to think that this is the most irritating question anyone can ask a heavily pregnant woman?

[PutThatCatOutNow]

In the last few weeks, it seems nearly everyone I have spoken to has uttered the words 'ooh you must be getting impatient' to me. DC is due tomorrow, of course I'm getting bloody impatient! It's coming from people who have had children as well and know that I am of course fed up and getting a tad impatient. So AIBU or just stupidly hormonal?

I think I was irritated at the 'do you know what you're having' question because it is such a banal question. I didn't know ahead of time, I didn't want to know ahead of time. And to be fair there was a 50/50 chance of it being a boy or a girl. It'll be one or the other.... and if people aren't really interested and are only making small talk I'd rather they didn't bother.
It's like when you go to the hairdresser and they say, "Are you going anywhere nice on your holidays?" = No, I am going to Afghanistan. To stay in a tent.

I think in late pregnancy the question "Still here, then?" when you answer the phone is particularly annoying.

And FourQuartersOfLight, can I just say what a lovely neat bump you have?

I always like to tell anyone that asks me an irritating question that I'm not pregnant. Their squirming always makes me feel better

People like to dote, brood and stick their nose in, I think it's mainly hormones, and def. agree with Cherriesarelovely that everything is annoying at that stage, but at the same time it is a BIT unreasonable - they can't help it!

The only one that made me was at work (I work for NHS) patients asking me "When are you coming back to work"?

I haven't even left yet !

People are only being friendly. Giving them an acerbic or sarcastic response is rude unless they were snarling in your face and calling you names.

I think it really rude if I asked a pregnant woman if she knew what she was having and she gave me a mouthful, or said "Yes, a baby." How about "We decided to keep it a surprise", or "we chose not to find out" etc

Being pregnant is not an excuse to be rude or ill mannered.

However, I do agree that bump touching is out of order unless you ask first. You shouldn't do it all to anyone you don't know very well.

Firstly fourquartersoflight I've been meaning to tell you that you've got a lovely neat bump.

Secondly ywbu and yanbu. Yanbu to think it's the most irritating question but ywbu to expect people not to say anything.

My personal loathetastic question is "how much longer have you got?" "too bloody long" I always say.
To be fair I've been lucky and am currently 32wks with number 3 in 3 years so pgcy isn't something I've found hard to acquire but I hate being pg and am basically grumpy the entire 9 months. I love love love my DC but the effort of making them just gets my back up so I'm with you on the Argh but still try to smile and be polite cos I'd hate it more if no one said anything!

People trying to be nice is all it is,.

YABU :)

I think the reason these questions are annoying are because you hear them so often. I go to a different children's group a day, five days a week so see different people and I must get asked one of the 'classic' questions 3 or 4 times a day. That's not an exaggeration, and yes, people are just being friendly but it does wind me up!

you do sound rather impatient, infact i can't stop laughing :o

thanks notso and some others, your posts have made me laugh out loud :P

I'll accept being unreasonable but rightly so as hormonal :o
It's my EDD today and I've had lots of people asking me if the baby has arrived. All was going well until someone said to me 'if it's your due date why aren't you in labour'. Needless to say she hadn't had children!

HAHA!

So, what excuse did you have for not being in labour as expected then? Come on, justify yourself!

"My personal loathetastic question is "how much longer have you got?" "too bloody long" I always say. "

I was asked this today. And was able to truthfully say "I'm due today"

You better have your excuse ready if you don't go into labour today, hairy!

When 36 weeks with my first, I was 'helpfully' told "you do realise it's too late to turn back now, don't you?"

I have been thinking and i remem ber people wanting to feel belly...one night in a pub (dont jump on me i only ever drinked coke and have only really started having any alcohol since having ds). And someone, me there, asks my ex, can i feel her belly. Like hellloooo i am here you know? Was that not really rude? Ask me first its MY BELLY, Our baby but my belly!

YANBU.

There are more polite ways to make conversation without asking annoying questions. Just ask "how are you?" and the pregnant woman will tell you as much or as little as she wishes.

There's a hugely pregnant lady who gets on the bus in the morning with her little boy (very small hopper bus, so you recognise the regulars very quickly) and it seems to me as if she's been that hugely pregnant for months now - I was convinced she must be due over Christmas and was looking forward to surreptitiously cooing over the baby. I really want to ask her how long she's got, but I have a feeling that if this pregnancy seems to have been going on forever to me it must be a million times worse for her, and she'll probably deck me with her handbag...

I got annoyed with one colleague who told me I must be having twins every single time she saw me, because I "was soooo big". Even after my scans showed there was only one. And I'd told her that. Nicely, before anyone thinks i was being rude. Also, I worked with a girl who was due about a month after me, and I got "your bump is so much bigger!" all the time. Well, it will be, I'm a month more pregnant.

My PFB was born in December before the Millenium, he was due on Nov 30th but like alot of PFBs was late. A week late.

On the 29th Nov I'd popped -waddled- into Sainsbo and the checkout lady asked "Millenium Baby?"

I said "No , Tomorrow Baby". She looked and whooshed my shopping down the belt, packing it in double quick time.
I did tell her he wouldn't be born the next day, he'd not done anything out of the ordinary, like engaging.But maybe she didn't want a birth at her checkout

So is the father

So who is the father

Its almost as bad as being called fat, especially when someone else say so and so hardly showed at all and you look like you have a beach ball under your top!