to ask if this would make you feel a bit miffed.....

[grumpydwarf]

Would you be a bit miffed if someone else in your extended family (am very reluctant to use the term MIL in case I get flamed as being anti-MIL) phoned up and told said to your DH that they were buying you presents from your 6mo DS and a card for Xmas?

Dont get me wrong may have some PFB about the whole thing but to me its part of the fun of being a parent that mum's but dad's cards and presents and visa versa! Luckily DH kindly put her straight that he would be buying the presents and cards for me for occasions like that as was not her job, but she swears blind that her mum did it for her from my DH when he was little. He does't remember this and I have never heard of it as my dad bought all presents for me and Sis until we were old enough to buy ourselves.

What do you MN's think?

YANBU god I would hate it if my MIL did that. I think you did fine with 'thanks but no thanks'.
Have to say it has alot to do with the relationship you have with MIL though...I guess if MIL is a good friend rather than interfering old bat, then it could come across as a kind offer, but, I am with you on this one.

I think it's equally odd though to do it between spouses viv as well.

I'd be delighted and if I was that keen on getting DH a present from my child then I'd just buy another.

"if MIL is a good friend rather than interfering old bat"

Heheh, no prizes for guessing which camp your MiL is in, Nerf

Presumably over the years, you will be buying presents for Grandma from her granddaughter....

Sounds to me like it was a nice gesture that was thrown back in her face a little....

Erm, I really wouldn't care

It also depends on her gift choice ... shoes? Then bring it on! Smellies that will get shoved to the back of the wardrobe, no thank you!

I think you did fine with 'thanks but no thanks'.

Does no one have manners any more? It's disgraceful (bit strong but am a bit ranty this morning! ) to refuse a present. Take it, smile, say thanks and then pass it on or charity shop it.

Rant over!

My Mum does this and it's lovely. Especially as they are older now and go with her to choose gifts.

Erm an extra gift?...wow your MIL sounds like a total cow....wish my mil did this, but then she did spend a small fortune on dc's for Christmas and is giving dp and I cold hard cash as a present, so I have no mil complaints . She isn't really a kid person(freely admits this), but she is a lovely woman.

YABU and your mil sounds lovely.

Sulky that's more the scenario I would find normal, with older DCs.

I loathe my MIL but I wouldn't mind if she did this - would save me a job. All labour-saving intereferences are welcome in my house. YABU.

I'm a little bit in agreement with the OP. It's up to her and her DH to decide the family traditions for their new family

Manners are always good though

Think you sound a bit precious & rude. She was trying to do a nice thing (with extra gifts)

i buy my sister presents from her cat..... i realise it makes me mad, but thankfully my sis doesnt feel the need to 'put me straight' on it! he he

YANBU how dare the hideous old bat muscle in like that, what a farkin liberty. I would be outraged. Stick top your guns OP,p eople in your family going out of their way to be sweet and caring needs to be stamped out! My MIL is heading this way and it's awful. She is always trying to help us out, being a listening ear and even goes so far as to buy or make small caring gifts for us all on a regualr basis. It makes me sick TBH and i dread it escalating and ending up in your shoes.

Lmao dialsmavis

Don't you take my farkin name in vain!

at Merlotmonster Presents from the cat. Yes, you are indeed mad, but in a rather wonderful way.

What the fucking fuck? What exactly is the issue and where did the op go? I'd love your mil- please send her to my house for Xmas.

Sorry Worra, but things like this make me so angry. My exMIL is the same; the bloody bitch got my new DD a present from her holiday when she came round with things fro DS (her grandchild). I was outraged! such a bad run of inlaws.

Seriously, you're miffed?

Do you have a MIL who can't do right for doing wrong, op?

I can't help feeling I've missed a trick here. So lets get this straight, your MIL buys presents for you and addresses them from your children.

Is it ok to ask for what you want?

Its almost like there is a santa!!!

personally I think it's strange. Why would your MIl think that your DH wouldn't want to do this himself?

If my MIL did this I would find it incredibly sweet and I would probably burst into tears when I got the present I think it's lovely that she wants to buy you a present and label it as being from your DS - to me it seems like a gesture that says "you're a mum now" and she wants you to feel special. She wasn't telling you you couldn't buy presents from DS to give each other, was she?