to bust her in a Facebook message?

[Definitelybeautiful]

One of the staff I line manage is off sick today - she called in last night. I don't work Friday mornings and am home and have just noticed that she is all over Facebook - uploading photos and commenting etc (we are friends on Facebook - she sent the request).

1. AIBU to think this is not ok and she can't be that sick if she has FB time? (we are teachers - people are having to cover her classes)
2. AIBU to send her a message along the lines of 'I hope you feel better soon - I love the photos you are uploading'?

I would be suspicious of a migraine if she can bear to look at a computer screen

But as long as she isn't uploading photos of herself out on the piss last night there is probably little you can do.

I am off work, having had surgery two days ago. I am also a teacher, and def could not be teaching right now. However I m on FB and mn today... Be professional, address it when you see her, but be prepared to hear that she was in fact ill...

YABU -talk about power trip- leave he alone and enjoy your day off

My mum always said that if you are unsure if you have the flu or just a bad cold, try getting out of bed. If you can manage, it is a cold.

Not saying that a cold cannot make you feel really horrible, but I find that a lot of people say they have the flu cause it makes it sound worse.

I would say that if she writes, "flu-like symptoms and a migraine" that she is at best exaggerating her symptoms.

Does she have form for this, OP?

belgo I am two hours ahead of UK

Lying you are of course absolutely right (as I am sure I said before) - but I am allowed to disagree back surely! I should have given all the facts, yes I want you all to be nice and agree with me - doesn't everyone on here!? I would NEVER actually do anything about it, I won't even talk to her about it so my original posting should have be - 'to be frustrated about this'.....and fwiw I have no power at all! Fair play to judge on original posting....

wollyideas I guess there is a bit of that

I admire your honesty, definitelybeautiful!

OP... but how can you disagree back to somebody who is 'absolutely right'?

If I were in your position, I might think, 'hmm, that doesn't sound like a migraine if you're on screen typing' but I'd keep quiet (as you've said you intend to do anyway). I'd also remove my colleague from my friends list. It's just too bizarre to do social networking with a boss that you have such a close working relationship with.

Enjoy your day off... no more jibes from me... I have a slight headache 'migraine'...

Good point from woollyideas.... I too admire your honesty, DefinitelyBeautiful.

LyingWitch stay off facebook!

yes good point, delete her as a FB friend.

What's the problem? She may well be snuggled up on the sofa, surrounded by tissues, feeling crappyand killing time of FB.

Would you have an issue if she was at home watching a movie?

Sitting on a laptop is perfectly reasonable.

YABU.

I would mention to her on her return (with a concerned face) that you have heard looking at screens can exacerbate migraines, so you'd advise her to avoid going online next time she has one.

Definitelybeautiful a company I was with attempted to sack me for the same thing. I won and then left with mne head held high. keep your beak out, lying on the sofa with your laptop is hardly strenuous

I would be absolutely devestated if I was told off for being on Facebook when off sick and if anyone did I would look for a new job immediately (I am also a teacher.) I was in hospital for a fortnight a couple of years ago and I still went on Facebook as the hospital had a tv screen that doubled as a radio/internet. It was very frightening being admitted and being able to keep in touch with friends and family was a huge comfort.

Obviously that is more extreme than this case but a bad cold and headache can make you feel awfully rough and most importantly means teaching is out of the question. The difference between being well enough to mess about on a computer/well enough to plan and teach is just a complete joke to be honest and I think you should feel ashamed of yourself for talking about it on here. If I was this member and staff and read it, gutted would not even cover it. If she's in the habit of taking odd days then that lovely form you have to fill in on return detailing your vomiting, dirorehea, heavy painful periods or even depression following the loss of a loved one should cover that especially as after a few times a trigger is alerted and you have to have excrutiatingly embarrassing meetings with your line manager about anything else that can be done to support you.

I've never had a migraine so she used the wrong terminology - if this upsets you so much do an announcement in staff briefing.

I really think it's a shame teaching has gone this way as it wasn't like this when I started. :(

I dearly hope that teaching is a lot more demanding than updating FB status. YABU.

Definitelybeautiful... Oh I will... it's the devil's plaything, I can see that.

AIBU to think this is not ok and she can't be that sick if she has FB time?

YABU. Who are you to decide what she should and shouldn't do while ill at home?

'I dearly hope that teaching is a lot more demanding than updating FB status.'

good point.

Teapots 'Teaching has gone this way'!? Slightly off point I think. FWIW she won't have to fill in any forms....we aren't in the UK.

Anyway, I only have Friday morning off so I have to go in and cover her classes...no cover provided, she was too sick you understand. So I guess I have my comeuppance. :)

Perhaps she used flu and migraine as if she had told you she had a 'bad cold' you wouldn't have thought that was a good enough reason to be off work?

YABU

Unreasonable and unprofessional to 'bust her in a facebook msg' but im not sure u are BU to raise an eyebrow. We had a worker who went home sick and posted on fb. Work were not impressed. She continued to go off sick and update fb all the time. Arguably she is allowed to do what she wants when off sick but when other people are covering her work it does stick in your throat a bit. I'm not sure I would be bothered if she was uploading pictures though as you can logistically just leave them to upload.
Social networking and professional life have a bit of a tenuous link and it's hard to set the boundaries.

Bloody hell blonderedhead that is so passive aggressive!

She is on facebook!!! , I thought you were going to say she had posted a status update saying she was on an all day bender or something! You need to chill out, what do you mean 'bust her'? She's doing nothing wrong. She is probably lying on her sofa or in bed feeling rotten, would you want to 'bust her' if she was reading a book? Bloody hell, who do you think you are? You sound horrible. If I was her I'd de-friend you pronto. You're hardly much of a friend.