AIBU not to want to attend a funeral

[emmam25]

My OH's step-nan has very sadly and unexpectedly passed away. He wasn't close to her but he is close to his step-sis who was very close to her Nan. He obviously feels he wants to support his step-sis which I understand.
Her funeral is 3hrs away from where we live, his family is closer but still an hour away.

I am 39 weeks pregnant with our first child and will be very close to due date on the day of the funeral.

AIBU to not attend and not want my OH to attend either?

For information, we live even further from my family (dad and step-mum are about 4hrs drive from me), my Mum died when I was a teenager and I have no close friends living near me who could step in as birth partner if I did go into labour whilst my OH is away. So if I happen to go into labour when he is not here I will be on my own for a good 3/4hrs before anyone could get to me.

Just tell him the day before that you have twinges....

Just because YOU don't see what the problem is, Fabbychic, doesn't mean there isn't a problem! I am so bloody grateful that my DH was there for the birth of my 2 DSs. The labours and births were bloody awful and I needed his support. (Especially when the head midwife and I had a massive slanging match when she refused to get a consultant when DS2 was stuck and refusing to budge!)

Oh and I would have rather have chewed my arm off before having my mum, MIL or any of my sisters there!!!!!

Go, and take your bag and notes with you. You can call in at any hospital on the way home if necessary. I went to a reunion on the Saturday before DC2 was born on the Monday. I didn't need them, but knew there were plenty of hospitals off the M1 on the way back to London.

Haven't read the whole thread but those who are saying, go and take your notes, the OP might not want to end up giving birth in any random hospital and what if there are complications and they are stranded there for a while. I think it would be perfectly acceptable for the OP's DP to explain he will not be able to attend the funeral as his DP is about to give birth. OP's needs trumps that of a stepsis who has other people to support her.

I think OP's said she's got spd so going herself seems quite out of the question.