To be sick to fucking death of people assuming my daughter was an accident???

[Neuroticnatty]

There's 11 months between my 2 children and I am so fucking dick of people assuming we weren't careful or she must have been unwanted because there's only a small gap.
I actually had an old lady on the bus last week say to me " oh bless you, you're just one of the unlucky ones I guess, did you consider abortion? Having 2 so close together must be a living hell "
Ummm...no.
But having to sit next to such an ignorant bitch is.

I don't believe most of the "someone said x nasty thing to me" stories that I read on here tbh.

If this actually happened why on earth did you get off the bus? Why not just move seats?
It's incredible how much goes on 'on the buses'. Unbelievable.

I once had a woman have a go at me on a bus for bringing a doll in a pram and taking up the room - she was really layign into me because i was taking up room with my doll and pram.

Apart from the fact there was my 8 week old son in the pram clearly moving, making noise and not being a doll it would have been a good point. I assume she was mentally ill or something since i clearly did not have a doll and the driver had to ask her to leave the bus. Thats my only dramatic bus story though.

It's way way beyond something a complete stranger would say. Way beyond.

Immigrants and abortion how long is your bus ride? Did she refuse to give seat to a disabled person as well?

i love how these stories get more shocking when it is suggested the op may be stretching the truth :)

My friend has two children 11 months apart, and I've been with her when she's been subjected to the same sort of comment from strangers as the OP, although the actual word 'abortion' wasn't used, more of a "you must have thought long and hard about continuing with the pregnancy?"

My MIL in in the early stages of dementia, and I'm horrified by some of the statements she comes out with to total strangers now, completely out of her former character. She asked a young lad in a wheelchair if he was 'brain damaged' the other day, and asked a man with dwarfism in the supermarket if he had "lost his mummy"

So, the old lady's comment is completely feasible to me.

Oh bollocks OP, I don't believe you. Good try on adding the racist element though

My sister had two children within a year. She says she has never had any comments. But she seldom goes on the bus.
Hths

You people are very strange, maybe you don't on buses in south London much :-)
Cheers to the people that have also dealt with horrid people on the buses and to answer a question, I got off because I want going to argue with an old lady, but her comments were wi ding me up so I got off then and walked the last 5 stops.
I had been on the bus sitting next to her a good half hour before she noticed my newborn baby girl ( Phil and teds do you don't see the new baby u less you're looking or the baby cries! )

RealityNeedsANamechange - you weren't kicked off? given a lecture on public decency? tutted at?

I have two ds's 22 months apart and then a 9 year gap. I am so used to people saying "that must have been a shock" or "I bet you thought you were finished with all that" and even one "that's not your's is it?" however I have also had 3 strangers ask if they have the same father which I find very rude - thus I would believe anything. By the way he was planned!

I do love how people who have never experienced the oddities of other travellers assume the OP is lying!
I have only had a couple of odd experiences and one was definitely off-the-scale bizarre - on a tube train with my boyfriend, just holding hands and a bit of light kissing, no full-on snogging or anything - mad old lady over the other side of the carriage really went off her nut at us, calling me a dirty filthy little whore and my boyfriend disgusting - drawing attention to us throughout the carriage (even though we pretty much stopped doing anything the second we realised she was talking about us!) She ranted on for about 10 minutes until we worked out she wasn't going to stop so we got up and moved carriages. Very disturbed woman.

OP - YANBU to be fed up of random people assuming that it was an accident. It must be pretty annoying. Just get to the "smile and shake your head" stage and move away from the strange ones.

My friend has two with an 11 month gap. All I could think of was how the hell she felt like having sex so soon after the birth of her first. DH wasn't allowed anywhere near my poor shredded nethers for a long time.

I haven't been on a bus since I left school. :(

Some people like to make conversation but can be a bit tactless. Does it really matter?

And I don't understand why you call her (and others) 'ignorant' as though it's a tem of abuse. Of course we are all ignorant of the details of your personal life, except for those which you choose to disclose.