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aibu to be dreading DH going on this work trip? :(

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MistyMountainHop · 10/01/2012 15:38

cant even be bothered to N/C. DH has got to go away for 2 nights soon (he'll have to stay over as its 200 miles away) for a "management conference"

for "conference" read: compulsory jolly piss up Hmm

his company is mostly male orientated especially the management and from what i have seen pretty anti-women. so basically its a big group of men all together drinking and acting like macho twats

when he went last year it was awful. i ended up at the hospital the first night he was away, as one of the dc came down with such a bad vomiting bug i just did not know what to do. i was on my own with a 4 yo and a very poorly 1 yo. was trying to ring him for about 2 hrs and he wasn't answering. i was frantic and ended up having to ring the hotel direct to ask someone to go and find him. when he finally came on the phone he was clearly hammered, i was furious with him and he couldn't see why.

i am pretty sure the reason he didn't pick up his phone is because he didnt want "all the guys" to rib him for answering his phone to his wife. he claims his phone was playing up and that was why he wasnt answering Hmm

and then, to add insult to injury, later that night / early hours of the morning as was so drunk he fell out of bed and cut his head so badly he had to be blue lighted to a&e. i have done some nurse training and i know he could well have died if one of his work mates hadnt found him unconscious and bleeding. i mean ffs this is a grown man who normally is the model father and husband. .

it was a week before we got married and i was so angry i honestly nearly called off the wedding :(

aibu to be dreading this one after last year. he knows i am worried and even said me him and the DC could book a hotel in the town where the conference is so he can sleep there with us, but i don't want to look like a control freak who won't even "let" her husband go away on his own for a night or 2.

sorry this is long.

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warthog · 16/01/2012 19:21

actually i DON'T think yabu.

you had an absolutely awful experience last time. Having to go to a&e in the night with a 4 yo in tow is awful. i don't blame you for being upset about him being bladdered.

i'm sure that he has also had a wakeup call though. that things can go badly wrong and he needs to be in some kind of semi-awake state.

i don't blame you for worrying, but i think you should let him go and see what happens. if you have a repeat of last year, you have a problem. otherwise it's all in the past and you've both moved on. i think it'll be the latter personally.

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