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i need help

144 replies

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 02/12/2011 13:24

I know this should be in health but I am desperate

I just went to give blood

They turned me down because my hb is 9.5
I have never been aneamic before apart from when pg.

To me this means two things.

One is that I have let my DD down
two is that I have cancer and I am going to die after having to have terrible things done to me.

if i sound mad it is because I am.

OP posts:
Groovee · 02/12/2011 13:26

No you need to have an iron rich diet for a week before you go to give blood next time. Many people are aneamic without knowing.

wannabestressfree · 02/12/2011 13:28

I have been turned down a lot. Its not always true that everyone can give blood. Chin up lovey xx

StaceymAloneForver · 02/12/2011 13:28

wait what? hang on, why would it mean either of those things??

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 02/12/2011 13:28

I never had to before. I am a veggie and I am not a good eater tbh.
But I have never had such a low hb before.
why now?

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Catsdontcare · 02/12/2011 13:29

You can be anaemic and not necessarily know about it. I had blood test for something unrelated and the only thing that came back was that I had low iron.

nethunsreject · 02/12/2011 13:29

Aw, MrsDeVere, have a hug and a nice Biscuit and a wee cuppa. You are not letting your daughter down; you do not have cancer. My hg hovers around 10 at times and I am in great health. Yep, 9.5 is on the low side and you need to get some iron into you, but it is pretty normal.

I am guessing Christmas is a bad time?

nethunsreject · 02/12/2011 13:30

Btw, Spatone is great. GO down Boots and get some today.

You can get it up to 10 in a fortnight, and a further half point every fortnight.

StaceymAloneForver · 02/12/2011 13:30

it doesnt matter that it's never happened before, maybe normally you are 'slightly' over the level for donating. Next time drink rd wine about 1hr before donating Xmas Wink

cheer up lovely!

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 02/12/2011 13:31

But i dontated in july and I was fine i must have been over 12.5 or they wouldnt have let me give.
Now I cant give for a year. a whole year. its all i can do for her and now i cant even do that.

OP posts:
Trills · 02/12/2011 13:32

What on earth are you on about?

How have you let your DD down?

Why do you think you have cancer?

You are being a silly billy.

StaceymAloneForver · 02/12/2011 13:32

ok so this is donating straight to your dd?

calm down a bit and explain or we can't help

why would they stop you for a year?

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 02/12/2011 13:33

my dd is dead. she died of luekemia.
they wont let you give if your hb is that low. you have to wait a year.

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woollyideas · 02/12/2011 13:34

Brew Cheer up Mrs! I've been turned down before for the same reason and without any inkling that I was anaemic. I went on an iron rich diet and next time I went to donate everything was fine.

fuzzypeach1750 · 02/12/2011 13:34

Take a breath and explain. Smile

StaceymAloneForver · 02/12/2011 13:35

oh OP i am so sorry for you, but i promise your dd will not feel like you have let her down, she will think of your health and well being before anybody elses.

fuzzypeach1750 · 02/12/2011 13:35

Oh sweetie. I'm so sorry truly I am. The one thing you can do for DD is be kind to yourself. You are not mad, you are obviously still list in grief and it's normal. Do you want to talk about her? Hugs x

woollyideas · 02/12/2011 13:36

Oh sorry for the 'cheer up'. I hadn't read your last post. I'm so sorry about your DD, but please don't think you will never be able to donate again.

travellingwilbury · 02/12/2011 13:36

Mrsdv , I get it , I undestand why it has spun you out but ....

You need to think about it a wee bit more calmly , in every probability that exists you just need to up your iron a little bit and get some dark green veg into you .

But if you are even a tiny little bit going to let this continue to spin you out then get down to the dr and get them to do a proper full blood test to see what your levels are .

Huge big hugs to you xx

You could never let her down xx

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 02/12/2011 13:37

i cant because it doenst make sense.

my dd was aneamic. she had luekemia. she died.
I give blood because I couldnt save her.
aneamia isnt a condition its a symptom.
if she got cancer then why shouldnt i?
if she had to die then why the fuck should i?

Why would I be aneamic? I havent been before.
I am not trying to trip anyone up. I cant speak.

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woollyideas · 02/12/2011 13:38

... and as fuzzy said, be kind to yourself. xx

Catsdontcare · 02/12/2011 13:38

If I could donate blood on your behalf I would but because I've already had transfusions (thank you all you lovely donators) I can't.

Do you really really think your dd would be disappointed in you right now? I really don't think she would. I am sorry that this is making you feel so bad though.

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 02/12/2011 13:39

i have to go to the dr because its so low. I am going on monday anyway.
but they will send me for a test and I will have to take a ticket and sit and wait for hours and then I will have to wait for the test results and i cant.
I cant do that stuff.

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StaceymAloneForver · 02/12/2011 13:39

if you are worried hun take yourself to the doctors and get them to do tests, anemia does not always mean cancer, the same as cancer does not always mean anemia.

I know your brain is following a train of thought it knows and understands but it is not necesarily the right one!

frumpet · 02/12/2011 13:39

I imagine that your dd will be looking down at you from heaven , wetting herself laughing at you and if you can still find this thread in a few months and after a couple of glasses of wine im sure you will do the same thing .
Now go and eat lots of lovely spinach Smile

Almostfifty · 02/12/2011 13:39

I've been turned down in the past, it took my hysterectomy (no periods anymore are yours heavy??) to let me give again, once I got past the time limit after an op.

You will be able to give again, you just need to up your green vegetable intake and maybe take some vitamins with iron in.