To be utterly flabbergasted re this Lady?

[GirlWithPointyShoes]

I have just been sent this link by a friend who is a step-mum. You may want to have something soft for your jaw to land on when it hits the floor.

ANother corker from Kelly Rose here

She actually write about her son berating her husband and she let him FFS - he is going to end up with serious problems about respect and relationships.

She writes for my local paper and has always used her son as fodder for her column, referring to him as 'The Boy'. Ugh.

I've seen her name online as a speaker at a seminar about first-person journalism, so I assume she is crafting a persona in her writing and has assiduously developed the hide of a rhino as a conscious professional choice. I very much doubt she needs her distant relatives to defend her from the consequences of that choice.

Well,it's hard work swimming against this tide but,I have to say that I would feel exactly the same way as her and would probably say the same thing to my husband if we ever split up.The kids could obviously see their dad, on his own though and I would wait until our kids were older before I started looking for someone else.

Have you read anything else she a written peorgie? I can safely guarantee you that the majority of women would not feel this way in her situation. They put their childrens needs first and their own feelings second.

So she ends the relationship and effectively does her damndest to stop her ex moving on with his life. She really is barking, isn't she. When I skim read the original link I assumed, wrongly, that she'd been left by her ex. However reading the link about her ds berating her ex I realised I was completely wrong. Poor man to have to have contact with a woman like that in order to see his son.

Why are you trying to patronise me? Kelly-Rose does not need me to defend her in anyway. I was making a point that she is a real person and NONE of you know her and therefore have no right to make such personal and vindictive comments. What irritated me and this would stand if this was about "a distant relative" or somebody completely unconnected to me, is that you all clearly see yourselves as perfect parents. Yet your willingness to jump to such conclusions about a person unknown to you, are surely not the best skills to demonstrate to your children.

I agree that the childs needs must come first and I assure you that I am in that majority as my child's father has enjoyed unlimited access, with his new wife. But there are plenty of women who do not allow their children to see their fathers at all, hence the need for fathers for justice and the family courts.They have their own various reasons for this.There will be plenty of these women at your local school for example. Do you regularly insult them at the school? Call them mad and shit parents? No you do not. Do you scan their calves for wrinkled tights and point them out? No.

I suggest that you go back to reading the guardian, which is soooo much more civilised darling.

I completely agree with all of that Mollie. At least if he'd dumped her you might be able to understand her stance a bit if you didn't agree with it. As it is she just comes across as nasty and controlling.

And darling we can only go on what we read and see, and we see crazy ass views and fugly tights

And she has a cats bum face!!

OldMumsy I think you are probably right. I find it very sad that a journalist who is 'PAID' seems only capable of writing articles about her ds and featuring him in photos accompanying photos. I wonder is she gives her ds half of her fee since without him she wouldn't have a job as a journalist.

accompanying articles, not photos.

I don't see any evidence of people putting themselves forward as "perfect parents", just because they are criticising what the journalist herself concedes is a controversial attitude. My own belief is that this attitude is cynically exaggerated for the purposes of provoking hysteria a "thought-provoking" article, and I don't actually give a tiny shit what she does: just don't expect her to win a Pullitzer any time soon with this garbage.

What I find weird is that for a supposedly professional freelance writer she does seem to only be capable of writing about her relationship, its breakdown, her child, and the resulting wrangles.

She is a bit of a one trick pony isn't she?

peorgie, the journalist has sold prostituted the details of her life to the press and is using her child in order to further her career. People are going to judge that and if the journalist isn't happy, then she ought to live a more private life.

Whilst I think that using your dc to further your own career is disgusting behaviour, I think it must be heartbreaking to hear your dc call someone else 'mummy'. If what she says is true, then poor Ellen Rives.

I think it's fair enough to expect an ex to spend time alone with their child and not introduce them to a succession of new partners, but once a partner becomes serious and an ex remarries/has more dc then it is actively cruel to deprive your child of access to their family. And like it or not, the new dc are family to that child.

Oh she is wonderful because she "lets" her son see his father? No sorry dear but children are not a parents possession so she does not get any brownie points for that.

Also many of the women who "do not let their child see their fathers" actually have things like court orders to protect their children from an unsuitable parent.

As for poor old Kelly-Rose being victimized (hah) I'm sorry you feel that was but she wrote that article fully aware that most parents single/step/etc would be appalled by her way of thinking and have something to say about it. If she didn't she certainly does now!

what happens when she meets someone, is her ex going to forbid her from letting her new partner meet her son?! Silly bitch

wow such vitriol can only be destructive to the poor child, the woman is unhinged!

I would HATE any child calling my ex's new wife their mother/mummy but I would welcome another positive parenting influence into their lives.

My DD's & I have discussed this recently as ExH has a new lady in his life so we are all tiptoeing around a new scenario but as long as she isn't seeking to replace me in the DD's lives but help ExH and me make life as easy as possible for them then we'll do fine.

I am also painfully aware that I am being Pollyanna-ish about this but we can hope!

what happens when she gets a new man ? will she let her son mix with 3rd parties , My mil was this woman 40 yrs ago totallly twisted my dh persception of things all because she was a bitter and jealous woman , God help that little boys 1st girlsfriend who takes her precious away from her

She has laid her life open and invited comment. It's her own fault if she's made herself look bad and opinions expressed accordingly. Most of us have the sense to keep our mouths shut, or at least keep our anonymity.

I'd like to hear Andy's side of the story too. He comes out of the whole sickening drama quite well imo.

Poor kid, I truly hope his friends' parents have the sense not to leave this where their children can see it

I don't agree with her stance but i'd side with her more than the sort of mothers who readily introduce their kids to the latest boyfriend, instantly calling him their 'stepdad' - when actually he is just the latest shag