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AIBU?

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Original poster

To hate my son with every fibre of my being?

123 replies

billybobchilly · 30/10/2011 00:28

am i?

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GlitterySkulls · 30/10/2011 00:30

do you want to talk about it?

AgentZigzag · 30/10/2011 00:31

That's a pretty inflammatory thing to write.

If you're thinking like that, you might need more help than an internet forum can give you.

annh · 30/10/2011 00:31

Can you tell us about it? How old is your son? Does this relate to something specific which has happened or a general feeling?

Dialsmavis · 30/10/2011 00:32

why? how old is your son?

Lougle · 30/10/2011 00:33

Poor you. I would be devestated if I felt like that about my child. I won't flame you. I hope your DS doesn't realise?

crazynannawitchbitch · 30/10/2011 00:33

Is it the teen years? Some teens can make you think this way...just temporarily

TheSecondComing · 30/10/2011 00:34

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billybobchilly · 30/10/2011 00:35

It is certainly an inflammatory thing to write - thank you for your input

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jamandposterpaint · 30/10/2011 00:35

Wow, I'm not sure that we're the best people to be asking that to, tbh.

Do you want to tell us what has happened?

AnnieLobeseder · 30/10/2011 00:36

Oh dear, it must be pretty big for you to feel that way. But of course we can't say if YABU or not without knowing what happened.

HildaOgden · 30/10/2011 00:37

Why are you feeling so angry?

rubyrubyruby · 30/10/2011 00:38

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Haggyoldclothbatspus · 30/10/2011 00:38

If he is a teen, I can sympathise! Mine is 15, and there are times that I could happily put his head in the garden shredder! These moments pass though, and he wont be a teen forever.

EllaDee · 30/10/2011 00:38

I don't think reasonable and unreasonable comes into it - feeling like this isn't any kind of rational and you don't have to try to make it rational.

But if you talk to us a bit more maybe we can help you not feel so desperate?

PeneloPeePitstop · 30/10/2011 00:40

Without an explanation YABVVVVVU
Perhaps with an explanation this may be considered differently.

saitek · 30/10/2011 00:40

op what on your mind.

i am sure you do not hate your son, but dislike him atm

lilolilmanchester · 30/10/2011 00:41

no, YANBU... but as others have said, you might need help to deal with this... and not from MN necessarily... do you feel you can post a bit more about the situation?

prawnsmum · 30/10/2011 00:41

you have to tell us why you feel like this

LineRunnerWitchyMother · 30/10/2011 00:42

Talk to someone you trust.

Or offload on here. The Relationships board is really good, too.

HowlingWereWolfBitch · 30/10/2011 00:47

What's the situation. AIBU tends to be alittle judgmental but at his time of night it seems to be OK.

Talk about it that's the wonderful thing about forums like this.

Salmotrutta · 30/10/2011 00:47

I can only echo waht others have already said - it may be more his actions you "hate". Can you separate "him" (for want of a better word) from his actions?
If he is a teen then he will be expert in churning you up inside. It's what they do.

Dee03 · 30/10/2011 00:48

I have a 14 year old ds that I don't like most of the time....is yours a teenager too??

EllaDee · 30/10/2011 00:49

I hope you'll come back and talk ...

People are saying lots about their teens and how it's normal to be furious with teens. But equally, if you are up at past midnight with a baby, you are no way the first person to post on here saying you're at the end of your tether. It is normal and there are ways to sort things out so you can work out what is making you feel this way.

prawnsmum · 30/10/2011 00:52

I have a 5 year old and sometimes I 'hate' the things he does eg not listening to a word I say it drives me totally crazy but it's not really 'him' just what he does. Please don't feel like your alone