Brother in law far too hands on with dd?

[MrsHenryCavill]

Right AIBU? My brother in law is becoming far too possessive with my dd 2yo. Last week whilst staying there for the weekend he said she did a poo in the toilet. I have only just introduced dd to the potty and he k learner it is etc but doesn't sit on it that often. He said she said "poo" so he took her to toilet where he sat her there whilst he cried. He said "she didn't like it but she did it". Since this incident dd will not tell me when she does a poo and if I ask her she now says no no no. She would always tell me before. I suppose I just feel like he has taken it upon himself to 'toilet train' her. Which is obviously my job. I am a single parent and I think he feels like he is some sort of father figure. There are other issues too like when other family members are about he tries to comand her attention and thy are all noticing too. What do I do??? Been trying to avoid a confrontation but I feel like he has overstepped the mark this time. AIBU??

Why was he crying when the girl was on the loo ? . That is fucking weird in my book ...

FUCKING WEIRD , that he is trying to prove his parenting "skills" with his girlfriends/wifes neice and not his own children.

Fucking WEIRD , that he also thinks its going to change OP`s sisters mind about having his baby. She either wants to have a child with him or not .

FUCKING REALLY WEIRD , that he thinks he has the right to try potty train someone elses child.

He wasnt crying, it was a typo, she was.

Granted, it would have been weird if he was.

Yes, really fucking weird that whilst his niece was visiting for a whole weekend, he would actually take her to the toilet . what was he supposed to do droves?

Am totally paranoid now about giving my niece a bath the other night when she was round. How fucking weird is that?

sounds to me like he enjoys kids and probably thinks he's helping out. go with your gut but some people seem to be implying nasty things that from your description seem unfair. He may think that by helping dd with dinner, you and your dsis can chat stress free. Many men are awkward with kids so it's nice he cares but other people don't usually get it right. I love dh but he doesn't always parent the same as me, doesn't mean he's wierd.

sallymonella ....but the OP hadnt taken her dd to the toilet before .. she said that her daughter is still in nappies ! ...(so by my reasoning its weird behaviour) . If the OP had sent her dd without nappies , or nappy only at bedtime i would not think it weird ...i would think , ok, uncle trying his best .

Given that he also placed himself between the OP and her child at the dinner table (i mean , who does that ? childs father ok , grandmother ...we all know what mils can be like with first PGC ...BUT ...SMALL CHILD SHOULD SIT WITH /BESIDE MOTHER , UNLESS MOTHER HAS ASKED FOR SOMEONE TO GIVE HER BREAK !!!! )

OP has stated that she thinks he is possesive with her dd .

So yeah i think he is weird .

"PGC ...BUT ...SMALL CHILD SHOULD SIT WITH /BESIDE MOTHER , UNLESS MOTHER HAS ASKED FOR SOMEONE TO GIVE HER BREAK"

That wasn't in the manual that came with my children. Oh bugger. I wish I had realised I've been surrounded by weirdos in the past 3 years.

WW , what manual ? .

Really wouldnt it bother you if your child was sitting away from you and an adult who wasnt related to you was sitting between you ?.

Have none of you seen a small child chock on food ?

Personally I count my brother in law as part of the family and don't think the relationship status has anything to do with children choking on food anyway?

I think you are reading far too much into the situation. Jealousy? not sure. He did what he thought was right at the time. If a child was half way between potty and nappies and that child told me 'poo' I would also try to toilet them with either a potty or sit on the toilet. Children I have minded have occasionally hated the toilet and have cried - it is short lived usually unless the child is constipated. I think you feel insecure because he seems very able (as many dads are) and can't cope with it. I certainly don't think there is anything sinister going on.

droves it is not 'weird' behaviour because the ops dd said 'poo' and as a third time parent so to speak he understood what it meant. TBH it sounds like the op isn't so in tune!

Who retold the story though? Not the two year old.