to bust her in a Facebook message?

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One of the staff I line manage is off sick today - she called in last night. I don't work Friday mornings and am home and have just noticed that she is all over Facebook - uploading photos and commenting etc (we are friends on Facebook - she sent the request).

1. AIBU to think this is not ok and she can't be that sick if she has FB time? (we are teachers - people are having to cover her classes)
2. AIBU to send her a message along the lines of 'I hope you feel better soon - I love the photos you are uploading'?

Don't send her a FB message if you are her line manager. Deal with it formally when she returns.

Depends what her sickness is really. She could be sitting very close to the bathroom while she is uploading photos. She is at home, so surely that is better than her trotting around the shops.

Depends what's wrong with her, if she has a migrane then fair enough she probably wouldn't be on a computer but if she has d and v then there is no reason for her not to be.

But it does take much energy to upload pics and make comments on Facebook. I guess it depends if the pictures are of her on a night out. Why is she off ill?

Gah. Doesn't not does

Agree it depends on the illness. She may be huddled up on the sofa/in bed with laptop/phone-completely different from being able to stand up and teach a class.

I've been so sick I can't leave the house but so bored I have to do something - Facebook may be a decent option. It's not professional to deal with her over Facebook anyway.

Last time I was ill I spent the day on the sofa watching Phil Spencer, and probably went on Facebook a few times. I still couldn't have coped with my office job - or driving to get there - let alone teaching.

I would never have my manager as a friend on Facebook.

I think 1) YABU to equate "well enough to fiddle about on Facebook" and "well enough to work all day"
2) Possibly YANBU but it depends if you are then going to use it against her at work (in which case don't send the message) - or whether you are commenting in a friendly way and genuinely do hope she feels better/like her photos.

It would be unprofessional to discuss her unless over FB (maybe even a disciplinary issue for you ??) . If action turns out to be warranted then you need to go through the proper channels.

Gah - her illness.

YABU.

I thought ou were going to say you had seen she was out last night.

I was on facebook/mn when I was in hosp - should I have been discharged?

I would go on Facebook if I'm ill. If you're lying in bed feeling like crap, it's nice to have your laptop to distract you, or she might even be playing on her phone. What's she meant to do, stare at the ceiling?

She could be me. I'm off sick as I chopped off my thumb. Can't teach in nursery at all, pain is immense and I have to have a carer to wash and dress my autistic son in the mornings. But I can mess with my iPod with my other thumb.

When are the photos from? If it is last night's party and she phoned early last night in expecting the hangover from hell this morning then maybe you need to do something...but not on fb.

otherwise she probably is cosied on the sofa killing time before she can go back to bed when the house is quiet.

YABU It takes a very small amount of effort to post on fb, especially if he's doing it via her phone. It does depend what illness she has but most illnesses would allow you to go on fb. What else is she supposed to do when off ill apart from watch tv or read a book (both similar activities).

I'm sure she's aware you're on her friend list and therefore feels she is doing nothing wrong by passing the time on fb when off ill.

I have been signed off sick from work for the last 5 weeks with severe pg related nausea. I've been on fb on my phone every day.

Well ok - I would never actually SEND a FB message - I guess I just like the idea!

She is at home with 'flu like symptoms and a migraine'......

giraffes of course you shouldn't have been discharged.....and I am pretty sure I would go on FB if I was sick - I just think it looks a little cheeky - I would probably be all stealthy about it.

yabu. It freaks me out how many professionals think it's ok to do their business via FB.

Frustrating as it is your suspicions don't count as actual fact. She could claim someone else posted, she was doing it in bed on her phone, she felt better that evening etc. It's not a very smart thing to do but I don't think you can formally discipline her. At my work we had a lad on long term sick who was posting about nights out but hr said there was nothing to be done. His sick note overrides everything else & even if he'd been turning cartwheels in the street it still stood.

YABU - it's not really much different to sitting watching a film (my computer is next to the sofa so could sit here bundled up if ill) in amount of energy expended but it allows for some interaction with others rather than sitting at home alone all day

So she is feeling all achey and full of a cold... sounds reasonable enough to be at home, and still be able to go on facebook...

yabu

Ooooh, flu-like symptoms, fine but miraine? Haha. I used ot get them in my teens and wold spne d3 days in a darkened room unable to move without vomiting. YANBU

OP, I've been wrapped up ill on the sofa all week (man flu it would seem ). I feel dire, I can't move, I've lost my voice, drinking hurts, I have no appetite, I'm hot and sweaty/cold and shivery, dizzy, ill-stinky... you get the picture!

FB and MN have been the only things to keep me half sane this week!

Believe me, if I were your colleague you wouldn't want me anywhere near you - I really do ill-stink.

Blimey - I wouldn't be able to go near my laptop with a migraine!