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To think that I now know why the bloody cats ended up in the cat home to begin with!?

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 19:53

We adpoted 2 Siamese brothers aged 6 about 9 months ago...LOVE them both...they're gorgous . BUT one of them keeps pissing on our bed and on DDs bed. He's a pissy panted little shithead and I am THIS close to handing him back!

He has been to the vet incase there was something wrong...no...all fine...he has been given a beautiful litter tray with door all of his own and has the best litter in it....his brother has his own tray too and has no problem going in it. Both trays are changed regularly.

Both of them eat the same food and have plenty of water...they have a daily constitutional in the garden and a lot of love. So why does the little urinator keep on pissing where he shouldn't??? I just bought a new duvet the other day and it's too big for the washing machine!

I have washed the pissy part with very hot water and bio stuff...and it now smells fine and is hanging over the radiator...WHAT CAN I DO???? I am asking here as the litter tray is full of people saying "Get Feliway"

No. I won't buy bloody Feliway....He's a mickey taking little craphead and I have spent enough money on his bladder. NO. AIBU to give him back? I cant and wont give hime back really but just need to vent and hope some advice comes my way.

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 20:59

cozie we always did let them sleep with us until the problem began....whomoved at least you can run the tap on it!

I will but the bloody Feliway...and ANOTHER tray and different litter...I will not let him n the bedroom but we were gong to get them a cat tree thing...they may like that.

Spoilt little shits.

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The3Bears · 09/01/2012 20:59

Our cat did this when she was younger i was so angry as in the end had to buy ds and us a new mattress and quilt so cost us a fortune.
Was nearly ready to give her back but took her to vets to make sure she was okay and the vet was very helpful and asked if we had another cat. We did but a couple of months before we got new kitten she had died so the new kitten was stressed out because she could smell a cat but couldnt find one so was marking her territory.
She also advised feliway and I got it from amazon and since then she has never done it again I still avoid letting her go in bedrooms but she has been in them since and has been fine.

The3Bears · 09/01/2012 21:00

Dont use bleach in the litter tray either to clean it as vet said it has same smell as cat wee in it or something and they will not use it.

PurplePidjin · 09/01/2012 21:00

Rescue Remedy is supposed to help cats, tiny drop in the water.

Make sure the trays are well away from each other. Just because its the most expensive litter doesn't make it the best. Mine like the £1.16 stuff from Sainsburys.

olgaga · 09/01/2012 21:05

I had a cat like this. Took it to the vet, who told me "No there's no hope when they're like this" and recommended putting her to sleep. Only cost a fiver. Those were the days!

Iscreamtea · 09/01/2012 21:12

Have a read of this information sheet which gives information about why cats do this and what you can do about it.

Read this for information about Feliway and how and why it works.

When you've tried all that, if you're still stuck, you could try a behaviour counsellor. Your vet can refer you to a member of the APBC who should be able to help you.

Alternatively you could just carry on as you are, keep dealing with pissy beds, and keep moaning about the cat.

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 21:22

Very good info thanks Iscreamtea But feeling a bit sad about it all...so may people saying it can't be cured! I can't get rid...I love him and feel that he's my responsibility.

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Iscreamtea · 09/01/2012 21:27

It can be cured but there's no magic wand. You need to read the information I've linked to above and if that's not enough help get a behaviour counsellor (an APBC member not just some random). I despair of vets saying nothing can be done. They really should know better!

Iscreamtea · 09/01/2012 21:28

That should be: read and act on the information...

Dee03 · 09/01/2012 21:38

Just looked on amazon for Feliway...going to give it a try!

wheredidyoulastseeit · 09/01/2012 21:47

We solved our cat wee problem by putting a litter tray over the exact spot the cat wee'd on. simples put the litter tray on your bed.

cozietoesie · 09/01/2012 21:48

Just so, Iscreamtea. They can be cured. You just have to ferret out what's wrong and sort it.

PurplePidjin · 09/01/2012 22:14

Of course it can be cured. Behaviour is just another form of communication. Work out what the cat is trying to tell you - food? water? sleep? pain? company? - and fix it.

Of course if he detests his brother, you might not like the solution...

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BandOMothers · 09/01/2012 22:59

wheredid but I'll have bits of litter in the sheets! And it seems wrong Somehow!

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BibiBlocksberg · 09/01/2012 23:45

I was googling this very topic last night! My house looks like it's being decorated at the moment - everything electrical is covered in protective blankets - or piss-guards as my friends now call them.

Fortunately mine hasn't yet progressed to the bed but the articles I was reading all said that spraying your bedding is a thing a cat does when it really loves you and just doesn't like being away from you.

The cat will spray where your smell is strongest in that case and the smell of it's spray helps it to feel more secure.

Apparently cats never do anything without a reason (be it their own strange reasoning) and some detective work and trying to see things through the cats eyes can have results as well.

Other tips include putting small bowls of dry food in the places where the spraying occurs as they won't urinate where they eat.

Finally, I use a spray which breaks down the enzymes in the cat piss so they're not attracted back to the area again (pets at home do a good one in a turquoise bottle, can't remember the name atm)

What made me laugh was, one of the articles said, kitty wouldn't spray your bed if she didn't love you so much - bit of a stinky back-handed compliment, that :)

TheCrunchUnderfoot · 10/01/2012 00:00

Sympathies. We also have a rescue Bengal who is the most eminently slappable cat ever to walk the earth. Not that we would of course, because the tragedy is that he too just wants to be loved. So much so that he follows you everywhere. Screams, howls, ululates like a possessed wolf if you leave him in another room. When he isn't pissing where he shouldn't, he is sicking up bits of unidentified bleurgh. Overgrooms himself bald (despite Feliway) - we've just moved house, so with the stress of that, he currently looks like a cross between a show poodle and an oddly clipped racehorse. Is so overcome with emotion when stroked or cuddled that he can't sit still on a lap like a normal cat, but has to get right in your face, dribbling, screaming and farting with pleasure, clawing manically all the time. It's not like having a cat, but a neurotic, needy, incapable dog. OP (and WMMC in particular) my heart goes out to you- the pedigrees are not like normal cats.

Good luck. You probably should rehome one, by the way- our pain in the ass has just one thing that he really can't stand, and that is other cats.

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 00:32

crunch I just laughed so much at your description of your Bengal dribbling, screaming and farting with pleasure! Mine are both a bit like that when you stroke them....I always say it cat's were bald and slimy we'd all be hunting the little monsters down instead of petting them and frettng over them!

But I am NOT rehoming my stinky little dear. I'll buy a new bed weekly before I do that.

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Mya2403 · 10/01/2012 00:32

Just send them back.

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 00:33

Oh and they are both sitting wrapped around each other on the armchair opposite me right now. They've had their mutual wash and their supper. They'll stay in the armchair together until I get up in the morning and then they'll go out for a sit on the trampoline...I couldn't bear to separate them!

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BandOMothers · 10/01/2012 00:34

NO! Mya Never. I will sort this out.

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Babaj · 10/01/2012 00:43

cleaning products have amonia in. you clean up wee, cat thinks some other bastard cat has marked its territory over it! hence the continual cycle of weeing and cleaning! get specialst products to clean it witth.

spiderslegs · 10/01/2012 01:01

I adopted two very sweet female cats a couple of months ago, last night I had a horrid turn when one of my 'sweet female cats' revealed a penis & violated the other for a good few hours.

DH & I argued the ethics of it because she wasn't happy, fast-forward 24 hours & the little queen I was defending was displaying all her wares on the kitchen table for her brother to enjoy.

I may never get over it.

Bogeyface · 10/01/2012 01:28

You may not Spider, especially when the kittens come along!

Did you not check if they were neutered?!

LineRunner · 10/01/2012 01:34

That's boaked me even more than the Mrs Brown's Boys thread that I contributed to spider. Nice.

Anyway, I'm another one who would buy shares in Feliway.

Methe · 10/01/2012 01:47

I can't believe anyone would keep a creature that shits in their bed.

I can't imagine anything more disgusting than sleeping anywhere a can had shit. Gross. Cat shit stinks!