to ask you to help me convince DH we should get a dishwasher?

[Chulita]

We don't have one, 2 DC and one on the way, I cook/bake a lot and I'm so sick of washing up piles of dishes.
He says it makes you lazy and it doesn't take long to wash up, fine but I don't want to do it if some genius has invented a machine that can do it while we sleep (and I'm already lazy)

Oh my god I looooooooooooove my dishwasher.

Why would it make you lazy? That's a bit weird. I mean on that basis shouldn't we all be bashing our clothes against rocks for fear the Devil will Make Work for Idle hands?

I agree with whoever said, just buy it.

Better still buy for him as a Christmas present. That'll larn him.

It's more hygienic, it's more energy efficient.
YOU ARE PREGNANT WITH HIS 3rd CHILD.

Tell him that MN have spoken. And then go on washingup strike.

Just buy one.

If you do the cooking and the washing up, presumably you don't need permission about how you choose to go about that?

we only just got ours a few months ago - we didn't have room for it before we moved house. I was so excited that I was pretty sure it would never live up to my expectations - but it HAS.

I love it. My sister calls it the magic cupboard and it is like lovely elves come and scrub things in the middle of the night and make the cutlery and glasses all shiny (I hate drying up so mine always had water marks).

I asked DH if I could have the oven cleaned as my christmas present, he said no.
I might try to persuade him for a dishwasher now. He'll approve, he does loads of dishes

I was going to write something about him but I want to show him this thread and convince him, not make him grumpy!
Washing up strikes don't work - I have to use something to feed the DC and we're low on bowls cos my mum helps wash up when she visits and she can't stack (ooh! another plus point!)

TattyDevine I agree, just buy one. Why are you asking someone who thinks it is lazy to cook and wash up more than 50% of the time with two children and another on the way. Actually, I would say something more choice than that and start shopping online for one immediately.

I am not joking, dishwashing by hand in the evenings when you are tired and exhausted is just awful. Pressing the button to have the dishwasher do it is magic. Why would he want you to do more work :(

oven cleaned as a christmas present?

We never had a dishwasher and washing up was a constant source of argument. we got a Miele one on ebay and I am so happy with it. it has changed (domestic) life.

Tbh, I don't keep the house very tidy (understatement of the year) so I feel guilty about that and that rubs off on other things. You know, the time I haven't spent tidying/hoovering I could spend washing up.

Simple-if it is so easy -tell him that you are having division of labour-you cook and he will wash up. Leave it all on the side for him.

my brothers caught fire had an accident and i believe he lasted HOURS before he conceeded they needed a new one, after saying it would be fine without it. Just buy one, if you have room its a godsend. If DH complains give it a few weeks then if still complaining make him do all the dishes for a few days instead :) soon change his tune

I see you have no room-start piling them on the floor and just wash the one dish you need, as you need it.Ban your mother from washing up.

I would be horrified if anyone cleaned the oven as my Christmas present.

"You know, the time I haven't spent tidying/hoovering I could spend washing up."

Seriously woman STOP.

Just buy the bloody thing. You are living in a 1950s time warp - and washing up by hand is only a tiny part of the scariness.

If you want to justify it to yourself then tell yourself that the time you aren't spending washing up, you could spend hoovering. But I honestly don't see why you should have to. I bet he doesn't scribe all his work documents with a quill and ink because it "makes you lazy to use a printer" does he?

Right thank you all, I'm off to bed now, dishes not washed. I've mentioned it to DH who is staring fixedly at the tv with a determined look. I'll start wearing him down in the morning

My DH is sitting tutting at your DH right now and has also suggest that midway through a blow job most men will agree to ANYTHING

The things we get stuck on eh?!

onehit thank your DH for the idea, he has a good point

I'm pregnant, nice clothes are a waste at the mo, I dont need any DVDs/CDs/books/shoes/smellies/jewellery
And we literally havent cleaned the oven since we moved in, its minging

I can't imagine why you feel you need his permission to buy something that would make your life easier. Do you have to get his permission to pay the gas bill or buy the children some clothes? If you do, you've got bigger problems that persuading him to buy a d/w and if you don't then there's no reason why you shouldn't buy the household a dishwasher with money that is jointly yours to go in a house that you both own

I'm not a big fan of dishwashers, there sole real advantage is you can leave dirty stuff without it cluttering up the place (personally I would just use pile it up in and around the sink until enough to be worthwhile to wash, but I may find myself single if I kept doing that aswell as all my other annoying habits) but you end up spending loads of time loading and unloading anyway, and not everything can go in the dishwasher so you end up doing both anyway (glasses that you don't want covered in scratches, woks and things which don't fit in etc.)

Having thought I'd always want one before I did, I could now live without for sure.

YANBU though if DH never does any, he shouldn't really have an opinion on what's needed to do jobs he's unwilling to do.

I KISS my dishwasher on a daily basis. And I am single with no kids.

BUY ONE

tell him, after dc3 is born, that the only available time for sex is taken up by doing the washing up. I'd say he'll soon cave in...

When I got my new kitchen I convinced my then-Bf that we needed to get a dishwasher as when we came to sell the house it would be a major selling point. "I promise I'll never ever use it". Whatever!
I do hate emptying it though, but not as much as I'd hate to wash up.