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posted this in step parents but please read I need advice before I just up and leave - end of my tether

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AndTheyCalledHimSantyClaws · 11/11/2011 11:20

DP has got it in to his head that I favour my ds over dsd's when dsd's are around.
A few weeks ago I bought ds some PE shorts (hardly a gift, its an essential) and he hit the roof saying his dd gets 'nothing' from us and i am always buying thigs for ds. There are other examples of this kind of gripe.

This morning however, completely took the biscuit. sd stayed last night and i got up with kids this morning at 7.30 Dp doesn't work. I was getting myself ready for work, gave kids breakfast and was ironing ds's uniform (on the floor I was so rushed) DP was still in bed. It was now 8am. He mentions sleepily that sd's uniform needs ironing. At this point at I have done for myself is get dressed. My response was that I don't have time and he has literally hit the roof. He says I would do it if it was ds, he made ds lunch last night and washed his dirty clothes while I was asleep etc etc, he does more for my ds than I do for his dd's (yes, ds lives with us, his dd's are here 2 nights per week)

I am so upset. This argument happened in front of the kids, I left for work with unbrushed hair and no breakfast, yet I am still selfish because I got to work 10 mins early (wtf?!) I do an awful lot for his dd's that he seems to forget about, I can not carry on like this I am starting to resent his dd's

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TheFeministsWife · 11/11/2011 16:52

He is quite frankly, a dickhead!

I don't work, DH does. On weekday mornings we get up at the same time. I get me and the kids sorted for school and he sorts himself out for work. When DSD was younger she factored in to me getting her ready. Only because I was the one who was at home. And if he's not working why in gods name didn't he iron BOTH uniforms yesterday? Angry

ChristinedePizanne · 11/11/2011 21:17

You're not playing god. You're asserting the right of you and your son to live a happy life. He deserves people who only have his best interests at heart in his life and your partner most definitely doesn't.

He's five. He's a baby. Please don't put him through this any longer.

And the only person at fault here is him - it is his fault that he is putting his children through this

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