Christmas Birthday, not the child's fault

[Angelswings]

Please help me get a perspective on this, I'm feeling really angry and want to know if IABU to feel this way

Child A, Let's call him Harry, has a Christmas eve birthday and his mum is throwing a party on Friday with a sleepover till Saturday (the birthday). My son is going.

Child B, let's call him Ben has also been invited but is not allowed to go as it's to near to christmas, even though Bens family is not going away for christmas.

Harry was in a bad car crash last December and spent 10 days in hospital with a serious head injury. Harry was in hospital for his 8th birthday as well as Christmas.

Is Ben's mum being rather selfish? Harry really wants Ben to be there.

I want to ask her how she would feel if one of her children had a Christmas birthday and they really wanted a special party after such a bad time last year.

AIBU

Unless they are doing something specific I don't really see why he can't go. Perfect opportunity to wrap presents/make sausage rolls etc!

Indith- well yes plenty have parties on a school day, but you are right theycertainly don't have to be and often aren't on the child's actual birthday.

My daughter is 8 and it takes a couple of days to recover from a sleep over as she gets so tired! I'd be really wary about a sleepover the tight before something important.

Going to the party but not the sleepover seems a sensible compromise.

Sorry but yabu, my Ds has his birthday on Christmas Eve, but I would never plan a party for then as its a family day, all the excitement leading up to Christmas day.

He is having his party on 29th this year.