to think that this is the most irritating question anyone can ask a heavily pregnant woman?

[PutThatCatOutNow]

In the last few weeks, it seems nearly everyone I have spoken to has uttered the words 'ooh you must be getting impatient' to me. DC is due tomorrow, of course I'm getting bloody impatient! It's coming from people who have had children as well and know that I am of course fed up and getting a tad impatient. So AIBU or just stupidly hormonal?

Agree with pictish, Squeaky and zookeeper.

It's nice that people take an interest. They are only trying to be nice. not upset you. I have had five pregnancies (two to full term) and I was so chuffed to be pregnant I didn't care how crass the friendly comments were. Just grateful to be pregnant.

Whatever next? "AIBU to be upset that nobody makes small talk with me just because I'm pregnant?"

But it's so tedious being asked the same question over an over and over, especially when it's a question that implies you have lost your capacity to think - when you are knackered and fed up and achey - in my case the same person asking me if my bag is packed (weekly). Like I'm 40 weeks pregnant and have unpacked my bag since the last time! .

But people are well meaning. What would you LIKE them to say? I couldn't ignore a pregnant woman in a social situation and I would have no idea if lots of people had previously asked her that question.

"how are you doing?"
"been up to anything interesting lately?"
"fancy coming out for lunch?"

Would be a lovely start.

31 weeks pregnant with second child, been asked every one of these questions. Doesn't bother me in the slightest.

But then I like talking about myself

I often ask "how are you doing" to a pregnant woman but I wouldn't ask a casual acquaintance out for lunch. Having read this thread and others by grumpy pregnant women, I doubt it would be long before we get something like "How am I doing? How do you THINK I'm bloody doing? I'm nine months/six months/insert length pregnant here!" AIBU to be sick of people asking how I am when I am pregnant?" etc.

It's a sad day when people either ignore pregnant women for fear of offence or talk to someone ignoring the fact they are pregnant for fear of offence.

A pregnancy is great news and people get excited. There's enough bad news in the world and a new baby is always a joyful thing.

See, I got very used to this.

My standard greeting was "No, I've not had it yet. Yes, I'm still pregnant. No, it's not twins. Yes, there's just one baby in there. I'm coping well, my bags are packed, I've got X weeks left to go, I'm due on the X of X, my sex life is still sizzling as DP can't get enough of my bump and no - you can't bloody touch my bump."

That used to get very quizzical looks as though they are wondering how I managed to read their mind! They'd then slope away.

Mwahahaha [evil]

People would keep texting and emailing me around my due date to ask if there was any news. I sent this link to some of them :)

My DP's granny visited me in the postnatal ward. Her opening gambit was not 'congratulations' but "ooh, I bet you're a bit sore down there [points to her vagina just in case I didn't understand] aren't you?" I was 19 and surrounded by college friends ( some of whom had only the vaguest idea about childbirth - when I told my best friend that I'd had lots of stitches, she innocently asked me 'where?'!). I turned bright red and just wanted to die.

Mental note: do NOT show any interest whatsoever in my friends pregnancies, especially around their due dates.

Aaarggghhhh!!

Typical was 'I bet you can't wait to have the baby' = yes I am looking forward to hours of discomfort/pain and indignity. (As it was I had 48 hours labour and then an EMCS)

'Do you know what you're having' = Duh! A baby.

When DD was born she was dressed in unisex clothes and lots of people felt it was perfectly acceptable to advise that SHE should be more clearly defined by her clothes.
At one point I got really pissed off with all this when DD was dressed in a blue stripy babygro with pink piping and the nth person said 'Is it a boy or a girl, I can't tell with it dressed like that'. I snapped, "It's a boy but I want him to be gay, hence the pink!"

When waiting for dd1 coming out of nursery, about 6 months maybe a bit more this woman whom i had never spoke to before was asking about pregnancy then says i think its a girl/boy (i cant remember now) as you are all behind aren't you?? I was just like Gave a weak smile and moved away. What was worse was up until then i though i was all just bump :(

The outrage at the "do you know what you're having?" question is ridiculous. You KNOW people are asking if it's a boy or a girl. Some of the questions I can see your point with when you think about it, but not that one.

Ok, riddle me this.

Is it ever acceptable for an acquaintance (not even a close friend) to suggest you "ingest seminal fluid" to bring on labour? I kid you not it has just happened to me.

And wtf do you say in reply?

My reply to "do you know what you are having" is consistently "no". I do know but it's my choice whether to tell others or not and IMHO it's a vit mosey to ask.

The most stupid question for me was also "haven't you had it yet?". Firstly, I wasn't expecting an "it" and secondly, I was fucking enormous and quite clearly still pregnant.

Both dcs turned up at 42 weeks so I 'd had at least a month of answering this asinine question. I'd have almost welcomed "I bet you are impatient?", tbh, because actually, I was by the end!

So YANBU in being irritated by being asked the same questions over and over again but actually, it could be worse. Nobody could ask you anything.

hairy I am gasping with laughter at that! WTF? Why would you EVER say that to someone?!

Perhaps suggest she gets her other half to eat pineapple as it will make his semen taste sweeter when SHE ingests it as she's such a big fan. (Assuming its a woman with a man.)

I don't care what people say but don't fucking rub my belly. Grim.

YABU, sorry ! People are just making conversation and acknowledge your pg status.
Unless they ask these question with a sneer, obviously.

I always tell pregnant women that they look absolutely gorgeous (even if they resemble an airship) as I remember that complete paranoia and annoyance if anyone said anything less than that.

A cyril sneer.

Sorry to be picky but 'ooh, you must be getting impatient' is not a question, so YABU to think it is the most annoying question.

I also think it is hormones and the fact that you are impatient that is making this get on your nerves. People are trying to sympathise/empathise (not sure which one).

It is annoying though - I was counting down from 30 weeks and impatient from 37 weeks. I have found myself saying similar to other heavily pregnant women since giving birth though - you might do too!

Or a Cedric Sneer

I now vow never to mention pregnancy ever to a pregnant woman.
I'll just pretend I haven't noticed

"I always tell pregnant women that they look absolutely gorgeous (even if they resemble an airship) as I remember that complete paranoia and annoyance if anyone said anything less than that."

It's just what we want to hear even if we know it isn't true :)