AIBU to think proposing at Christmas is lazy?

[ConOfScience]

An ex proposed at Christmas in front of my whole family and his, I was embarrassed as we were only seeing each other a year - needless to say we split up 6 months later.

I knew he was just too lazy to get me a Christmas present and thought to himself, I know I think I'll propose!

I have told DP, who has mentioned getting engaged on a few occasions, however he knows how I feel about festive proposals.

Not that I expect presents, I often go without (as I'm the only earner, DP is SAHD) and with the money DP gets I'd rather he used that to buy himself books, dvds, ciggarettes etc (whatever he needs really)

I'd rather he proposed to me on a random day because he wanted to, not because of the pressure to present a gift on Christmas.

AIBU?

Loads of people get engaged on Christmas for the right reasons, however for me I think it's a tad lazy.

This is my opinion.

I just hope someone doesn't come on here and say that I'm suggesting their marriage is fake because they got enaged at Christmas....that's not what I'm saying.

:)

Great for some, but I am like you and would be really cheesed off.

YANBU i agree lol

i dont know i think it would be sort of romantic but then again my dh proposed in a sort of fumbled " i got you this" after work one day - so im easy to please.

what?

an engagement ring is a pretty cool xmas present!

YANBU. I would have hated something that made an occasion that was supposed to be about the whole family, mainly children, all about us instead. I would be annoyed to be at a family gathering for Christmas where someone made it all about them.

I would also prefer a Christma present and an engagement ring at another special time that was personal rather than a fairly generic celebration.

I would have hated it too.

Good lord get over yourselves you big bunch of Verruca Salts!!

YABU!

pictish, so you think I'm being unreasonable?

In your opinion, am I being unreasonable in the most reasonable way?

I'm not spoilt, I'm a good egg :)

My (then) boyfriend proposed to me on Christmas Day.. in private though, not with an audience.

We have been married ten years.

I am surprised that grown women are so immature about having to receive a present as well as a ring!

glad with the majority vote here

For me my objection isn't that I want a present and a ring, it's the general naffness of a Christmas proposal. ducks

Oh i got engaged xmas day 8 years ago it was lovely just me and dp, mind im still waiting to get married .

For a lot of people, Christmas is a magical time of year, so I can see why they would want to do this. It only really works though, if the person being proposed to, says yes. Would fuck up Christmas, if they said no!

I would hate to be proposed to in front of other people - I think it is a private thing between the couple and would feel very embarrassed and put on the spot.

I am not sure if an engagement ring is a cool Christmas present. Call me mercenary, but you'd get a ring if you were proposed to at any other time, so it shouldn't really count as a Christmas present.

YANBU, I'm sure for a lot of men, it's a "I don't know what I'll get my girlfriend, I know, an engagement ring" type thing.

That said, I'm biased. My DB proposed to his girlfriend on christmas 9 years ago, and guess what, they're still not married.

Isla, you said it! witty and to the point.

I'm not arsed what I get for Christmas, in fact I don't think DP I've had anything from DP for a few years - we like to spend our money on others and buy ourselves what we need when we need

I'll reiterate what I said in my OP.

I'd rather he proposed to me on a random day because he wanted to, not because of the pressure to present a gift on Christmas.

My DH proposed at Christmas.
It could have been very awkward if I'd turned him down though as he'd told his parents that he planned to and had shown them the ring beforehand. MIL phoned me up on Christmas morning asking what had DH got me (pretending she didn't know!) so it would have probably ruined Christmas if I hadn't accepted the proposal!
I get where you are coming from though, sometimes I think it would have been nice to be whisked away somewhere/taken out and proposed to rather than incorporating it as part of the Christmas celebrations.

Mmmm .... well.... ..... Christmas is a big occassion.

It's when people think about the future and family and the people they love so I imagine quite a lot of people propose at Christmas for those reasons.

And an engagement ring is not a present shame on those materialistic people

An engagement ring is a promise, a commitment, a contract to love each other....

Don't really see any issue with it TBH.

Just don't get married on Christmas Day. If it all goes pear-shaped, you will hate Christmas for ever more

OTOH of course, the person I actually married just kinda threw a box at me and that was it. No promise, no commitment, no contract...

Hence the divorce

Maybe it's about finding the balance

BeaOnSea Did you get your username from Karl Pilkingtons Rockbusters?

No ConOfScience - I just made it up. It's a play on Beyonce (I am her older sister )

What have I missed? I love Karl Pilkington!

My dh proposed on Christmas day. Was incredibly romantic! I came through from the shower, and there he was, on one knee on the bedroom floor, stiffy in one hand, ring in the other. I don't think acceptance of one was conditional on activity with the other, but I could be wrong.

YABU, it's as good a day as any other. Although an extra present would also be nice!

Christmas is my absolute favourite time of the year so my DH proposed to me in private on Christmas Eve.

Mind you, he bought me a pair of woolly socks as well as an engagement ring