One thing I have learned from MN and
From looking at
Lone parents and step parents forum:
(I'm with DH but if we ever split I have already promised this to myself)
His new relationship is non of my business
I will not bad mouth any new woman who could be SM (unless ofc causes actual risk to my child etc)
I will teach the DC to respect and step parent involved
I will not withhold access because of a new partner or be awkward.
DH is their dad as much as I am their mum so although it's nice to k ow what
They are up to I would trust him to make
Is own decisions/ plans with our child
I wouldn't insist on meeting or 'vetting' potential SM before introducing the child. I had the child with DH and trust he would not rush in, although it would be nice
To know I wouldn't put any demands on it etc
I would make sure if there were and issues re contact days/ holidays I would have a written agreement in place to protect contact time but would try to be flexible to requests and hope DH would do the same.
It must be such a hard situation anyway without people adding
Unnecessary drama