AIBU to not make his dinner?

[honda123]

Should I make my partner dinner every day?

He works in the building trade and obviously has a very physical job, I made meatloaf but had not done any veg, he came home and threw a wobbly because I was watching a film on the laptop and he said that I should have the dinner ready for him.

Should I??

9 times out of 10 I have made dinner for him when he's working and I'm off.

Each time I have not cooked or the times I've cooked something simple like sausage sandwiches he has been furious and said that I am having a lend of him for not making a proper dinner.

Am I?

My response to him when he says this is that it's not a restaurant and while it is nice if your partner makes dinner it is not compulsory. And that it is not the 1950's!

So, am I being totally unreasonable to expect him to cook himself some veg when he get's home or even not have made dinner at all????

I'm absolutely stunned at some of the replies you've had here! I think some of the mumsnet posters must live in stepford...

My DH also works in construction and works more hours than me. Sometimes I cook for him, sometimes I don't. I also bring home an equal amount of money and I am not his "housewife".

Clearly I am also a lazy slattern. How does he put up with me?

Oh, and my DH woyuld be very happy to get meatloaf - with or without veg. It's not exactly beyond a man's capabilities to boil a pan of veg is it? Or at least it shouldn't be to a man who views marriage as an equal partnership.

In answer to the poster who asked about the turn of phrase he used, yes he is from Scotland

I wouldn't trust dh to cook. I had surgery and talked him through how to do the beef stew in the slow cooker. About 4pm asked what he was making with it and you could see the face thinking "what it just magically appears in the plate does it not?"

If he cooks it's simple like pasta, pizza, or he does do a good cooked brekkie.

But I tend to do most things.

If my partner spoke to me like that, as if I was some sort of skivvy who must obey his bidding, I'd make him dinner then tip it over his head. Or give it to the yard dogs, so as not to waste it.

I was recently made redundant from a 28hr PT job. DP works 40hrs. I cook most days (because I wouldn't really trust him near the cooker). If I can't be bothered to cook, we get a takeaway or go out and eat. I have never subscribed to the idea that I MUST ensure DP gets a cooked dinner every day.

I do all the shopping, and about 60-70% of the housework. we negotiate on a lot of stuff.