what he wanted and more recently my DD got a Thundercats sword for Xmas as she was absolutely deperate for it. Are my children not going to be normal because of this??? Have I ruined there lives by not buying them the correct toys?
I didn't say anything. I just rolled my eyes, but since I got home I have been quietly seething about this woman?
I'm not BU? Am I?

Ur right WorralLiberty I am, lol.

You still haven't explained why you put the word mum in inverted commas. Why did you? I'm aware you think you were justified but please share.

Because chubfuddler I just wondered what kind of mother says their child is not normal and how un-normal ther behaviour is because he wanted a bloody dora doll. I wud never say that about my child. I just hope she doesn't say it to her child.

Tbh I find your violent rage more troubling in a mother than her fixed gender stereotypes. Have a cup of tea and a .

I think i understand what you meant. YANBU to be aggrieved at the mother telling her son that but some people have different views and mostly you just have to accept their views through gritted teeth. Re wanting to slap, I take that to be just a figure of speech to emphasis how aggrieved you are?

I really don't understand why she made you seethe so much. It's her parenting style and ultimately her choice.

Typical MN response about caring what other people say/think. If we were all like that in real life nothing would ever change or get challenged.

'Parenting style' is sexist?

What if it were racist? Is that a 'parenting style'?

OP you don't sound like your raging....at all.

bang on posie

Wow - yabu - you're general tone about the person who is someone mum - not 'mum'.

I would be more concerned with your level of aggression than with the other mum's gender stereotyping.

WorraLiberty what do you believe oxymoronic means? How can it apply to the OP?

Op, to clarify. I described your stance as oxymoronic because you seemed rather violently judgemental about someone else's lack of ... Open-mindedness.

Agree w posie
Gargula is that because you find aggression unfeminine?

"Gargula is that because you find aggression unfeminine?"

Yes, because it would be perfectly acceptable for a man to want to slap someone

rootietootie u nailed that on the head pretty much.
I'm finding it v.amusing that people r so concerned about my "aggression". As said before, I would not actually slap this woman.
And again I didn't think people on here would take things so seriously.
I was just shocked at how narrow minded someone could be about a child. I know some people do think like that normally blokes but to actually hear someone saying that out loud.....
Anyhow, I think I'v made my point and I'm not going to continue to defend what I think. If anything I am now amused by it all and when I see said Mum in the morn I wil have a little chuckle to myself.
Enjoy :-)

OP, you appear awfully, I dunno, sneery(?) at other posters.

cornflower I think you mean contradictory or even paradoxical but not oxymoronic.

Well the whole thing is oxymoronic in the sense that the OP thinks the Mum should have a live and let live attitude to whatever toys the child wants to play with...yet she doesn't have a live and let live attitude herself when it comes to disagreeing with the Mum's POV.

Wow. When I clicked on this thread I expected to read that you'd seen a mother hit her child or abuse him/her in some way. What a massive overreaction to something so trivial! Your aggression makes me side with the other mother, even if I don't agree with her! I'm not the coolest cucumber in the world but seriously...get a grip!

Sneery?? Is that because I dnt appear to give what other people think.
I asked AIBU. It would appear most think I am. That's fine. I aksed. U answered. I didn't expect people to get so het up about it. I had a little rant, I got over it. I dnt bck down and I dnt change my mind because my opinion is a minority. I do get amused by silly things. If that makes me "sneery" then so be it, lol.

No, hintofbream, I meant oxymoronic :)

It is not trivial....AT ALL. We have a whol,e fucking nation of boys, now supposed men, who were sold the idea that 'girl's stuff' is shit, worth less, not manly (ie no good) unsurprisingly these boys grow up without a decent level of respect for women.

It all starts here guys. There is nothing trivial about ruining a child with limits, especially when those limits are sexist.

We also have young men growing up thinking violence is a perfectly acceptable way to get what they want. Normalising violence in the way the op did is not clever.

I don't believe her expressing herself on MN is quite the same as limiting a child's choice, unless the OP copied in her own children to the thread!!