dissapointing husband

[impma]

I live in a 3rd floor flat (in London)with my husband and only child (7 month old son). I am on maternity leave and we have agreed to move to a house before I return to work in June 2012. During discussion with my husband tonight I asked his plans for development of his future career (sales) so I could gage moving affordibility etc. He replied he has "no plan...." I am devastetd as I now feel all responsibilty is on me which equates to studying and working and being "Mum"( inevitably more than a man does) and all I want to do is be Mum and not do PhD. I am dissapointed as I thought being "Dad" might spur him onto planning his futrure. I really do not want to fight this lack of drive for the rest of my life but fear - if his son can't encourage him to do it then no-one can. I think I can't carry him anymore, am I being unreasonable? How shoiuld I approach this?

So would I, wordfactory, but then I wouldn't marry him knowing it and then expect change.

Surely 25 years is the norm for mortgages not 35. That must be a new trend.

I was the one suggesting she was from another culture but if she were it might be one where they do a lot of due diligence before arranging a marriage and things like career plans, income etc should all have been done better, not worse, than the average English marriage so may be I'm wrong. It was only a hunch.