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To be scathing about the woman who spent 3months upside down

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lildeg · 21/12/2011 11:32

she stayed in a hospital bed with her legs in the air for 3 months so she didn't miscarry.
Is it just me who thinks the NHS have mugged her off with an old wives tale and there's not really anything you can do to prevent it if it's going to happen?
Xmas Hmm I dunno, but it just seems a mahoosive drain on resources.

OP posts:
OriginalJamie · 21/12/2011 11:44

and, erm, it did prevent it.

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lildeg · 21/12/2011 11:45

Ok I have been unreasonable in my wording, I do not begrudge mum taking the treatment and the bed as obviously you would do whatever was recommended. The story was on the itv news headlines and had a happy ending :).

I'm just dubious about the treatment, I'd always presumed the legs in the air advice was tripe. Maybe doctors will now start prescribing a lick of a toad for a cold.

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characidae · 21/12/2011 11:46

She has an incompetent cervix (i.e. not your typical first trimester fetal demise & miscarriage) ... I don't think there is a whole lot of evidence to support that particular treatment but it is widely used in the USA where typically they are far more aggressive at trying to prevent mid-trimester losses. I've also had unproven medical treatment from the NHS - from a tertiary referral team - and I now have 4 healthy children after 6 pregnancy losses including two late losses.

But yeah I'm sure you know far more about it that her medical team do & the NHS are just falling over themselves to accommodate people & their random plans Hmm

t0lk13n · 21/12/2011 11:46

I spent 7 weeks in hospital due to placenta praevia from 27 wks to 34 wks because if I had been sent home and I haemorraged [sp] I could have died before the ambulance got there so although not 'ill' in the conventional way, I needed to be hospitalised as so probably was this woman....both of us now have healthy babies - My DS is now 16.

Liluri · 21/12/2011 11:46

If she was "mugged off with an old wives tale", I expect she was thrilled it was one that seemingly worked a treat.

I'm also taking a huge leap of faith here, and assuming that the medical staff had more pertinent patient information, training and experience at their finger tips than the OP.

KatAndKit · 21/12/2011 11:46

Loads of people get hospitalised for one reason or another during pregnancy and plenty of people get put on bed rest too. I'm glad this did the trick for her.
Obviously it does not mean that women in general should spend the first three months of their pregnancy upside down. Clearly this is a special case. But you are being extremely unreasonable to suggest that this mother being safely delivered of a healthy baby was a drain on NHS resources. What a horrible thing to say.

youngwomanwholivesinashoe · 21/12/2011 11:46

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Kayano · 21/12/2011 11:47

Sarcasm really doesn't help you OP. Just makes you look worse

OriginalJamie · 21/12/2011 11:47

I think it's entirely logical, from a purely logical point of view, that if your cervix is weak, then you don't put too much downward pressure on it. But I'm no expert.

NinkyNonker · 21/12/2011 11:48

Her treatment seems totally logical to me, unlike licking a toad ffs.

You don't really sound very pleasant.

maddening · 21/12/2011 11:48

No, your wording didn't change the way you came accross - still ignorant but now determindly so

MilkNoSugarPlease · 21/12/2011 11:51

Jesus OP.

YABVVU

CailinDana · 21/12/2011 11:51

Lildeg you're an idiot.

CailinDana · 21/12/2011 11:52

Do you seriously not understand how gravity works?

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 21/12/2011 11:52

Ewwwwww, scathing of a woman desperate for her baby to live ??

Yabvvu.

TheScaryJessie · 21/12/2011 12:00

Ah, I think I see the problem here. You're under the impression that all miscarriages and stillbirths are unexplained and unpreventable.

This is not the case.

FreudianSlipper · 21/12/2011 12:08

op what a horrible way to think through doing this she now has a healthy baby can you really put a price on that

do a little reserach and direct your anger at where the money really is wasted and that is never by saving a life or treating a women so she is able to have a baby

MamaMaiasaura · 21/12/2011 12:09

YABU

blackoutthexmaslights · 21/12/2011 12:20

YABU have you read the story?

my sister is friends with the family, the woman was admitted due to the baby being far too down, her waters broke at 28 weeks and gave birth at 34 weeks.

she had to stay in the bad like that 24/7. she couldn't even sit up to eat!!!

Moominsarescary · 21/12/2011 12:24

I have incompetent cervix and last a baby in sep at 20 weeks, what is wrong with you? Tilting the bad takes the weight off the cervix which helps stop it opening further. If the stitch was failing the best place for her was in hospital being monitored as the stitch can easily tear through the cervix

NanAstley · 21/12/2011 12:25

What a vile thread! And I very rarely pop up on a thread to say that (if I dislike a thread, I just hide it) but I think this really has to be said.

Have you even read the article OP? It was not something she was advised to do based on old wives' tales. There is solid science and logic behind it...even someone with no medical training whatsoever can see that.

I have had a late miscarriage. It is devastating. To carry a healthy baby for months, and then have it die because your own body is incompetent is the worst thing imaginable...the feeling of guilt is suffocating. I applaud her for doing something so very very hard (please try lying down on your back for weeks on end with your legs held up and see how you like it) to have her healthy baby.

Moominsarescary · 21/12/2011 12:25

Blinking phone, lost and bed

Oggy · 21/12/2011 12:27

OK now I have read the article I think you are even more unreasonable. I hadn't realised these were late miscarriages due to incompetant cervix. This does seem to make total sense.

Moominsarescary · 21/12/2011 12:30

And agree with nan try carrying a health baby for half the pregnancy only to loose him due to your own body and see how much guilt that brings, I'd have layed in a bed for 6 months if it would have helped but in my circumstances it wouldn't have.

mablemurple · 21/12/2011 12:33

I'm just dubious about the treatment...

err, it worked. Why are you dubious?