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to find passive aggressive facebook statuses very annoying?

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HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 28/12/2011 09:36

Someone on my friends list keeps doing very passive aggressive statuses. She normally uses Facebook as Brag Book, every status is about what they've got or bought, but at the moment she clearly has a bee in her bonnet about something. She is putting things like "I know who my real friends are" and "New Year's resolution is to ditch anyone that isn't a true friend", and various other things.

I just don't understand the mentality behind that kind of thing. It just makes everyone on your friends' list paranoid and makes you look childish IMO.

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NorksAkimbo · 28/12/2011 10:21

I just deleted someone like this...everything she posts is just judgemental nonsense...usually aimed at what she deems to be 'bad parenting'. Within SECONDS of deleting her, she sent me a friend request!! (I've blocked her now)

I live far away from friends and family, so FB does keep me in the loop, but I really struggle to keep my account open sometimes...it drives me wild.

TooEasilyTempted · 28/12/2011 10:21

Re her status about a friends cull for 2012, go on and comment.. "let me save you the trouble" and delete her first.

Anniegetyourgun · 28/12/2011 10:26

Facebook is evil.

That is all.

FanjoForTheReindeerJumper · 28/12/2011 10:30

yANBu..and what really annoys me is when people join passive aggressive groups called things like 'I hate when noone answers my PA status update'

mrsmaltesers · 28/12/2011 10:32

Those messages realllllllllllllllllly get on my tits. A friend of mine does a "i am so happy". So we have to ask why. Like i give a shit. Or the "my night out was so fantastic ... Here are 38 photos of it". Gosh. A night out in a pub. Who'd've thought of doing that???

Unfriend them. For total inner peace block ,em too. Miaow.

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HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 28/12/2011 10:33

The one on my list even did a status when she'd been to see the school play saying "most" children in it were great. My DD was in it

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 28/12/2011 10:33

I love them. One of the best things about Facebook.

But I suppose that means that I am not in the 'in crowd' on MNs. Oh well.

(see what I did there?)

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HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 28/12/2011 10:33

haha mrsmalteasers, some people are just attention seeking aren't they?

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 28/12/2011 10:35

I have a couple of people on my lists who ONLY ever post things like

'o no, dreading 2morow'

Cue hundreds of posts saying 'hun are u ok?' and they NEVER get back.

I also love the ones that reply with 'o hun u no u can always talk to me, inbox me babe' translate that into 'I really want to know what you are taking about AND look like a really nice person'

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HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 28/12/2011 10:38

LOL MrsDeVere, yep I've noticed a fair few of those sorts of things on FB too. I think some people a) never grow up and b) are attention seeking twats, and FB brings out the worst in them

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MistyMountainHop · 28/12/2011 10:39

oh shit are you facebook friends with me OP :o

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ArosstheUniverse · 28/12/2011 10:47

Yes, the 'what's wrong hun?' posts drive me insane. I have a couple who do this all the time- one is a teenager, the other a teacher in her 30's, always bloody moaning but never saying exactly what's wrong. I admit to keeping one or two on there for comedy value.

I also dislike the "I am soooo happy!!! My life is soooo amazing, I love my life!!! I have just been to the gym and feel soooooo refreshed and have soooo much energy!! I have done blah blah blah today, I am supermum!!" posts. All of this from the same person, and with a trillion exclamation marks Hmm

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HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 28/12/2011 10:50

ArosstheUniverse, how funny, the woman I've been talking about also does the "I've been to the gym, made soup, rearranged the kids bedrooms and been to the moon and back" type posts too. If she's not getting any reaction from people about her statuses she will post something like "Off to spinning to blast away those extra pounds" so everyone says "you don't need to lose any weight you have a lovely figure".

Actually it makes me laugh how some facebookers are taken in by those sorts of statuses and actually waste time replying to them!

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namechangerbat · 28/12/2011 10:50

Also, photos of Christmas trees laden with presents under - because my little brats little darlings deserve it after the year they've had Hmm

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HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 28/12/2011 10:51

And then 10 thousand photos of their kids opening the presents. Makes it look like the parent didn't actually spend any time watching their child open everything and just snapped away with the camera so they can boast on FB..

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 28/12/2011 10:52

I have a really lovely friend but if I didnt know her I would be very Hmm at her posts. She is always going on about her family and how happy she is and blah blah.

BUT she properly means it. She isnt boasting she is just genuinely happy with her lot.

I do have remind myself of that when she posts yet another 'my kids are so wonderful and happy with all the stuff I have just bought them' status.

Sometimes I think I shoud let her know how they come across but why should she change them just cos most of us are cynical old caaaaahs? Grin

happynew2012 · 28/12/2011 10:56

There was one funny moment when a school mum bragged that her child had won a race at sports day, then she hilariously put it was because he was running with all the duff runners
Well of course i knew my child was in the very same race
Hmm charmed, I'm sure....

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HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 28/12/2011 10:59

MrsDeVere, yep I have a friend like that on my list too; like your friend, I think she is just really happy with her lot but she comes across as very smug. also she never comments on anyone else's photos and just wants everyone to fawn over hers.

happynew, that's really mean of the school mum to put that. she sounds awful

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waitingforgodot · 28/12/2011 11:00

I have a theory that the more crap you put on facebook about how your life is wonderful, the more you are trying to convince yourself.
I am a cynical old hag though.

namechangerbat · 28/12/2011 11:00

I just checked one persons profile to see what new wonders are on there that I ha previously ignored

She's shacked up with a new bloke she met online that's Married (she also had a baby with a different married man last year) her status is "I am so happy wiv the amazin *** hes jus so perfect and guess what hunny he's all mine mine mine now"

Think I need to delete her. What a wanker.

Hassled · 28/12/2011 11:00

Family member has as her status: "Don't piss off your family. They know too much".

It's not aimed at me - it's aimed at someone else and is a long complicated story none of which is really her business. It's just embarrassing, tbh - makes her look like a dick.

waitingforgodot · 28/12/2011 11:01

oh, another thing. I bloody can't stand the posts "if you love your kids more than you love life itself" blah blah.
It goes without saying that you love your kids so why do you need to post it on facebook

usualsuspect · 28/12/2011 11:02

I dunno why people moan about how other people use their fb

I expect all of you write witty and intelligent statuses

namechangerbat · 28/12/2011 11:04

Usualsus - I don't update my status. Why would I want to update people to my life and why would any one want to know?

usualsuspect · 28/12/2011 11:06

Well ,there you go ,you use it how you want to ,other people use it how they want to

There are no fb rules