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AIBU?

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To have sobbed about this?

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muffinino82 · 16/01/2012 01:11

Long so as not to drip feed.

I fell off my horse at around 12:45 after he bucked and then bolted, landed very heavily on my side, fracturing my ribs, hurting my knee and back, banging my head (although I had a hat on). I was up in the top field, approx. 60 acres up a steep hill away from the farm. My horse galloped all the way down the hill to the bottom gate and the farmer came up to get me in his Land Rover. I was initially going to be air-lifted to hospital but went in an ambulance and got back to my house at around 8pm.

Stupidly, I borrowed a friend's bridle because I forgot my own after cleaning it. I tried to ring her around 6pm to tell her what happened. I eventually got her at 9.30 (and joked that I was annoyed about her inturrupting Sherlock), told her I had a confession about the bridle. I then went on to tell her somewthing else and she cut me of. I tried to ring her again but no luck.

She rang me back at 10.30 and launched in to a rant about the bridle, saying she was very, very angry that I'd used it, that she will have to take her tack home now because she can' trust me, that it's just an awful thing to do, how it cost £80 and if it was damaged it she can't afford another. I told her I was really sorry and I had never done it before but that I genuinely couldn't remember why I'd done it at that point. She kept repeating how angry she was and I kept apologising and I said that if it was damaged I would replace it. I felt awful about it but I said I couldn't tell her the condition of the bridle because I didn't see it. She said I have to go up the yard first thing tomorrow and check it and if it's damaged, replace it by 4pm as she wants to ride (which I was a little Hmm at as she hasn't ridden him in weeks but whatever). I said that's fine, I'm really very sorry, I completely understand her anger etc. She didn't ask how either I or my horse are. She said that she accepted my apology but in an arsey tone and still kept on about how angry she is. She couldn't remember the make of her bridle so i don't actually know what to get.

In the end I told her I'd have to end the call because I was crying and really upset and in pain.

AIBU to think that she could have accepted my apology and been a little more caring, despite my enormous fuck up? I feel really shit, in so much pain and am very worried about my horse. I'm also panicking that I will lose my nerve and can't sleep. I have helped her with her horse a lot, have given her my first aid suff and given her ideas for her new farm. I just felt that she coulld have been a little more understanding when I was clearly very upset, although I get that she's annoyed. The girl who was with me when I fell off took the bridle off my horse and said it's ok, so I'm going to go up and clean her bridle then send her a picure to see if it's ok.

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muffinino82 · 17/01/2012 20:21

lolaflores
I AM LOVING THE HORSE TALK. I have loved horses from afar all my life. I can never own one. though I tell DH that the bottom line for a job offer is "can the wife have a pony". So jealous, though I knock getting thrown is not lovely. You take care and keep up the horsey talk up, I understand none of it but just love reading it.

Get thee to www.horseandhound.co.uk/forums

Runs before the addiction kicks in

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Backinthebox · 17/01/2012 21:39

Yes, I too would be more concerned about the horse and rider than the bridle. But I would never borrow a bridle without asking, ever. I've seen what people get like when someone borrows their hoofpick. It's just the way yards are.

muffinino82 · 17/01/2012 21:56

Yes, I too would be more concerned about the horse and rider than the bridle. But I would never borrow a bridle without asking, ever. I've seen what people get like when someone borrows their hoofpick. It's just the way yards are.

I didn't mean to imply that you would be more concerned about a bridle, sorry, I get what you're saying now.

Well, I learnt my lesson i.e. that I can't think that horsey people react in a normal way because we're all bonkers. I'm still pissed that she's more concerned about the bridle than either of us, but such is life. I've calmed down and am feeling relatively normal thanks to drugs and creams liberally applied by Alexander Grin

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northcountrygirl · 17/01/2012 23:06

I'm going back to my original post - she's after you for a new bridle. Cow Grin

muffinino82 · 18/01/2012 08:51

northcountrygirl - Maybe. I was a bit Hmm at the text which said 'any sign of my bridle', as if it had disappeared. Not quite sure why it was worded like that but there we are.

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Kenobi · 18/01/2012 13:36

I still stand by my statement that..

borrowing without permission = naughty.

Throwing a three-day shit-fit and not caring that a friend ended up in hospital = awful.

cuteboots · 18/01/2012 13:41

hope you are ok? Borrowing without permission not good but your friend sounds like a person you can do without.

muffinino82 · 18/01/2012 13:55

I still stand by my statement that..

borrowing without permission = naughty.

Throwing a three-day shit-fit and not caring that a friend ended up in hospital = awful.

Grin Shit fit. Just when I thought the drug/cream combo was working...

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muffinino82 · 18/01/2012 13:57

I'm not too bad, thanks, still sore but I've managed to find a good dosing routine that's keeping it to a minimum. Bit gutted as my instructor just text me to say she's stuck in traffic so may be late tonight, so I'm hoping it won't be too late/dark when she gets to see the horse.

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