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To hate my son with every fibre of my being?

123 replies

billybobchilly · 30/10/2011 00:28

am i?

OP posts:
seeker · 30/10/2011 08:54

Stop posting. It's doing no good. if anyones knows the poster then pm her. Otherwise leave it.

MidsomerM · 30/10/2011 08:55

I'm really hoping this was just a bit of late night attention-seeking rather than a genuine post.

northernrock · 30/10/2011 08:55

billybob, I think you really need to reassure people on here that everything is ok-or talk about it, because it will spiral into something bigger than it needs to be..

lisad123 · 30/10/2011 08:56

10 years old and you hate him?
dislike, sure but hate is such a hard word, and cant see how you could hate him. Whats he done thats so bad? Think you need to talk about it.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 30/10/2011 08:57

Oh come on... the OP has posted a few times but with nothing. If they wanted to talk, they would. Why keep asking for information when it's obvious that they aren't going to give it?

carriedababi · 30/10/2011 08:59

My mum used to tell me how much she hated me when I was a child. It was v damaging indeed. If this is true phone nspcc for help

AVoidkaTheKillerZombies · 30/10/2011 09:05

If this is true YABU.
I am finding it hard to imagine what a 10 year old can do that would make you actually hate them.

FabbyChic · 30/10/2011 09:12

Why would you hate your son? Are you not aware that children are the product of their upbringing? The way in which they were raised?

ManateeEquineOhara · 30/10/2011 09:13

With 'every fibre of your being' - I so hope this is not for real :(

HauntyMython · 30/10/2011 09:15

What did he do?

huffythethreadslayer · 30/10/2011 09:24

There's no point just posting a bald statement like that. It will get attention, but it won't get you any feedback or support. If you tell people why you hate your son, what the problems are, you'll probably find other people who have been in a similar position. If you describe what your circumstances are, people might have suggestions on how to help. If you keep posting one liners and giving nothing away, I think YABU.

MoaninMinny · 30/10/2011 09:27

lol, this is so typical of internet attention seeking

start a dramatic OP then sit back and wait for the hugs, huns, and ooh luv, whats wrong, inbox me's to roll in. Add a couple of drip feeds just to keep the momentum going, then wait for the thread/status replies to reach 100+ before the next instalment

i could write a script LOL

ObviouslyOblivious · 30/10/2011 09:36

Maybe he replaced her fresh mint with fresh thyme?

spiderpig8 · 30/10/2011 09:42

What a pointless post.

JamieComeHome · 30/10/2011 09:49

billy - I'd like to help but am not a mind-reader

moonshineandspellbooks · 30/10/2011 09:55

I am going to answer this on the basis that billybob is making a genuine post. I am assuming that she is struggling with her son at the moment and reaching out for help, but is that upset/confused/scared about how she's feeling that she is unable to express it properly and has therefore gone quiet (and possibly regrets posting at all).

billy, you know it is unreasonable for a mother to hate her 10-year-old child. Unless he is an extremely disturbed child with sociopathic tendencies, i can't see that even the most terribly behaved 10-year-old could provoke such a strong reaction in his mother. Rage, frustration, sadness - all these yes. 10 years olds can be horrible and no mother on earth is a saint.

If this is what you meant by your post, and you just wrote 'hate' because it's shorter and snappier, then YANBU.

However, if you genuinely mean 'hate' then you need to get help. It doesn't mean you are a bad person or a bad mother, just that you are struggling and need some support to get through this for both your own sake as well as your son's.

Can I ask if you suffered from PND when he was born? Or if you've had depressive episodes since? Do you have a supportive partner? Are there other children in the family and how do you feel about them? Is it something your son does that makes you feel like this about him or is it more of an instinctive reaction to the person he is?

Having taken the step of posting this, it's clear you want to deal with this on some level, so please follow it up. Smile

JamieComeHome · 30/10/2011 09:57

good post moonshine.
billy - if you know MN then you might know AIBU might not be the best place to post this

noddyholder · 30/10/2011 09:59

Considering the thread title and subject matter I think the drip feeding of information is very childish and making light of what sounds a dreadful situation. It sounds serious to me and maybe requires help that isn,t going to be available here. I feel for him tbh.

banana87 · 30/10/2011 10:03

Wow. A whole thread of mntters wasting their time trying to get the OP to embellish, and OP seemingly sitting back enjoying all the attention. Love threads like this. Not.

wannaBe · 30/10/2011 10:04

having posted here before doesn't mean that she's not a troll.

op if you're for real go and seek some professional help.

If not then have a Biscuit

activate · 30/10/2011 10:05

WHY?

duckdodgers · 30/10/2011 10:07

I dont get this thread and the lack of information - even if OP is genuinely upset surely they would have posted more details by now? Hmm

MrBloomsNursery · 30/10/2011 10:07

He probably hates you too. Your reap what you sow. Good luck.

BOOareHaunting · 30/10/2011 10:13

This thread has actually bewildered me and scared me at the same time.

Billy please get help or post back here.

stripeybumpinthenight · 30/10/2011 10:15

Blatantly attention-seeking - it is a direct quote from 'We Need To Talk About Kevin'.

Please don't waste energy replying or worrying.

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