to think that this is Not Very Good Parenting?

[RagamuffinAndFidget]

I know I've got my judgy pants on, but am I allowed a little bit or should I take them off immediately?

A friend of a friend on Facebook posted a photo of her ten week old 'enjoying chocolate cake with Nanny'. (I think it came up on my News Feed because the mutual friend commented on it or something) The picture was of chocolate cake smeared all across the face of this teeny little baby, and 'Nanny' was pushing some more cake into Baby's mouth.

AIBU to think that baby rice at ten weeks is bad enough, but that chocolate cake is, quite frankly, fecking ridiculous?

Poor baby! YANBU!

yanbu!! wtf are people thinking who do this, its ridiculous

I wouldn't give my 8 month old chocolate cake (but I am a bit of a health freak perhaps!) but at ten weeks it will upset her digestion. I was one of the ones who ignored the advice and weaned a bit early at 5 months but baby rice and fruit puree - NOT CHOCOLATE CAKE!!!!

YANBU - your friend-of-a-friend is a REALLY STUPID person. Hope the baby vommed all over the equally stupid nanny.

I'd give myself an atomic judgy pant wedgy I'd hoik them so high

Are you sure this isn't a staged photo?

Im sure a'la Geddes - people really dont leave their babies dressup as ladybirds and asleep on pompkins either.

BTW - baby rice @ 10 weeks was perfectly normal when my 16yo was born! He isnt obese, have allergies, diabetes or any other medical complaint and I can count the number of days he's had off school since nursery right through Y11 on one hand.

its a staged photo stop being so dramatic

and if you feel that strongly tell your friend of a friend her baby should not be eating chocolate cake

I don't think it's staged. In the comments my friend expresses mild shock that Baby is being weaned so early and the mother replies that all of her children were eating similar things at this age.

Giving a human-being baby rice at any age is abusive

YANBU.

I rather like baby rice. It fits into my custardy/semolina-ish/rice-puddingy preferences.

so everything on fb is true

I am guessing "Nanny" means Grandmother rather than a paid carer here??? I suppose it depends if Nanny was force feeding the baby with great gobs of cake or merely offering her a finger with a bit of goo on to suck.

I know things were different "in their day" but your friend is a fool to ignore best practice not to mention boasting about it on facebook.

When I took ds1 for his 6 week check with the health visitor, I met up with a girl who'd been in the next bed to me in hospital. She was very young, and quite naive, and her mum was obviously supporting and helping her with her baby - but the girl's mum was proudly telling me how the baby was enjoying bits of food from the edge of her own plate - meat, gravy, veg etc - and chocolate. I pinned on an encouragingly polite expression and told her she should definitely tell the HV about this too. Hopefully she did, and the HV was able to tell her that this was not good for her baby. This was a bit of a cop-out as I didn't want to tell the mum myself that this was a terribly bad idea, so I hoped my encouragement would get her to tell the HV.

Hey, think of it this way, at least it wasn't a cigarette and the baby will have terrible yucky nappies for the nanny to clean up

I'm assuming 'Nanny' means grandmother - the friend-of-a-friend is at home, on benefits (yes, I do know this to be true), so isn't likely to have an actual nanny taking care of her children.

I know not everything on Facebook is true, Freudian, but I am inclined to believe this is. The mutual friend says that friend-of-a-friend has also been giving Baby fruity baby rice for about a week, because 6ozs of baby milk every three hours wasn't satisfying her.

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My MIL suggested I give my DD solids at 4 weeks WTAF

DD was an dream baby who had a drink at 10pm then slept til 6am.She then had a drink every 2 hours until noon (to catch up)
She did this since birth ( I kid you not, dream baby)

MIL- "She's hungry, why not give her some solids"

Yes, she would probably give a baby cake.

Oh wind your neck in on the baby rice business....it was perfectly normal when I had all 3 of my very healthy boys and one day it may well be again.

The cake think YANBU...but then again it sounds staged for the photo.

Oh yes, and another of hers:
"Why don't you dip your finger in the jam and let DS lick your finger"
He was less than 5 months.

When I had my first we were advised to start poking in the baby rice at about 12 weeks. DS1 made it to 10 weeks ....

Oddly enough they are all tall slim fit and very healthy older teens now and none the worse for it.. they had all definitely had jars of baby chocolate pudding by 4 months (gasp of horror) Times change and probably Nanny is doing what was considered ok in her day. It might not be ideal but it isn't the most evil thing in the world either!

I was given boiled egg yolk at 6 weeks apparently as it was the done thing then!

My MIL is very proud of having started weaning her kids from 6 weeks so I can believe this.

Well that's the thing you see LDN

She probably is very proud because she followed the advice given to her by the medical profession at the time and succeeded in doing so.

Just like Mothers today with babies. Many of them are following professional advice but what some of them don't get, is that it's pointless judging others who prefer to make their own judgements.

I once saw a childminder giving a mindee of about 12 weeks some Asda value chocolate cake at the toddler group Christmas party. I have no idea if the mum had given permission... I think probably not...