AIBU to think proposing at Christmas is lazy?

[ConOfScience]

An ex proposed at Christmas in front of my whole family and his, I was embarrassed as we were only seeing each other a year - needless to say we split up 6 months later.

I knew he was just too lazy to get me a Christmas present and thought to himself, I know I think I'll propose!

I have told DP, who has mentioned getting engaged on a few occasions, however he knows how I feel about festive proposals.

Not that I expect presents, I often go without (as I'm the only earner, DP is SAHD) and with the money DP gets I'd rather he used that to buy himself books, dvds, ciggarettes etc (whatever he needs really)

I'd rather he proposed to me on a random day because he wanted to, not because of the pressure to present a gift on Christmas.

AIBU?

Loads of people get engaged on Christmas for the right reasons, however for me I think it's a tad lazy.

This is my opinion.

I just hope someone doesn't come on here and say that I'm suggesting their marriage is fake because they got enaged at Christmas....that's not what I'm saying.

:)

Oooooh yes, public proposals = awful. Well done to Con for saying no!!!

I like the ironing and squash proposal with resultant table.

My DH proposed on Christmas day, after being together 8 months infront of my whole family.......but....I had a feeling it was coming so psyched myself up for it.
He hid my pressies around the room, there was a little quiz which included all the family, and led me to the next clue and pressie. Had lots of lovely things, clothes, bags, (can't remember them all) On the last one there was a box, and it said open me if your answer is yes, if no go to the fireplace and open that box. I said "what's the question?" he proposed, and I said yes. and got a beautiful ring. I opened the pressie by the fireplace too, and it said if I said no he still loved me, and asked me to accept a beautiful pair of diamond earings anyway.
Naturally I had both! We've been married 20 years now, I have kept all the clues to the quiz, and all the boxes and everything. My family thought it was great, and it made them feel included, it also made sure DH was accepted as part of the family. Ahhh

YABU! The day doesn't matter. Would have hated a public proposal though, or any of that "permission from my father" nonsense, but that's just me!

We were on holiday (with my now PIL!) and DH proposed so that we could buy the ring at a knock-down forrin-type VAT-less price. I find bargains a bit of a turn-on, to be fair.

DH proposed to me on Christmas Day. En France, in the snow - we were in the alps and it was a beautiful setting. It's a long story, but he managed to do it without an audience

He hadn't got me a ring though - he is so crap at shopping that he thought it would be better if we went to choose together

And unfortunately I didn't feel like any champagne (crap that, as we were staying with our friends who are des tres bons viveurs and had a big New Years Eve party) becuase I was nearly 3months preggo with DD!

This is all making me feel a little queasy.

Particularly those 'desperate' to get engaged.

I'm either really cold-hearted or there are some very old-fashioned people on here.

I love the engagement table!

I flatly refused to have an expensive engagement ring, [hmmm] regret it now, but DH hid my engagement ring in a Christmas stocking on Christmas day one year when it was the two of us after an APPALLING family Christmas the year before. He also bought me a tonne of gifts including GHDs!

We set a date, tied the knot in the happiest best day of my life four months later and lived (almost) happily after.

It would have been cringey in front of my family, it would have been HIDEOUS in front of his family but to be fair he asked me, I said yes, we are happy.