Pregnant at 47. AIBU to be dreaming up responses to the innevitable sarcy comments?

[MarieFromStMoritz]

So. Pregnant at 47. I just know that when I post this news on Facebook people are going to be saying things like, "ooh, you certainly know how to make life hard for yourself!" (I have 4 kids already), or "ooh, are you sure it's not the menopause?". Stuff like that. I don't want to tell anyone. This morning for a fleeting second I thought of telling people that we adopted the baby. It was just a fleeting second until I realised how ridiculous that would be.

AIBU to be a bit sensitve about it? I haven't even told anyone and already I'm pissed off

People might be really really pleased for you. However, you know them best and sound like you are prepared to come out of your corner fighting already.

Personally, I think if it is what you and your SO want then it is no one else's business and I would tell them to jog on.

Wow. Congratulations ! That's great news.

I don't have any smart-alec responses for you, but your post bought a smile to my face as, at almost 47, this is something I'd still like to happen for myself (have 2 kids already, but have almost given up hope of another and can't afford any medical help). When I'm daydreaming I too imagine what "others" might say and sadly, much of it would be along the lines you suggested - or even more unkind/tactless.

Think in your shoes I'd be so pleased with myself it'd give me the courage to challenge any rude/none-of-your-business type remarks. Maybe "thanks so much for your kind wishes" in a sarcastic manner ?

Hopefully, you won't get too many rain-on-your-parade type comments ... it always baffles me how some people feel qualified to make the most personal observations about a woman's pregnancy whatever her age, like you suddenly become public property.

Congratulations!

It's lovely news. And remember older women having babies used to happen a lot more in the past.

People may say the odd silly thing but they say annoying things to most pregnant women. You don't have to post it but you could just disable your wall for a few days.

Congratulations! You are very lucky to be pregnant at 47. I am the same age and I know if this were me I would just be worried about the baby. Do not concern yourself at all with what others say, just concentrate on your health, your family and your baby.

I wouldn't mention it to anyone personally, except DH, for many weeks. Then when you do just smile sweetly and say "isn't it wonderful?".

Mind you my teenagers would be mortified at the proof that DH and I had had recent sex .

Thanks for the good wishes! I really should be happy, but I'm too busy being pissed off at all the imaginary comments

Good idea to disable wall. Am I able to post on it, but stop anybody else from posting on it, I wonder?

Congratulations!

(as today is my 46th birthday and I am happy with my one child, I shall not let dp see your thread as I think he'd still like another! )

Happy Birthday Bucharest

Tbh you will get some comments- it's inevitable. Not just because of the age thing but also because you have four kids already. People may be really surprised, or it may seem as if it would be their worst nightmare- and unfortunately when people are lost for words they sometimes say daft things!

But it Sounds as though you're tough enough to cope! Tbh I think with 4 others you're going to be very busy, and having to bat a few daft comments will be the least of your worries!

Congratulations! I strongly suspect no-one will be rude to your face

If anyone makes jokes/ mutters behind your back, sod 'em.

You my have to deal with "crikey, five kids" comments but as someone else said, lots of people are lucky enough to have kids into their forties these days, so I honestly think after perhaps a raised eyebrow no-one will comment on your age.

Good luck & enjoy!

Congratulations!

I'm currently pregnant with DC5, and i understand why you'[re worried about the comments, etc.

I keep getting the 'Oh don't you have a TV?' To which i reply 'Of course i do, i just prefer a bloody good shag fucking of an evening instead'

Seriously though, people are always going to think it's their business to comment, no matter what you do. So relax, enjoy your pregnancy and tell everyone else to fuck off get stuffed. Congratulations!!

Great news! I'm sure someone will come along with an excellent response soon.

It gives me hope that at 36 I don't have to try for number 3 straight away!

And yes just don't post it.

Congratulations!

It's pretty quiet right now, but Come over to 40 Towers!

People are on holiday and are busy, but it will pick up soon, I'm sure. We've all, more or less, had babies over 40! Or if anyone is over 40 with children, then come on over!

DawnOfTheDeementedDead :o

Wow congratulations! A woman at my work had a baby earlier on this year aged 48. I must admit that we were all a bit shocked when she announced it but it turns out she had been having ivf and hadn't told anybody. We were all thrilled for her and there were no negative comments. Your bound to get people thinking that they wouldn't do the same in their 40s but that their personal opinion and hopefully they will have the decency to keep it to themselves :)

Marie congratulations.
I'm 47 and couldn't even dream of it being as i've had me giblets done away with. But wouldn't anyway due to other reasons...(Genetic condition of two youngest which would affect any others). Plus my grand daughter wears me out when i have her for a day!!!

Anyway my paternal Nan had TWINS at 47 and lived to be a week shy of 93.
Didn't even go grey til she was well in her 80's.
She was a cockney sparrer and when a family member asked how she'd managed it she replied "I dunno but I only went up to wash his back in the bath and next thing I got twins in me belly"

err dont post on facebook then?????
congrats!

Congratulations!

My Mum had DC5 at 40, which was pretty old at the time, iyswim.

You probably will get comments, because it is fairly unusual and hence a conversation point. I'm betting people will ask if it's planned most. Work out what you want to say, how polite you want to be before telling anyone. And you don't have to announce it in general at all, whether to Facebook or telling friends.

You can set FB privileges so that no-one can post on your wall. I think you can set it so they can reply to an existing post but not start a new one. And you can set it at an individual level, so some can and some can't, but that's a little more complicated.

im the same age, it would be a nightmare for me, but congratulations if its what you want :)

I had DC5 at 43, after a 15 year gap, and the only comments I got were nice ones. People were surprised but not nasty.

Congratulations!

Congratulations, that's wonderful news!

I suspect you will get some comments, but just try to rise above it. Your family and real friends will be absolutely delighted for you.

im the same age, it would be a nightmare for me, but congratulations if its what you want

See, that's the kind of comment I am dreading.

Congratulations.

Tell them to fuck off and when they get there fuck off some more.

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