to expect DTS's class teacher to be able to tell them apart?!

[MadDash]

They are in year 5 and, yes they are very similar looking (wouldn't say identical), but have massively different personalities. Their class teacher, however, cannot tell them apart. She's been teaching them since september now and I would have expected her to have got to know them by now. Or AIBU?

Maybe a little U. Is there something different you could do to help her like a different haircut? Our two are boy/girl so not identical at all.

Well are they identical or fraternal?

Apparently my dd's teacher still mistakes several children in the class. There is another dark haired girl in her class and the teacher calls my dd by her name. I think my dd said recently her teacher has some sort of marble jar thing going on where if she gets the children's names wrong she has to put a marble in a jar. I would have thought she should know who there are by now.

DS2's teacher couldn't tell him apart from the other boy in his class who had ginger hair, so you've no chance with twins IME.

How similar are they?
If identical do they have any particular distinguishing features or clothing that makes it easier?

For example we have two identical twin boys in my school. They are very similar looking. Mum always sends one child in a white t shirt and one in green, always. Makes it much easier.

TBF I still mix up a couple of girls in my class. They are not related and don't really look that similar. In my head I know them apart but so often get their names wrong.

They are identical. It's got to the point where the teacher is telling me about how DTS1 has misbehaved/done something worth crediting when it has actually been DTS2 or vise versa.

Yabu and a bit precious - I had a bit of a giggle at 'massively different personalities'. [bhmm] [bgrin]

I work with identical twins who wear exactly the same right down to their pants and socks. I often struggle to tell them apart. I've been working with them since September too. Best I hand my notice in tomorrow.

I had a bit of a giggle at 'massively different personalities'

Sorry, but why can they not have different personalities just because they are twins?

I used to teach identical twins who both had the same first name.:o

I have twin godchildren and sometimes get them wrong!

I call ours the wrong names at times. Not sure I can really hand my notice in ;-)

so make your mind up, are they identical or not?

YABU by the way..

I know it would be annoying but I am sure it's not because he/she doesn't know who they are. As a teacher I can say that sometimes there are particular pupils that you just get a mental block over their name, even though you know their correct name. I had a girl one time whose name was not Mary and I knew that was her name, yet every time I would ask her a question or respond to her putting her hand up, I would call her Joan. It became a running joke between us and she understood it was just "teacher being silly". I also had non identical twins and got their names mixed up, not because I couldn't tell them apart though. It's a very weird thing.

So YABabitU -don't take it personally. However if it's upsetting your kids, do have a quiet word and let the teacher know. I would hate if I was upsetting a child and wasn't told.

Of course they will have different personalities - it's funny because YOU are the only person in the universe who will ever really notice that at this age (cos obviously you're their mum).

Ha, there are 4 sets of twins (3 of them identical) and one set of triplets in Ds's class! No one can tell who is who!

YABU (unless of course, one is obviously a boy and the other a girl, in which case teacher needs to get to specsavers pronto)

I have only one child and often address her by the dog's name. Nothing that years of psychotherapy can't cure.

I will accept to being a bit precious, but the boys don't like it, especially when one gets told off for the others misbehaviour or one gets praised for something the other has done.

I worked with a chap who had identical twin sons. When I asked him how he distinguished one from the other he said "it's not easy, but one of them wears glasses so that helps". Pmsl at "one of them".

YABVVVVVVVU, they look the same, you identify people by their looks, not 'personality'

[bgrin] at tinkeritonk

No-one can tell my children apart - they arent even twins. They dont have the same build or colouring.

There were twins in ds's primary school and their mum always did their hair differently.

The only way I could tell them apart was that one had a freckle on the side of her nose, other than that I hadn't a clue, and I listened to them read once a week for 2 years

Do they have the same haircut too? Can you give them slightly different style of uniform shirts or something?

I remember when I was at school, my teacher always - and I mean always - confused me with another girl (no relation). It happens. (Once, said girl's mother even collected me from school - I remember looking up at her and asking "Why are you taking me home?")

Also bear in mind that many children behave differently at school to the way they do at home - their "massively different personalities" may not be so clear in another context.

If it bothers you, can you not find some way to help the teacher out? Diffrent haircut/jumper/shirt... whatever's practical. Even a little badge with "A" for "Adam" and "B" for Ben.