to find passive aggressive facebook statuses very annoying?

[HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer]

Someone on my friends list keeps doing very passive aggressive statuses. She normally uses Facebook as Brag Book, every status is about what they've got or bought, but at the moment she clearly has a bee in her bonnet about something. She is putting things like "I know who my real friends are" and "New Year's resolution is to ditch anyone that isn't a true friend", and various other things.

I just don't understand the mentality behind that kind of thing. It just makes everyone on your friends' list paranoid and makes you look childish IMO.

Disclaimer: I can fogie the odd heartfelt comment if someone has just buried a loved-one or something, but not to be used for petty point-scoring, family arguments, or venting about relationships.

forgive, not fogie!

I too hate that "mummies" status. The person on my list that posts it also posts long lists every day about what housework she has done, and endless photos of homemade soups and casseroles!

I totally agree, Fellatio

Do we have the same friends?eleventy-one!1!1

Bloody photos of pies, and "today I ate [posh recipe]" statuses are interspersed with "Today I found out who my REAL friends are. You know who you are..." statuses.

The joy of Vaguebooking

Agree with everything Fellatio said.

I think there are a handful of stereotypical FB nuts that are on everyone's friends lists!

I hate these kind of silly statuses too. Recently, my friends 2yr old was ill, (I knew nothing about it) and I hadn't been on her facebook profile in a good week or so (I tend to ignore her statuses as they are all things like X just did her 5th wee on the potty today! Y was up at 6 this morning, I'm a very tired mummy! I love my X and Y more than the world! I'm watching Cbeebies with my X and Y they are the best kids in the world etc etc all of these about 5 times a day).
Anyhow, I went on her profile to see that all her statuses the last week had been "Its sad to see my little X so poorly, but its even sadder to see how many people couldn't give a shit. I know who my real friends are." "Little X is a bit better today, for those of you who care about her" and then "I can't believe that so many people say they are your friends and when you have a poorly little one, they don't even bat an eye for her. I am going to delete all those fake friends out of my life etc etc" and even "There' more to life than Christmas shopping people. My poorly little X, mummy and daddy and the people that matter love you.

I was horrified, and immediately thought the worse - that her little one was very very ill with a serious illness. I texted her her asking if everyone was ok, and she replied "yeah we are good thanks hun". I then rang her to find out what the heck was going on, she told me that her little one had come down with a stomach bug a earlier in the week but was back to her old self now.

SERIOUSLY!?! Attention seeking.

Happy, how infuriating

I think people like being a mini-celeb on fb.

You've all described half my FB friend list! The only reason I keep some of them on is the mild entertainment from the sheer ridiculousness of their updates. I have a friend who tells everyone every single day what she's having for tea; one who updates us all on her aches, pains and niggles every single bloody day (it amazes me how many people think we all need to know about their sniffles, colds and headaches!); and one old work colleague who posts the cryptic 'pity me' statuses which are blatantly fishing for sympathy. Then there are the 'oh my goodness, I've eaten a chocolate bar today, I can feel myself getting fatter already' statuses inevitably accompanied by the 'oh hun you don't need to worry, you're so slim and pretty' replies. The worst one though is a friend who occasionally posts thinly-veiled attacks on her husband's ex-wife (and the mother of his children) - and the worst bit is when her husband joins in and they have a massive bitch-fest about her including criticising her weight and appearance. She may be causing problems but surely there's such a thing as remaining dignified in public? I must admit I'm guilty of the odd 'isn't my child funny and wonderful' posts, and do put up pictures of my knitting projects and birthday cakes though, so maybe people roll their eyes at my posts too! I sometimes think I should just give it up as it annoys me so much, but it kept me entertained during night feeds with DC1 so I'll see if it does the same this time!

God I love Facebook for all the pa, mad threads. I am friends with a bloke a really really fancied when we were 17. I thought about him over the intervening 20 years (not in an obsessive way) and discovered his Facebook recently he turned out to be a total cock. My ex who left me with a mortgage I couldn't pay and a need for Prozac has married a woman with grey hair and a rubbery face who looks like she might even smell. I love Facebook!

I still don't get what Facebook is actually for. I post almost nothing, ditto most of my friends.

I have one friend though who makes absolutely sure everyone knows if she or either of her children have been invited somewhere. I think she is a little bit desperate to prove how popular she is.

OP: I would comment (re. the friends cull from your p/a friend) "oooh, yes, good idea, am going to have a cull too" and then quite simply delete her! Job done and no more annoyances for you.

Facebook does nothing but make me realise how lonely I am. I would delete myself from it if it weren't for the fact that I have relatives on there who enjoy seeing the photos I put up of my kids.

Hate the site.

Another thing, the status that says "Someones deleted me, need to figure out who."

How can you tell?! And why would you want to know?! Couldnt guve a hoot if Im hidden or deleted. My hidden list is as long as a donkeys doo dah, its only fair that some might hide me.

whitetrash I could have written your post :o i used to be 'friends' with a group of ladies who were obsessive, to say the least, about how many people were on their list and who had deleted them, then they made it their lifes work to discovere who had deleted them, why, get them readded, then bully them into submission before deleting them themselves.

Weirdos on a power trip springs to mind!

That IS weird!

My fb frienda a relatively tame. But then, I have had to delete a lot of wankers. Most of them girls from school who, despite being grown up married with children, still act like bitchy school girls.

Hilarious to watch, til I got bored and deleted all of them as it really does take over the news feed.

Some people use FB as a "tool" to get at others; I had a minor disagreement with someone I met on a mums club message board, who I'd known for years and we were FB friends. After the disagreement (not an argument, we just had differing opinions on something, there was no rudeness or nastiness), she never commented on my statuses or photos again and if I did on hers, she would make a point of replying to everyone else one by one but ignoring what I'd said. So I deleted her. I'd far rather she had private messaged me on there and told me what I'd done to upset her than go about it in a passive aggressive way. I think there are quite a few people that are just odd!

They're pathetic! and the idiots who reply "oh no what's up hun, screw them you're fab" are worse! whenever I see these from anyone over 20 I hide or delete.

God! how did I end up knowing women like that? Motherhood is a good social leveller, but with that it has brought an influx of that rubbish to my news feed - makes me realise what quality friends I have in my pre-baby bunch sometimes!

There are many times when I just think "Fuck It, who needs Facebook?" because there's so much shyte all over it and it gets so viperous. But actually, it still remains a very useful way of easily keeping in touch with currently absent family members.

I now block all the apps and delete the people who post racist crap or other nonsensical bollocks that come with the request "repost if you agree". Which cuts down some of the shyte. But the astonishing status updates still continue to astonish.

I've always posted very non-commital status updates - when I bother at all - but do find myself in a state of horrified fascination about the streams of trouble-making consciousness that I read on a daily basis.

One person clearly has a huge problem with me ever since she discovered that I held different opinions on a political issue, these opinions being aired away from Facebook. Now her disagreement with me is not unusual because her life on Facebook is a series of conflicts that would put the Arab Spring in the shade. But unfortunately (since she clearly wants me to bite back with a vengeance) I don't use Facebook to have public arguments and have thus ignored her remarks. She found this so infuriating that she ranted away good and proper (and quite out of context) until a genuine friend of mine lost patience and told her to shut up and stop making an arse of herself. Since then I have been most amused by the pointed comments contained in status updates that are clearly aimed in my direction. But like all Facebook warriors, she's a complete coward. As it is, I rather think that all this aggression will eventually explode and take Arsebitch Facebook down with it. Which may do us all a favour, tbh.

I have been following the build up to Christmas on some friends fb. Every present, every single decoration, every tradition and dvd,panto etc they have been to, how excited and happy the kids are going to be...

Now I have seen several 'i dont know why I bother the kids are little shits'
'not doing Xmas next year no one bloody cares i HATE It'

from the very same people...hmmmm

I also have to laugh when someone posts 'right, really going to stop messing about and sort my life out. Got some real work to do and NOW is the time'

Turns out what they are actually doing is deleted some people off their friends list, unsubscribing to some pages and emptying their inbox

Yup its the same people who do the pukey "to my wonderul husband, thank you for making me a cup of tea" and "im so lucky to have such perfect children" who also post the "why do I bother?, some people need to appreciate what others do" rubbish!

Why do people reply? there's always some fools who serve up the attention on a plate with their "oh hope you're okay you're amazing don't let anyone tell you otherwise" and shockingly they're meant to be adults!

Sounds a bit like MN to me