to be completely fed up with one child in dd's class getting selected for EVERYTHING!

[jollymollie]

There is a girl in dd's class (year 4) who ever since reception has been selected for everything. She is always the lead in every school play, she is on the school council, her entry is selected to win every school competition she enters and so on. A lot of the other parents are getting a tad fed up with this. DD came home today with the school play lines and once again the SAME child has the lead. I really resent spending another evening watching and applauding her performance whilst my dd and others don't even get a line to read. I am aware she may be the most confident or the best at remembering lines but surely the other children should get a chance. Other girls in the class are starting to feel that they are not as good as this one girl and some are quite upset that they have once again been overlooked. Does this go on at other schools and should we address it with the head?

Age old problem but I can understand the best performers or singers being picked for paid professional shows but school stuff? all the children should get a part if they want one. dd dances and is often in shows and competitions, she gets picked for nothing at school though, I tell her its fair cos she gets other chances.

NearlyMrsCustards the thing is most classes have at least 6/8 kids that are that child and more than capable.It's just lazy teachers.

Having said that a friend of mine's dc is always the lead and she hates it,so glad mine aren't. Really having an impact on home life eg tantrums,exhaustion,time. Sorry I want to enjoy Christmas not nurse a burnt out child.

What does annoy me though is the entire school giving up the best half of a half term with rehearsals for the same 2 or 3 kids to strut their stuff.I'd rather my dc were in normal lessons rather than being bored to tears sitting through yet another rehearsal all in aid of making the school and perfect Priscilla shine.

I think unless all kids play an active/fairly equal part school productions are a complete waste of time.

Op I would complain,if you don't it'll just carry on.

I was that child. I was always lead in all the plays because I remembered my lines perfectly and to be honest, was a good actress. In my day everyone had a "role" in class assemblies/Christmas plays though, even if it was a non speaking part.

My mum wasn't on the PTA and my dad didn't bank roll the school. I was just the easiest to put in a lead because I had a loud speaking voice, was confident and had a good memory.

My dd2 is that child that always gets picked .... She's been like that from nursery .... Thing is , she sings like Christina , acts like an Oscar winner , she's bright , top marks in her subject at school ...was in theatre since she's been 5 years old , did child modeling , singing lessons at 7 , acting lessons , plays multiple instruments ....very talented very beautiful but very nice girl.

Just won an award at school ...which included a prize of £300

Some of her school mates are complaining , but she deserved it because she works hard and studies at the weekend when her friends are out at parties drinking.

Dd3 never gets picked for anything , but she's every bit as talented as her sister ...she's a shy person .

Ds2 is very good at sports , not musical at all , hates drama ....lives for football. His teams trophy night was the other week ....all the big trophies were given to the coaches sons , and the son of the man who gave the team sponsorship/ new strips . I was a because my son was told by the head trainer that he was getting the goal of the season trophy for his one from over the halfway mark ...perfectly curved into middle of the goal ...no joke it was beautiful....the trophy was given to sponsor mans son , for an accidental goal when he had his back to the goal and was about a foot away from it ( basically a rebound that bounced off the boys back , but counts as a goal , wtf ? )
Ds2 is so pissed off he is planning to go back to raith rovers . Still never mind , as ds3 has loads of medals and trophies that are earned through talent. I know that he will continue to win some more in the future and the boys who's parents " buy" them won't progress any further...but it doesn't really matter . They are children and they all deserve to win once in their childhood.

Ds4 won stickers for being top of his class at maths ( he's 6 ) , because he multiplied hundreds . I heard one of the other mums complain that ds3 always has stickers , (he can't help being clever) and dd4 has iPad in school (which we provided because of her asd). Apparently I'm "in with the teachers" ....it was also circulated that was ,in fact , dd4's teachers sister ( I'm not ) .

Often it's the parents who get aggravated by this , especially if the kids are younger (understandably) .

Had said earlier that the same 2 kids always got picked, then what happens- ds1 comes home and says "by the way mum, I got picked to do the introduction and final thanks at the Carol Concert this year, you are coming, arn't you? (I always go to everything I possibly can!!).
Talk about eating my own words from earlier.......[embarrassed]

I think you are right to raise it. She may well be the best / most confident but how will the other kids get to develop their skills if she is chosen for everything. I would personally raise it with the class teacher rather than the head - although I realise that would be more difficult. But whatever you feel most comfortable with.