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To be scathing about the woman who spent 3months upside down

111 replies

lildeg · 21/12/2011 11:32

she stayed in a hospital bed with her legs in the air for 3 months so she didn't miscarry.
Is it just me who thinks the NHS have mugged her off with an old wives tale and there's not really anything you can do to prevent it if it's going to happen?
Xmas Hmm I dunno, but it just seems a mahoosive drain on resources.

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bemybebe · 21/12/2011 12:34

lildeg
you sound unbelievably ignorant if you think the only true treatment can be delivered with a 'machine that goes "beep"
i would be keeping very quiet if i were you

TandB · 21/12/2011 12:37

YABVU

My friend was told that if she went into labour before a planned c-section for a problem with her third baby, she had to get herself as close to upside down as she could manage and let gravity help keep the baby in.

I had a rapid first delivery and have been given similar, although less drastic advice, about slowing things down while the midwives get to me.

How spiteful to be "scathing" about someone doing everything she could to keep her baby alive.

bemybebe · 21/12/2011 12:37

incidentally, i always thought that in the uk the medical profession has very little interest to preserve a pregnancy. women are usually left to their own devices because "nothing can be done"
in my experience of other western european countries a lot more efforts are put into prevention of late miscarriages, which are rarely caused by genetic abnormalities, but more often by infections and cervical incompetence.

CailinDana · 21/12/2011 12:37

Ok, OP, rather than getting annoyed I'm going to assume you're a bit slow on the uptake and explain. When you go into labour your uterus contracts and puts pressure on the cervix which is what stimulates it to open. This lady had an incompetent cervix which means that just the pressure of gravity pulling down on the baby is enough to make her cervix open, causing the waters to break and the baby to be born early. Lying with her legs elevated meant that gravity wasn't working on the baby and the pressure on her cervix was eased, allowing the baby to stay there longer and have more chance of survival.

It's so easy to understand I would expect a child to get it, but clearly you've missed something. Is it more obvious to you now?

WhingingNinja · 21/12/2011 12:38

I don't know this story but i would say that if she had had prior miscarriages and had been worried with her pregnancy, she would do whatever the doctors told her to do. be that stand on her head whilst a cactus grew from her arse, or plain old bed rest.

Not everyone is as superiorly medically trained as you OP.

MarthasHarbour · 21/12/2011 12:40

i rarely do this but have my first Biscuit in a while

the medical treatment was 'tripe' really? Hmm

GandTiceandaSprout · 21/12/2011 12:41

Bloody hell OP. YABU.

scuzy · 21/12/2011 12:43

OP did you even read the article? its was a simple but very effective solution to her medical condition of a very weak cervix (worst doctor had ever seen from what i read) and thankfully it worked.

i wish them a happy xmas and good health for their little one.

even if it didnt work do you think it was a waste of time or a drain of resources as you put it to not even try to save the child's life?

JambalayaWarmMincePie · 21/12/2011 12:44

YABStupid

Biscuit
Moominsarescary · 21/12/2011 12:45

bemy I think your right, when I arrived at the hospital I was only 2 cm dialated and the waters were back inside my uterus, they then left me for 5 hours by which point my waters were bulging through the cervix and I was 5-6 cm dialated at which point they said there was nothing they could do

I saw my own consultant the next day who was willing to try a stitch anyway, I do wander if things would have been different if they had put the stitch in straight away at 2 cm. I did get the impression from the first consultant that she had very little interest in preserving the pg.

BlatherskitesInFairyLights · 21/12/2011 12:49

What Jambalaya said...

MmeReindor · 21/12/2011 12:49

FFS

She had miscarriages at 19 and 23 weeks before this and you feel that it is acceptable to slate her for lying with her legs in the air for three months?

YABVVU

I am appalled at you, OP.

GooKingWenceslas · 21/12/2011 12:50

Gravity is real. Brian Cox told me so.

YABU.

fergoose · 21/12/2011 12:51

I admire her - must have been bloody awful being stuck like that - poor woman.

I don't begrudge her a penny of the money it cost to keep her in hospital to be honest.

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 21/12/2011 12:53

Did you actually read and understand the story, OP?

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 21/12/2011 12:54

She was at risk not from an "ordinary" miscarriage but because her cervix was unable to hold the baby in. Thus, not having the baby pressing on the cervix worked.

Not rocket science is it?

hester · 21/12/2011 12:56

OP, I think you're not quite getting the distinction. You are right that IN GENERAL bed rest does not prevent miscarriage. But this is a specific case of incompetent cervix.

I have a friend who has a uterine abnormality - she has no cervix (just a hole). She had to spend the whole of her pregnancy on complete bedrest, with a cervical stitch. It was a really ghastly experience for her (can you imagine? The boredom, the anxiety, the bedsores...). But it worked.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 21/12/2011 12:57

YABU - 3 months in bed but a lifetime of happiness from her new child!

Plus, she may have given birth to the new prime minister..........medical science genius.........

what a ridiculous thread, dont suppose she had a complete ball being laid up for all that time!

drcrab · 21/12/2011 12:58

I rarely post on such silly threads but op you are being VVU.

I had placenta preavia and had contractions at 30 weeks, was rushed to hospital when they discovered that. Was immediately signed off work (and consultants wanted to admit me for 9 weeks of bedrest). I didn't want to be in bedrest in the hospital so had 'bedrest' at home. Thankfully DS arrived via elective c-section at 39 weeks but we were on tenterhooks (and all this happened just before Christmas!).

Have a Biscuit. Angry

Snowboarder · 21/12/2011 12:59

Yes YABU, sounds like you know nothing at all about it OP.

Here's a Biscuit from someone who does have an incompetent cervix and clearly knows a bit more about it than you.

LoopyLoopsWoopDeWoops · 21/12/2011 12:59

FFS you vile, vile creature. Angry

gettingalifenow · 21/12/2011 13:00

This is a lovely heart warming story of a dedicated mother and family and this thread is all wrong.

We should be rejoicing with her that her baby is fit and healthy and glad that her beautiful baby was given a chance.

Bad form, OP

loopylou6 · 21/12/2011 13:00

Yabvu op. my mum had to do the very same thing whilst pregnant with me.

snuffaluffagus · 21/12/2011 13:00

God what a strange thread. It must have been HORRIBLE for this poor woman after two losses.. and then spending 3 months in a bed at that angle?

What an odd thing to post.