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Original poster

is this rude or aibu?

122 replies

baubleybobbityhat · 07/12/2011 16:51

A parent (parent A) sends out a text, obviously to several people, asking if anyone can have their dd for a sleepover in a few weeks time so they can go out for the night.

One of the recipients (parent B) replies, immediately (because they just happened to have their phone in their hand when the text came through), and says yes, we would love to, we have been meaning to ask her for ages.

3 hours later, parent A hasn't responded to parent B to say thanks and confirm.

Parent A is waiting for a better offer - am I right?

And is that rude?

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Original poster
baubleybobbityhat · 08/12/2011 20:16

Yes, I have thought long and hard about it and I am certain that I am definitely NOT bu.

Thank you darling Mumsnet! You are all my absolute loves!!

MWAH!

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warthog · 09/12/2011 08:25

please please please don't do it now!

Original poster
baubleybobbityhat · 09/12/2011 11:21

Don't worry Warty!

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1Catherine1 · 09/12/2011 12:32

Out of curiosity... have you heard from him yet?

Original poster
baubleybobbityhat · 09/12/2011 16:12

No! I am actually quite cross now.

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Sanesometimes1 · 09/12/2011 16:29

phones broke ! ring the landline !

TeaCider · 09/12/2011 16:53

He'll probably just turn up with the child, like those people who don't RSVP then turn up anyway.

spiderpig8 · 09/12/2011 17:13

Sometimes I don't receive texts until hours after they were sent.

Original poster
baubleybobbityhat · 09/12/2011 19:54

Well perhaps he has replied to my texts of Wednesday lunchtime and Thursday morning and I just haven't received those replies yet, eh Spider?

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Pandemoniaa · 09/12/2011 20:08

"So there's no such thing as textiquette then?"

No, mercifully there is no such abomination as "textiquette". If there were, I can only assume it would come with lol'ing, animated shit and atrocious abbreviations.

Instead, I think you must be referring to courtesy. Although I see no signs of discourtesy, merely that someone has failed to realise your text messages must be taken as a Royal Fucking Summons and answered almost before they were sent.

Original poster
baubleybobbityhat · 09/12/2011 20:11

I take it you haven't read the whole thread Pandy?

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Pandemoniaa · 09/12/2011 20:12

Well I have, you see. That's half the problem...

vincettenoir · 09/12/2011 20:29

3 hours is nothing. I often reply to texts days later. Ok that might not be appropriate in this case. But still, I think that parent A will just reply later. I never expect immediate responses to texts I send so I don't think there is anything untoward about this.

picnicbasketcase · 09/12/2011 20:32

Wow. Really bloody rude actually, especially after this much time.

bejeezus · 09/12/2011 20:36

pandemoniaa

Pishtushette · 09/12/2011 20:50

Could be a problem the signal. Last week I received two texts 3 days after they were sent. I had had bars on my phone showing that I had a signal during the 3 days, but the texts didn't arrive.

Original poster
baubleybobbityhat · 09/12/2011 21:08

Well ... I received 12 texts today and 13 yesterday. And sent 6 today and 11 yesterday (have just checked). But I suppose there could be a problem with the signal.

Are you 12 bejeezus?

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bejeezus · 09/12/2011 21:20

There could be a problem with HIS signal
He might of lost his phone
He could have been hit by a bus
Possibilities are endless

bejeezus · 09/12/2011 21:24

Am I 12?
I'm not the one conducting my life by text!

Dozer · 09/12/2011 21:28

Is great how many people are coming up with plausible reasons for the non-response.

When it's obvious that (single, male) parent A is just not that into you (as sleepover option for his dd) and is waiting for better offers. He should've handled as redsky suggested, but is clearly a bit tactless!

Is he sexy OP? Are you jealous that he may be going on a hot date?

Dozer · 09/12/2011 21:31

Or maybe he's wanting to ask OP on hot date! But accidentally asked her to provide childcare instead, and is now fretting over his error.

Imagination running away with me now, have been at the baileys and inspired by a romantic proposal to wisedupwoman in the relationships section!

nevergoogle · 09/12/2011 21:32

parent B is hilarious.

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