To secretly wish that my sons will grow up to gay?

[BettySuarez]

Already starting to panic about potentially difficult relationships with future DIL's - particularly given the MIL bashing threads on here.

And worried that I will have NO rights to see my grandchildren in the event of divorce

My sons are still of school age so I am getting way ahead of myself here but I can't help but secretly wish they could both be harbouring secret homosexual tendencies

Well if they do grow up to be gay, why do you assume you won't end up a MIL or a Grandmother?

But I'm with you on the MIL bashing btw!

It reaches epic proportions at times and makes me wonder if some DILs think they're totally perfect and everything is always someone else's fault.

I don't understand the thread, sorry. What is preventing your children, if they are gay, from having a Civil Ceremony, having children etc?

You'd still end up a MIL if your sons had a CP.

Just remember that for every 'I hate my mil threads' there are loads of people who get on amazingly well with their mil

However you don't often have a need to start threads on here titled 'FYI my mil is fab'

Etc

Yes giyadas but think of all the shopping trips they would take me on, not to mention the West End shows

Sounds like a bloody plan if you ask me

Those are strange reasons to harbour your secret wish, which I'm sure many of us share to some extent.

You are missing all the advanyages of a gay son that really matter...

• someone to make you feel fabulous and beautiful even when you're not
• someone to go to the opera with
• being invited to dinner parties with your son and his fabulous showbiz / luvvie friends
• etc!

I could go on but obviously it is all rubbish! Our children will grow up to be whatever they will be. If my son turns out to be gay he'll probably be a gay kebab-eating lorry driver, just to confound my expectations!

But that's part of the excitement and wonder of children, isn' it?

My MIL isn't perfect, she's tactless, forgetful and her behaviour can be a bit erratic....just like my own mum! I think a lot could be gained by some of the posters by asking themselves 'how would I be reacting if my own Mum had done this?' Without question there are some awful MIL's and DIL's out there, but there are some pretty horrendous parent/child one's too! Relax, both my mother and I have had/got a great relationship with our MIL's, you only ever hear the negatives on MN!

bet they'd still bitch like no-ones business, though.

I've said this several times and received some strange looks I'd particularly like it if one of my sons ended up like Graham Norton, could have some hilarious bitching sessions together

No stereotypes about gay men then

Well you certainly won't see your grandchildren if your sons don't have any.

How about just hoping they have a really nice partner, of whichever sex, assuming they don't prefer to remain single which is a perfectly legitimate lifestyle choice?

Anyway there's nothing to say the Wrong Sort of SIL can't be just as bitchy and prickly as the Wrong Sort of DIL. The Right Sort, on the other hand, would be a joy and enhancement to your family, and if it ever doesn't work out between your son and partner they would still be able to stay friends with you, because you had been the Right Sort of MIL.

I was just about to post the same Dozer!

Dozer - It's a goodnatured, faintly ridiculous OP based on stereotypes, which has got some replies in the same vein. meh.

The funny thing is, a lot of the MIL bashers say their own mums are lovely.

But their mums are probably someone else's MIL

So how does that work?

I like mine :)

But she hated hers, so she learned

Both MIL and DM are disaster zones. But at least DM isn't sexist nor does she dictate how I bring up my sons.

You want your sons to be gay because all women are bitches?

I think you can rest assured that your DsIL will not like you.

Where did I say all women are bitches?

worra exactly Ive often thought that myself!

Another weird imbalance is that loads of MNetters have ex's who don't pay a penny for their children.

Yet they all live with men who do pay their ex's child support?

Well you want your sons to be gay because you're so worried about the dreadful women they are bound to marry.

Sounds a lot like "all women are bitches", or it's pain-in-the-hole MIL equivalent "no woman will ever be good enough for my sons" :o

Maybe, instead of having secret prejudiced fantasies about the kind of gay stereotypes they might become, you could raise them to be decent partners to good women?

Or good men, AThing! As long as they aren't doing it just to please Mother!

Or decent men, obviously.

You are so unhappy with the thought of another woman being iwht your sons that you hope they are gay?

Wow.