to find passive aggressive facebook statuses very annoying?

[HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer]

Someone on my friends list keeps doing very passive aggressive statuses. She normally uses Facebook as Brag Book, every status is about what they've got or bought, but at the moment she clearly has a bee in her bonnet about something. She is putting things like "I know who my real friends are" and "New Year's resolution is to ditch anyone that isn't a true friend", and various other things.

I just don't understand the mentality behind that kind of thing. It just makes everyone on your friends' list paranoid and makes you look childish IMO.

A lot of this stuff does annoy me too, but it makes me wonder if there's anything that is universally accepted in terms of facebook status updating? one person's trash is another person's treasure...

I know people who moan about others being boring by only posting about their kids, but then post stuff about what band they've just seen and how 'ace' it was or just post fecking song lyrics as a status, which I find mind numbing. I like hearing about people's kids :)

We all need to vent at times without a big issue being about it (which happens when you name and shame) so it doesn't bother me to see it. I don't do it though. I tend to just pull a person up if they're pissing me off.

What does bother me is people who post about how shit their life is when it's their own fault. Even worse when all their friends have a pity party for them.

I don't mind the ones about kids / pissed nights out / general moaning etc.

The 'I'm a mummy and I love my kids sooo much" winds me up. I also have a couple of childless FB friends who could do with a trip to AA, feel quite sorry for them . And the 'hunz', 'lolz and "I know who my real mates are ;o)" type crap drives me insane. But I don't delete them as I'm so judgy nosey.

My posts are general musings or stuff about the kids - yes, we all like to show how cute/talented they are, and I don't generally mind that as everyone does it. It's the posts demanding attention that are worse, the ones seeking reassurance (whilst drip-feeding the problem) or the "aren't I just wonderful" ones.

Yes my sil does this. Rants on about people but never says who it is. Trying to get attention very passive aggressive. If find it rather childish she is a grown up FFS.

I have a friend who does that. She is so annnoying-either bragging about going out drinking while her 'wonderful mum looks after her DD' or her shopping or gym trips (even though she lives off benefits and doesn't work) something stupidly passive aggressive like ' fakers are breakers' or she will be moaning about how hard her life is. Would delete her if we didn't have so many mutual friends!

I am also tempted to resurrect my FB page to have a look and see if I can find shitty status updates like this to scoff at.

I recognise a lot of my fb friends in the examples on this thread. I just block their status updates.

One girl I went to school with used to update her status about ten times a day. "Having a curry with my amazing hubby yay", "I have the best hubby in the world", "I have a headache", "I just went to the toilet". No one ever commented or liked her status.

Anyway....I blocked her. Since I did she's got pregnant and had a baby and I never congratulated her. I didn't see it because she's BLOCKED. Which means I didn't have to hear about every kick, every dose of heartburn and every basic thought that entered her mind for nine months.

Yay! :)

Ah, but you only have a few very discerning and classy friends on your fb friends list me Get0rf, so that won't happen.

I sometimes log on to fb and lament the lack of stuff to read/look at, and then I console myself with the fact that it is because my friends list is small and select and perfectly formed out of sane non-hysterical attention seeking childish people.

That's true, fellatio, I think I only had about 25 FB friends when I was last on there.

That's the way to do it though - stay exclusive and elusive.

Seriously, people who have fifty million 'friends', how can they possibly stay on top of all those inane updates? My DS2 Blackberry goes 'bling' every 4.9 seconds because some silly bint who he has never met wants to tell everyone her ex-boyfriend and her ex-best mate 'have just got off togevva and dey are both perfetic and good riddance da slag.'

Makes me be glad to be old, frankly.

I have a few friends like this "I feel like my world is going to collapse", "pissed off" "99% of people wont put this as their status blah blah blah" And those random secret female only ones "Im x weeks pregnant and craving Y" No I like to know the full story because Im a nosey cow

Whitetrash Sorry but Im one of these people who like to know whos deleted me (I dont mention it on facebook though) and I know someone has because I know how many friends I have got. If the number goes down then I know Ive lost a friend and I cant help but wanting to know who. Ive not lost anybody thats bothered me yet.

Loving the Vaguebook link. Tempted to link it to my facebook now with some sort of comment about how attention seeking these statuses are.

I have a minor friend who is not an fb friend though I have looked at her profile, as it is set to public. (odd in itself if you ask me.) She is a very nice, normal, intelligent woman who I get along great with, and I often think about sending her a friends request and I have wondered if she is on MN. (she strikes me as the type who might be.)

Imagine my horror when I saw, not once but TWICE the use of the word 'tonite' in her status updates.

I felt a bit bereft, disorientated, and all at sea, like I could no longer discern who was worthy of me, and who wasn't.

Surely the whole point of fb is to attention seek

But then I only have people on my fb that I actually like ,not any old random

Oh yes, I have a person like that. "Thanks everyone for dumping me when I just split up with Chelseee (or whatever she's called)" etc etc etc

He also changes his relationship status daily.

I have hidden him, but still check it occasionally, because if I'm not immediately confronted with it, it makes me laugh.

no, me neither. I have no compucntion in just ignoring requests from randomers. (not that I am inundated with them, frankly, such is my exclusive/elusiveness.)

Oh Fella, I loved this:

"They should only ever be vague, non-committal, upbeat jolly things designed to entertain or inform in the most inoffensive way."

So much so that, tonite, I have just bastardised it into my status.

I can't delete the people who do this. I really can't. I'm too nosy and love watching the drama unfold...

Really need to get out more!

My Mum doesn't really understand Facebook. At least, I hope she doesn't. She's just posted a long reply to a friend who wished her a happy Christmas, detailing how she has been running around after other people all xmas and she's glad it's all over. I must say, I hadn't considered just how taxing coming to my house and not lifting a finger/eating, drinking and making merry/falling asleep in front of the telly would be. The poor love. I will make sure I don't put her though the same ordeal next year...!

Deleted some vaguely racist status updates, also people who write constantly about their children (as in five time plus a day). But the piece de resistance has to be a for er colleague who posts endless status updates about her bloody daughter and husband.

"on train on way home for snuggles with lovely [daughter's initials, let's call her AMY for arguments sake/cutesy nickname, let's call her Poomats]"

"just 33 more days to mummy and AMY go to Peppa Pig World, mummy is more exited than Poomats"

"mummy and Poomats making cookies and having lovely snuggles"

"what time will AMY be a night time visitor to Mummy and Daddy's bed tonight" followed by picture if child asleep in her bed

It is truly sickmaking. Largely because my status would say "blasted children and I tried to make cookies, they chucked the flour around and I ate all the cookie dough. on way home from work, savouring chance to read book actually. If said children come into my bed at night they will be promptly escorted back to their own bed at muchly"

Maybe she is just a nicer person than me. Still makes me want to hurl though.

Almost as irritating as "if you don't re post this you are in favour of child abuse"(actually, no) and posting names of alleged offenders, am not in favour of vigilantes.

Oo I feel all angry now :)

She sounds like a prick, dump her.

I don't get why people send you friend requests and then never write to you or comment on your stuff. I have just had a bit of a facebook clearout, one particular person was doing my head in, someone I was at school with who rited in txt spk all the time lolz and every status was about how much she loves her kids, how much they are being little shits today or how much she is going to drink tonight/drank last night.

Oh, I hate those kind of statuses. 'I'm really pissed off right now, and could really kill someone...you know who you are, Back stabbing traitor..' etc etc. If you have a problem with someone, why not say it to their face?! Not drag the world and their dog into it via facebook...
Same goes for 'so upset'. No elaboration. Then they sit back and wait for someone to say 'What's up hun?' then they come back on and say 'can't say on here. message me.'
Well why say it on there in the first bleedin' place then?! Attention seeking saddos.
As for those who put copy and paste type statuses up and nothing else, they're annoying as well.
'Post this to your status if you miss someone who is no longer alive. If you don't then you obviously don't miss them enough...' blah blah.
Have you nothing better and more original to post?! They're the modern day equivalent of chain letters - 'post this letter 10 times to other people or you'll vanish into a puff of smoke and a curse, yes a curse will be put among all your houses!'