to be absolutely furious with my 'friend' for letting me down?

[ivorycoast]

I've been waiting several months for a hospital appointment to come through to see an ortho surgeon. Letter finally came last week with an appointment for this wednesday at 2.45pm. Tried to change the time as it is bang in the middle of the school run but was told not possible to re-arrange.

DH at work during the day so can't do the school run. Would normally ask my parents but they're away. I have a friend that lives in the same cul-de-sac as me and her dd is in the same class as mine and we often take turns picking up the kids from school, having them over after school etc. I've helped out my friend quite a few times, looking after her two dc when she's needed to go somewhere, having her dd when she was too ill to go to nursery and my friend had to work and so on.

I asked my friend if when she picks up her dd on Wednesday after school she could take dd home with her for an hour until I get back from the hospital. She said yes. This was last Wednesday.

I had a text from her today saying 'sorry, really frantically busy next week, lots of tidying to do at home, can you get someone else to pick up your dd?'

I am absolutely furious. Friend knows I'm only asking her because I've got a hospital appointment and that I don't really have anyone else to ask. Plus she will be picking up her dd that day anyway, its not like shes got anything else planned.

I replied saying 'don't really have anyone else to ask'.

She hasn't replied.

AIBU to think she should help me out when I've helped her out in the past?

...a bit 'short-sighted' of her...!

Frantic tidying and having a friend round usually go hand in hand for me as i am messy.

i think the having a friend round IS worse. what a let down!

zookeeper you don't know what kind of appointment it is. I've had to take my chiildren to the hospital for appointments and it's been a pain in the arse. I remember one instance when having a baby scan (late one at 36 weeks so not v mobile) DD (2 at the time) got really upset and fell out of the pushchair... Lovely!

My answer for tomorrow morning would be "no sorry dd imaginary friend is playing today so no room in the car"

She sounds selfish. I'm doing a favour for a friend today on top of the regular swap I have on a Tuesday and have 3 extra kids here. It's only a couple of hours of my life.

Good luck with your appointment. You've seen her true colours.

How did things go ivorycoast?

Hi ivory, I take it that she hasn't had the nerve to ask you for any further favours since? She'd have to have some balls to ask anything of you after the way she treated you!