Another parent disciplining my son

[Lorna100]

Apologies if this posts twice!! Basically my sons best friends mother telephoned my house yesterday to speak to me, however my mother-in-law was babysitting. My 9 year old answered the phone and when the parent was told I was out she asked to speak directlt to my son, knowing that their granny was in. She proceeded to tell my son off for swinging her sons school bag on the way home from school. The wee boys water bottle leaked all over his jotter, as a result of the bag being swung. Despite telling my son off she then put her son on the phone and forced my son to apologise. I am so angry that she thought she could chatise my son over the phone, without his parents being in. My son is 9 and in the past has been hit by this boy, which I let be as did not want to interfere with squabbles between pals. Please advice

Is this serious? She sounds like a loon.

Seriously though, you need to sort your son out. It starts of as bag swinging and the next thing you know he's holding up the local petrol station to fund his drug habit

YABU

She moaned at him because her child's book got ruined...it's no big deal.

If you chose not to deal with your son being hit, that's your choice.

yabu

perhaps have a word with your MIL to make sure that you're young children aren't answering the phone while you're out.

Your son was naughty, he got told off. You weren't there to intervene on the phone (nor did you leave instructions with MIL that it wasn't appropriate for them to answer the phone) so you have to suck it up.

YANBU. She should have talked to you about it so you could talk to your son yourself.

Seriously, you lot would phone up another kids to tell him off for swinging your sons bag and not wait to speak to the child's mum?

I would want to know why the water bottle could leak and be 100% sure it was not my child who had swung his own bag and was blaming someone else

Oh for gods sake. She did ask for you, he did answer the phone so she hardly went out of her way to reach him. Different if your MIL answered and she said 'put ds on'.

Kids don't need to be wrapped up in cotton wool at 9, they need to know adults can pull them up on behaviour.

Are you saying that your son didn't do it then?

How do you know he didn't tell her on the phone it was him?

I don't know about 'you lot' eaglewings but she didn't phone up the son, she called the home of the op, the son just happened to answer and say op was out. She probably felt if she left it and called back, it would become a bigger deal than it really was. Surely it's better to just ask the boy, who answered the phone after all, what had gone on.

If he apologised, I assume he did the deed.

Seriously, you lot would phone up another kids to tell him off for swinging your sons bag and not wait to speak to the child's mum?

She didn't 'phone the kid up'

She rang to speak to his Mum and she wasn't there

Therefore she had a word with him herself....yes that's exactly what I would have done if it were a friend of my son.

Unless the woman shouted, swore or threatened him...this is really not a big deal and maybe it will have the desired effect of making him think twice about swinging other people's bags around.

She proceeded to tell my son off for swinging her sons school bag on the way home from school.

yanbu, because A) it's a weird way to have a go, anyway, and B) I can't believe so much fuss over a non-event. If the water bottle was so faulty that a few swings could make it leak, it needed replacing; bags are there to be swung.

Jeez no YANBU, it doesnt matter what your ds had done it was totally out of order ringing and speaking to him, she should have called back and spoke to you directy.

Don't shoot the messenger I'd say. Just make sure your son behaves better in future and then it won't happen again, will it?

ps: I am assuming that swinging means just that: swinging; I'll maybe retract what I said if it turns out that "swinging" is some bizarre British slang for something that isn't merely swinging at all.

Get caught out by that kind of thing all the time.

I wouldn't be particularly impressed with this either OP.

Also - who does this? The amount of times my kids have spilt something in their bags in incalculable, I can't even imagine saying "HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?!"

Are you talking about wife-swapping ragged?

She did phone the kid up, she asked to speak to him! If she wanted to speak to the mum, she should have waited for the mum

He may have apologised because he was too scared not to, if he has been hit by her son, she may similar

I need to take note that my children swinging their bags may end up with them holding the petrol station attendant hostage to fund their drug habit :)

In fact my son is not home yet, perhaps he is at the petrol station now.........

Why did the boy not have hold of his own bag? If it was my son he'd be told infuture carry your own bag, if I was you I'd tell your son not to carry other people's bags for them, he's not a bloody cart horse.

If the other boy had hold of his own bag and your son was pulling/swinging it his mother should have spoken to you

Do people realy ring up about this sort of nonsense?

How did he have the bag in the first place to swing? Did he take it without asking?
Some boys took my DD's friends book bag and swung it about, there was a drink in there which somehow got crushed and ruined a book of mine which I had leant to her. Nobody offered to replace it

YANBU. I'd be fuming. I would expect her to have talked to me. Was she there? Did she witness it, or was she taking her son's word for it.

Innit Moomin? I am totally...well, at a bit of a loss actually.

YABU.

I read it that the OP's son had taken the other child's bag, presumably against his will, rather than he was helping him out by carrying it.

YANBU.

This other kid has hit your child and his mother has the brass neck to ring him up and have a go about bag swinging ffs??

Bonkers.

the other kid has hit yours and yet they are best of friends?

that says they probably are more sensible than the mothers