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AIBU?

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AIBu ......I probably am but I'm angry

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CreamolaFoamless · 16/12/2011 18:28

Eldest son;s girlfriend is living here .

She put £35 in to my bank account this month because £5 was apparently deducted (according to my son) because I didn't get her shopping one week

I did get her shopping

I'm livid and want to tell them both just 'fuck of and fend for yourselves'

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GypsyMoth · 16/12/2011 18:48

£75 for 4 months????

tethersjinglebellend · 16/12/2011 18:50

If she wants to do things by the book, take her lead.

Can you take a photo of her face when you present her with the bill?

Bohica · 16/12/2011 18:52

Tell her she is an infestation mare and show her your weekly budget.

So rude of her to deduct £5 without discussing it first

newbiedoobiedoo · 16/12/2011 18:54

Oh my God! Kick her selfish arse out of your house! Why is she living there??

fivegomadindorset · 16/12/2011 18:56

I second an itemised bill.

RaraGigglePixie · 16/12/2011 18:57

Get her out if your house. Cheeky cow.

Where are her parents? Does she think they'll let her and your son live with them for not even £10 a week?

sitandnatter · 16/12/2011 19:00

Show her this thread. Wake up call moment coming on for the selfish teen.

Kick her ass out see if her parents will let your son stop with them for £40 a month!

GypsyMoth · 16/12/2011 19:00

Why have you let her get away with being there 4 months and paying one month, and then another partial, month?

Why have you nit pulled her up about the 2 missing months?

You are enabling this, so have little right to moan about it imo

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CreamolaFoamless · 16/12/2011 19:02

because she is evil ...well she's not but she sure feels evil this evening

I am just so annoyed at my son , and his girlfriend but more so my son .

I seriously want to tell them to leave however I'm aware that the 'issue' has been created by the girlfriend' and half my head is saying 'Don't act like an evil stepmother' and the other half just wants to her 'get out' of my house@

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laptopdancer · 16/12/2011 19:04

Evil stepmother or evil MIL?

lifechanger · 16/12/2011 19:06

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cheesesarnie · 16/12/2011 19:06

why cant she do her own shopping?
you seriously are being made a fool of!

Bohica · 16/12/2011 19:07

Then tell her. She is either taking the piss or doesn't understand how expensive living is.

I love how my ipad auto corrected ungrateful into infestation!

felicitywits · 16/12/2011 19:09

You sound lovely OP. I'm so sorry you're being taken advantage of.

IMO, you only have a responsibility to support YOUR CHILDREN insofar as you are able. I would be fine with my DSs living with me at 18, especially if in f/t education and especially if they paid something towards their upkeep.

But if your DS and his GF want to live together, they need to do it under their own roof. You have no responsibilty to support or subsidise her. If she can't even be civil about it, it's time to let them know that as they're not happy living with you it's time they went elsewhere.

MyRealName · 16/12/2011 19:09

You say the deduction was for shopping 'according to your son'. Why didn't you ask her directly? Could there be any misunderstanding/misinformation from your son? Maybe if she knows she has to deal with you directly rather than hiding behind your son, she will be more reasonable?

RIZZ0 · 16/12/2011 19:09

I suggest you work out roughly what it is costing you to keep her at her leisure.

Then show this to her, so she can see what she is paying is vastly outweighed by what she is costing you in heating, water, shopping and cleaning etc.

Then ask her if she thinks it's fair to deduct this money from what is already a pittance.

I'd then tell her to get her own bloody shopping.

MrsWembley · 16/12/2011 19:10

Is this the girlfriend who's living with you because her parents chucked her out or was that someone else?

KatieScarlett2833 · 16/12/2011 19:12

I paid my mum £250 per month for my keep.

In 1985.

She gets about £50 per week JSA and only pays you £40 a month?

Blimey.

RaraGigglePixie · 16/12/2011 19:24

At 16 I was paying £50 a week to my parents. I also had to help keep the house tidy, do my own washing & buy and cook for the family once a week. Even I knew I was getting a good deal.

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CreamolaFoamless · 16/12/2011 19:28

yes MrsWembley she ended up here because her mum chucked her out

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KatieScarlett2833 · 16/12/2011 19:31

Why was that Creamy do you think?

lljkk · 16/12/2011 19:32

Can you stop feeding her, let her get her own shopping?

KaraStarbuckThrace · 16/12/2011 19:33

my brother is living at home, he is paying £400 a month!
Your son needs a good kick up the arse the cheeky twat.

squeakytoy · 16/12/2011 19:36

OP, you are not her stepmother, nor are you her MIL. She is just some teenager who your son is seeing, and she is taking you for a complete mug. They both are. Kick the pair of them out and tell them to see who else will support them for that pittance.

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CreamolaFoamless · 16/12/2011 19:36

please do not call me creamy KatieScarlett i'm in a bad enough mood already

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