to loathe the smuggery that goes with any G&T post

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' oh my dc is miles and miles ahead of her peers, but I really want her to keep it real and mix with the thick folk just so that she understands that we are all different. Obv she'll move to private for her GCSE's'

FFS, when I was young there was no G&T and we all got on with it. I would have been a G&T type, but so glad there wasn't the distinction then. Tis shite

Imaginethat, I am sorry but I would prefer my DD taught herself Japanese or international relations rather than probably never speaking even her native language.

So..my opinion is that G and T comes with its own issues and is no way smuggery.

But please don't go down the comparing it to.SN route

yabu
imo as long as they keep to the G&T topic, I think a bit of boasting is fine.my dd has sn and I love to boast about her.

am with Fanjo, please don't compare it with sn, SEN maybe, but not sn

DD doesn't seem to have any issues as of yet. She is popular and doesn't seem to have any behavioural problems. She was quite happy in nursery playing with her friends etc before they moved her up to reception so wasn't suffering for 'not being stretched' or anything but she does enjoy that she now does gets to read and do more lesson type things at school. I hope she doesn't get picked on because of it as she gets older (that's assuming she still has the label) but I think if she is it will be because some of the other parents attitudes have rubbed off on the kids.

I don't think it can accurately be compared to SN of many kinds, but there are children who fit both. The two things, G&T and SN, are not mutually exclusive.

But can't their be a crossover with sn? Kids with autism can sometimes be gifted with numbers and reading and stuff can't they?

*there even (dd does not get her giftedness from me )

Yes that is different. I believe imaginethat, and mum from my DD's nursery were just talking about extreme cleverness though

Some.kids with autism have these abilities, my DD is just gifted in flapping her hands,.smiling and being messy

We got the bad luck eh, she's autistic and doesn't even have the Rainman special talent

I was unaware of a G&T board, so i would say if you are annoyed by the supposed smuggery on there then hide the topic.

Whilst I can imagine that having an extremely gifted child could present issues, and worries that are very particular to that issue (hence why mumsnet is a perfect place tp talk about these issues, without being accused of smuggery), I think that comparing it to SN is a mistake. I can see that there may be areas where it cosses over, you could have a child who has SN and is extremely gifted, but the worries and problems involved with having a child with SN are not even in the same ballpark as the worries that must be involved with having a gifted child (IMO!)

On the way to a school outing last week I had endure 4 children (8 year olds) talk about how gifted and talented they were. How they were on Level 4a or b or c, how they were g&T in 3 subjects, how they were tops in Maths oh god it went on and on. It just didn't sound healthy for 8 year olds to be so obsessed with their academic performance.

I was trying to word that in away that didn't imply that I thought kids with autism all had talents so sorry if I was insensitive .

I'm a bit concerned about ds tbh. He is nearly 2 and good with numbers and letters etc (not to the extent you describe with your dd) but his day to day communication is lacking. He is starting to put a few words together but it all 'copied' iyswim and often not in context. He repeats things over and over as well. He also does a lot of flapping, free fallling sensory kind of stuff and has facial tics. He doesn't seem to understand a lot either and seems in his own world. And he doesn't hurt when he falls either. I'm going to mention it to the paed cos we've got an appointment to have his hearing tested though I suspect that's not the problem. People are always saying how bright he is cos he counts repeatedly

WinterGoddess - that would be annoying. I have told dd that she isn't to go round telling people she's clever. I doubt that's a g&t thing though - her and all her friends seem to be at the stage of being obsessed with being 'the best' or 'the winner' at everything.

Smr you weren't insensitive, I was joking :)

DS has an IEP for his communication difficulties. Small friend has an IEP because she's reading at an enormously high level. They both need support (although small friend does not have an SN in my opinion).

I hope the OP is referring to the 'my three year old just burped Rachmaninov's second symphony, how do I ensure school supports this special and prodigious talent' rather than parents who are looking for support with what can be very challenging children to parent. But I doubt it.

I'm not sure if my post is being referred to with the point about special needs, my apologies if I offended anyone, I'd just come away from another very stressful drop off at school where my daughter hurt another child again and had a full on meltdown in front of all the parents and I ran off crying. Was feeling a bit sorry for myself.

To me MN is special because it provides safe places to discuss things we can't go on about in RL.
I find myself on the SN board discussing dyslexia, because in RL people seen DD1 as bright and socially inept. Both true. Unfortunately at school she has to put things down on paper and any tips I can glean from others in a similar position are invaluable.

DD1 is simply a cleaver girl who gets on with life. I only ended up on G&T because school are doing level 6 SATs papers.
I cannot say much at school because it sounds like boasting. Even the poor HT has got his ear bent on spending time daring to help the top group.

I'm with moonface. Always smug on the first G&T.

I think too many people think their children are G + T, sometimes I think my children are, then they'll level off somewhat and become just gorgeous, normal, spectacular children. So long as they're not bored, confused, worried, stressed... I'm happy.

GrownUp..it wasn't..and

Sorry it's DD2 who's doing her SATs

DD1 is choosing her GCSE options and I'm leaning on the SENCO about assessing her for support, but that's a whole new thread

If every G&T parent is smug then
every non G&T parent is jealous ;)

Sorry couldn't resist. Don't believe either to be true, although obviously are in a few cases.

At DSs school they have less than 2% of children on the G&T register ie 2 children in a school of just over 100 pupils. They are both working at levels about 4 years ahead of their peers.

I think living with a truly gifted child must raise huge issues. I wouldn't relish it and I think trying to get real life support must be nigh on impossible

It is an absolute fucking nightmare quite frankly. Not bragging, but stating the truth, not smugly, but through gritted teeth.

I have had huge problems finding help for my ds. It has taken its toll on me, on him and on immediate family and friends.

What an ignorant op, walk a mile in my shoes op. Walk a few feet and you will be exhausted. I can guarantee.