Ok, so I'm 7 months pregnant so could be being overly sensitive, but hey.
PILs see DD who is coming up to 2 and a half every few weeks or so. They live about an hour and a half's drive away, and always email DH to say when 'they' will come and see DD. Not us as a family, but DD. If and when they do come, they sit on the floor in the corner of the lounge where all the toys are, playing with DD, and practically ignore us. If they ever stay - on the invitation of us, they will get up and leave around 6am before anyone is up.
I don't have an issue with them coming to see us, but 'just' DD is a bit bonkers. I also like to invite people to stay, rather than people saying 'we are coming on x date'. We do invite them, but they tend to be busy whenever we suggest dates. DH usually agrees to their request for an easy life - he doesn't have the best of relationships with them, and we do owe them money, which we are paying off a hefty sum per month, which DH feels indebted to them about.
Anyway.
They were going on holiday just over a week ago, and wanted to pop in for about 10 minutes on their way to the airport to see DD - a Tues afternoon, so DH was at work, and it was on one of my days off. They refused a cuppa, went straight to 'the corner' and stayed. For 2 hours. Hardly spoke to me. I felt like a right award twat in my own home. Fast forward to Saturday when they came back from holiday and had landed, and they called at 8am - to say they were on their way over as they'd landed and wanted to see DD. DH gets up for DD at the weekends to give me a bit of a break at the mo (bearing in mind I'm up half the night weeing and generally being uncomfy). He told them them that I was still in bed and they said 'that's ok, we're not coming to see woof, we're coming to see our grand-daughter, see you in a bit.'
I was furious. I got up, ran a bath, and stayed in there. Seething.They stayed 20 minutes. WTF?
I have explained to DH that this is rude - isn't it? - and people come to see us, we are a package, etc, and I will not tolerate this anymore. He agreed and said he'd say something....
So. AIBU to think they are bloody rude and odd, or shall I get off my hormonal high horse and put up with their weirdness?!
(woops, soz it's long)