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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to ask you to help me convince DH we should get a dishwasher?

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Chulita · 18/11/2011 21:42

We don't have one, 2 DC and one on the way, I cook/bake a lot and I'm so sick of washing up piles of dishes.
He says it makes you lazy and it doesn't take long to wash up, fine but I don't want to do it if some genius has invented a machine that can do it while we sleep (and I'm already lazy)

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handbagCrab · 18/11/2011 22:13

First thing we bought for our house was a dishwasher. Why would you choose to do such a menial task if you don't have to? Madness :)

If you can afford one and have space you will never look back. Much like me and my new tumble dryer :)

Armi · 18/11/2011 22:14

Get one, then marvel at how fecking irritating it is when your DH just leaves dirty dishes on the worktop instead of putting them in the machine. He will also prove himself incapable of loading it properly when he does put crockery in it.

AttillaTheMum · 18/11/2011 22:14

I was telling DH last week i would rather the kettle broke than the dishwasher, I could live with boiling water on the stove, but take my dishwasher, take my heart!

randommoment · 18/11/2011 22:18

I just went out and got one in the end, after 18 months of the same story. He made a grumpy noise about wasting money. I ignored him. Then he went to the shops to get milk, and came back with loads of dishwasher tablets, as though it had been his own idea in the first place. Bless.

He has never worked out how to load it, although he is capable of removing his favourite mug from it when it has been cleaned, and befouling it with coffee again.

He is very good at hoovering though.

randommoment · 18/11/2011 22:21

Armi, does yours make porridge after you've gone to work, then leaves the whole lot to set like concrete until your return?

lurkerspeaks · 18/11/2011 22:24

2 possible responses

Stop doing any washing up until he agrees. Buy paper plates to use if you run out
Just buy the damn thing. Without his permission.

I've never not lived in a house with a dishwasher. Even had one as a student (lovely flatmates parents owned our flat and deemed it essential).

TBH I can't imagine not having one.

Much more environmentally sound. I'm also the person with two bowls and two sets of beaters for my ken wood so I can batch bake and put all the detritus in the dishwasher.

notmyproblem · 18/11/2011 22:30

Who are you people from 1950s and can you share your time machine with us?

tentative123 · 18/11/2011 22:34

we just got one, and it has literally changed our life. Its only a slimline so it doesnt kill us to empty - is not that much more than the washing up mountain we used to leave on the side, but now everything is clean and shiny. We put almost everything in it too.
love love love it.

WhoIsThatMaskedWoman · 18/11/2011 22:34

My DH wishes to know whether your DH has a car, or indeed a bike, and whether it is making him lazy - possibly you could put it up for sale?

Armi · 18/11/2011 22:35

randommoment - he doesn't, thankfully. He does, however, struggle with the concept of scraping/rinsing pans and plates and loads the mugs in the most ridiculous and space-wasting way possible.

In most other respects he is a perfectly acceptable husband, so I'll keep him on a bit longer.

ivorcrushonmc · 18/11/2011 22:35

Hi, this is my first time and this thread made me join! I too don't have a dishwasher, well I do, but it is in the garage yet to be plumbed in. We have 5 dc and i am always cooking and baking, but my dh always says"the couple that wash up together, stay together". so I have moved a small step forward but not far enough to get it in the kitchen! Maybe in the New Year. I don't mind washing up really as we do get to talk to each other then and it warms my hands in a otherwise cold house!!

pictish · 18/11/2011 22:39

Oh my - our dishwasher has a name (Dinah) and I talk to it like Shirley Valentine talked to the wall.
Mil bought it for us as a housewarming present and I love it almost as much as the children.

chismum · 18/11/2011 22:50

Men always think we do nothing.

After a full days work, my husband comes in and sits on the sofa.

On the other hand I come in and cook, do the dishes (okay, in a dishwasher) do some washing, (okay in a washing machine, not taking it down to the river to beat it against some rocks) some tidying up, make sure the homework is done, read stories to the children, make sure they are in bed in good time, and I get to sit down about two hours after him, and I have a dishwasher already (as previously mentioned).

And often sitting down involves doing an online grocery order, or ordering tights or whatever for the children online, or sewing on name tapes. You know, first hand, I am sure.

I also like to bake, but this is considered to be a leisure activity!

Just go out and buy one.

samandi · 18/11/2011 23:44

"it makes you lazy" - nonsense argument. By that token we should all be living in caves, walking 30 miles to work in the mines and coming home with water pots on our heads, catching a wild deer or too on the way, before skinning and gutting it and cooking our families dinner from scratch ...

Seriously, it seems like he has a complete disrespect for you if that's the kind of comment he makes. I wouldn't require "permission" to buy one either, just order one if you want it.

CakeandRoses · 18/11/2011 23:47

Yay chul - very pleased you're doing this!

my dh has just questioned who might be the lazy one in this equation.

tis a good point.... is it the person who's busy growing a new person and is looking after 2 DCs and doing all the cooking AND 60% - 70% of the washing up or is it the person who does none of the cooking and only 30 - 40% of the washing up...?

see - even *Mr Cake is rooting for you getting this dishwasher

he works a 50 hour week and does ALL of the washing up, albeit using a dishwasher - Lazy fucker that he is

BluddyMoFo · 18/11/2011 23:47

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CakeandRoses · 18/11/2011 23:54

bluddy please exit the thread - you're not helping here

BluddyMoFo · 18/11/2011 23:56

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learningtofly · 19/11/2011 00:01

Ah now Yanbu.

Dh was a washing up type of chap UNTIL we won a free dishwasher on MN.

Now the dishwasher can do no wrong. It is truly wonderful . Until you actually own one you can not conceive its beauty.

Trust me. Best thing I have ever ever won :)

malinois · 19/11/2011 00:49

Truthfully, I would rather be without a washing machine than a dishwasher. When our last one died I worked out that we spent at least an hour every day washing up, drying, putting away and all that crap. Seven hours a week of our lives back is worth a lot to us.

startail · 19/11/2011 01:02

Our first house came with cooker and freezer (old chap, going to live with his family) and we had a washer.
The joy we could just afford the cheapest of cheap dishwashers.
It lasted 10 years far better than the next one.
I can truly say it is the best thing we ever bought. No arguing about who was going to was up ever again, bliss.

Morloth · 19/11/2011 01:03

I had 4 days without a dishwasher when we moved to our new house.

My marriage has never suffered such a strain...

starlingsintheslipstream · 19/11/2011 01:10

I didn't think they were necessary... then we moved into a house with one. And I would never go back! The main reason for me is that it frees us me up after dinner when I can be playing with the kids or getting them to bed. It's a real time saver. Doesn't make you lazy, it just means you can do something else with that time.

Morloth · 19/11/2011 01:13

I love going to bed knowing that everything will be clean and dry and sparkling when I wake up.

It's a but sad really how much I love my dishwasher.

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Chulita · 19/11/2011 08:41

bluddy the key phrase in your post is "when you wash by hand as you go along ", I save it up for the evening because otherwise I'd feel like I was feeding/washing up all day long!

DH isn't at all lazy, he's just got a thing against dishwashers. And I don't need his permission to buy a dishwasher but since it's our money I don't want to buy something he's so anti.

Operation We Need a Dishwasher starts today, hopefully by the time he gets his Christmas roast he won't need to be thinking about washing up after it!

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