Previouslyonlost can you update please

[deburca]

previously didnt want to hijack the other thread but was so impressed with you last time im dying to find out have you have managed to distance yourself from those horrible people.

anyone else out there wanting to know how previouslyonlost did it?

This couple are genuinely sociopathic, aren't they? Still, now you have seen through them they can't harm you and can instead provide you with endless amusement by the sound of it.

They went into LN garage whilst they were out and got the tent?? [hshock]

Do I understand correctly that:

1. They didn't want to use the plastic tent because it was infra dig, compared to the traditional canvas tent?
2. They took a tent from someone's garage without that person's being there? (and I didn't quite get which tent it was - did they get the infra dig one by mistake?)
3. The UEN pissed off and didn't actually hold the promised party that they pissed their neighbours off to get supplies for?

plupervert I realise that the two tents are confusing...rural politics that I didn't explain very well, sorry.

Modern tent belongs to old lady, she bought and paid for it. Other canvas tent belongs to the 'Community', paid for by fundraising locals many years ago. UEN's probably did think modern tent WAS a bit infra-dig! assumed that as they are part of the 'Community' now they could have the tent for their use as they pleased. They expected it to be brought to them, and set up too if they could swing it, and were not nice in their asking. They offered to pay a few pounds into Community Fund only after the tent was not brought to them a they expected by grateful locals...and never paid anything in the end.

LN's garage is attached to house, full of junk (they won't mind me saying that!) and usually open. When Tent loan was first broached by UEN's, LN's said they thought it was in their garage and would look it out.

The party did go ahead...they just stayed out at dinner until, I guess, it was too late for anyone with DC's to attend. Like SolidGoldVampireBat suggests, sociopathic in extremis.

I'm glad I'm cos otherwise my head may have exploded.

Although saying that if I didn't know you lived in Scotland I would think that we lived in the same village

previously im so impressed with you! Those horrible people really astound me - talk about cheek! Im sure now though that they know that they will get no mileage hassling you! well done!

poorbuthappy I know, post did turn a bit 'War and Peace'...sorry...glad you had some wine as an anaesthetic! Maybe I should have serialised it and got all the really horrible comments made during that time by UEN's into it! Village life is something else at times.

UEN's as incomers expecting the locals to tug their forelocks and be damned grateful that there's a bit of 'upper class stock' in the village these days...aarrgh!

Their machinations are like water off a duck's back to me now, and apart from sending their DC up to me after school last week to ask (a return to the tear-stained child tactic) to come and play at our house...which I brushed off with 'sorry, we're very busy'...it has been all quiet.

deburca I'm pretty impressed with myself and DH but it couldn't have happened without MN support. I'll be watching mustgetabackbone's thread with interest...hopefully another MN Ballsy Butterfly will emerge.

(Now, if Trillianastra could have popped up on this thread to say 'this is NOT an AIBU, my cup truly would have runneth over, and my MN bingo card would be up and running).

Cheers.

UEN are gods of bonkers neighbors!

I'll look forward to another instalment in the future [hgrin]

As someone else who lives in a tiny community in the NW of Scotland. I'm very curious to know where you live Previously.

Ime, it depends how the incomers behave, Sharrie. We were the incomers in a tiny shropshire village when I was 10 years old, but my parents were careful and polite and 'softly softly' about integrating into the village, and we were accepted quickly. It sounds as if the UENs in Previously's village have arrived with the 'Golly, aren't you lucky to have us living in your little village - you may fawn over us now' attitude - and that's going to put people's backs up.

POL... I am so glad to see you are using your dot, dot, dots correctly

And also really pleased to hear your balls are big and shiney! But - I al aghast that anyone is friends with these piss takers?! Who spends time with them? They are ghastly!

SharrieTBGinzatome But we are incomers too! and seem to get on with, and have many friends amongst, the 'locals'. They are a fabulously disparate bunch of characters and accept DH and I and our DC's.

The Event Tent was a case in point, the Community owned tent was bought from funds raised many years ago, those locals are now much older and less active in village life. Although still interested in what goes on, they are less and less inclined to get involved because newer arrivals from outwith this area are barging in and making decisions without even consulting people who have been born and bred here for generations. There's a 'new' committee, with not ONE person from the local area, deciding how to throw previously locally raised funds around.

LadyEvilEyes Are you Mrs UEN ? (GULP...but to be honest Mrs UEN, you KNOW that you and Mr UEN are bang out of order )

I think that much of rural life (in Scotland and elsewhere) has these issues. I was brought up in the very remotest type of environment in Scotland, far away from where we are now, and I think that gives me an insight into how difficult it can be to 'integrate'.

My issue is that we have experienced nothing but friendliness simply because we haven't imposed ourselves, or assumed an air of superiority over people whose lives have been solely here since gawd was a boy! All that 'Settler Watch' crap gives me the dry heave tbh but it is a symptom of people who come to live in a rural area that want to change what they find.

We live here because it is a wonderful environment to bring our DC's up in...they'll probably head for the bright lights first chance they get tho'!

Trust me, it's a grand life here (shops a bit thin on the ground, but that's the sacrifice!)...I recently shared my OP with Mrs LN, she's a scream, and I have led her astray a tiny bit with my incomer ways, but she loves it really! May have to get her signed up to MN so she can express her (dyed in the wool local) thoughts (on evil Dr Pork Chop neighbours!)

My Balls...and dot dot dots are feckin' magnificient...and I have MN to thank profusely for that. (hairfullofsnakes where are you?)

(but also where's TrillianAstra, and and can someone confirm that they are now possibly just Trills...it's a MN minefield out there)

Off tonight to do a locally arranged Halloween thingie with DC's...and have a laugh with my local pals

SharrieTBGinzatome and like you...we too are very nice people

It's about your attitude when you move anywhere new...in an urban environment it's all about bin/hanging out washing days and taking turns to sweep/mop communal areas etc. In the 'sticks', it's about not refusing to respect the community that you've chosen to come and live in.

No, I'm not her POL. Really.
And I'm also an incomer though have been here 17 years now, and yes everything you say above is true.
If you move into a tiny community you have to fit in, not try and change it, that way can only lead to resentment.
And my ds will be leaving school in a couple of years, there's nothing up here for him though he had a fabulous childhood, including attending the 8 pupil, one teacher primary school.

I enjoyed the story but want to point out a practicality--hope it is not too late. If the tent was put away wet and left as is, it will smell musty if not out and out moldy. It needs to be brought out, thoroughly dried, then packed away. Is it too late?

I never read original thread, and will now, but what in the world is urine extracting???

Was replying to posts before I went out...just before pulled the big Broadband plug was pulled out in the Highlands, a common occurrence in the boondocks...high speed reliable internet, and shops, are all I miss!

LadyEvilEyesYou have no idea HOW relieved I am to hear that, just with your name and all ...some of the schools up here are tiny, a pupil to teacher ratio that cannot be found anywhere else. I went to one school with 10 pupils, P1-P7 all in one room - LOVED it.

HansieMom You sound like just the kind of thoughtful, caring neighbour we need round here...the tent is fine, I think. It was the modern plastic one that was used...doesn't bear thinking about if it had been the old canvas tent, mildew PHEW. And I got a spanking on OP for using UE...should have said 'taking the piss'. (Me and my flowery language again!).

Thanks for the update POL ! I often think of you and your balls and wonder how you are faring. :o

I thought the awful neighbours were teachers. Most teachers I know are fairly down to earth and used to mucking in. This lot sound like city bankers...

Shops and takeaways for me POL.
Nearest chippy, Chinese and Indian is 50 miles away.
I dream of a night without cooking.
Oh and this is my Halloween name btw.

FearfulYank All is well...Balls are still quite magnificient thanks!

2rebecca Both Primary School Teachers...both in their own little world obviously...it's a shame really, there are some lovely folk around here if they would drop the 'we're better than you' act. Mrs UEN was 'complaining' that they are not in the centre of the village and their DC's (too young to go out unsupervised) miss out on playing with the other children...I had to refrain from saying 'yes, but if you were in the middle you'd have a non-stop stream of children in your house like we do - and you don't let anyone (far less messy kids) in your house at the best of times, so wtf are you on about'!

LadyEvilEyes I feel for you, fish suppers don't travel well! But I've learnt to make a pretty good authentic curry out of necessity...still have to get the spice ingredients by Mail Order though!

Upside is less junk food eaten...though teenagers here do ask for people to bring them back a MacDonalds if they're going shopping to the 'Big City'...euurgh, stone cold and more than 3 hours old after the journey home.

To the tune of John Lennon's Imagine:
'Imagine there's no MacDonalds, no Subway to buy, no Pizza hut beside us, around us only home-made chips to fry'

Just makes that grease and fat laden treat taste all the better when you do get it. Hope you have a Happy Halloween.

Just lost about an hour of child-free cleaning time to this (and linked) thread. Worth it!