Pregnant at 47. AIBU to be dreaming up responses to the innevitable sarcy comments?

[MarieFromStMoritz]

So. Pregnant at 47. I just know that when I post this news on Facebook people are going to be saying things like, "ooh, you certainly know how to make life hard for yourself!" (I have 4 kids already), or "ooh, are you sure it's not the menopause?". Stuff like that. I don't want to tell anyone. This morning for a fleeting second I thought of telling people that we adopted the baby. It was just a fleeting second until I realised how ridiculous that would be.

AIBU to be a bit sensitve about it? I haven't even told anyone and already I'm pissed off

Just ignore the sarky comments. I got pg with my 2nd at 46 and most people were very happy for me. A few including my parents - were not and all I got was 'how will you cope', 'you are too old' etc. Not helpful and quite upsetting. I just started to ignore it all and focus on me and the baby.

Any nasty comments use the old MN favourite ....... "did you mean to be so rude?". Wish i had known this when I was pregnant last year at 40 and 2 people told me they thought I was too old to get pregnant......grrrrrrr!!

I think it's amazing! Congratulations :)

Why do you give a flying fuck what other people think?

And stay away from bollocks like facebook.

Congratulations

Really though, why do you want to announce it on Facebook? Why not go down the old fashioned route of phoning close family and friends?

I had my last baby at 44.She is now 8 months.
I had the nasty "are you fucking mad?" comments from other women that i hardly knew at the school. I just laughed at first and nodded in agreement. Then i realised how silly that was and the hormones kicked in so i used to cut them dead with "mad?me?No im delighted to have concieved naturally with my new husband after cancer treatment!" That shut them up. Congrats.

I was pregnant at 45 (DS born when I was nearly 46). I didn't really get any comments apart from a couple of people assuming I had had IVF (which I hadn't). No-one assumed I couldn't cope. I can't imagine why people would feel the need to make comments like the ones mentioned on here. If they had I would have just ignored them completely I think.

PS congratulations!

Congratulations... there really is nothing else to say.

Congratulations, fab news!

I think you're inevitably going to get a few comments - some people just can't help themselves, but you're happy, your family's happy...hell, I don't even know you and I'm happy for you!

Wishing you all the best

Really though, why do you want to announce it on Facebook? Why not go down the old fashioned route of phoning close family and friends?

Because part of me feels that I need to post pictures of me pregnant otherwise people might not believe it's mine, they might think I've stolen it or something

Oh it is lovely - congratulations.

And read Luisa Dillner's 'A New Mum Again' series from the Guardian - I loved it and the whole thing is now online. Here is the first column:

www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/dec/04/luisa-dillner-pregnancy

Congrats, on dc5

if anything you being an 'older mum' is kudos to you

Congratulations

YABU - you get what you wish for - worrying about crap happening makes it happen- the universe is a shit like that. You started this thread and got a comment you were dreading - best left alone- oh and fb is evil

You have all made me cry with your support and best wishes. Thanks

Oh, and please tell us some more stories of pregnant old codgers like me

I'd do it myself if it wasn't for the fact my health would cause problems and I'd probably lose my mobility completely, going by the arrival of DC4 when I was 41. But that's because my body has a design flaw apparently.

Good luck to you. And congratulations.

I meant

I don't know anyone else that old

My friend just had no7 aged 42 - she is overjoyed and he is precious.

Well, having DC4 at 41, apart from SPD, was a doddle because:

a) We have masses of baby stuff and toys already.
b) It was an excuse to buy a great 7-seater Renault which runs beautifully, unlike the old one.
c) You need less sleep as you get older which makes the nights easier.
d) The other kids are actually useful so they can be deployed as slaves helpers.
e) You start looking younger because of the lovely hormones, so it knocks years off your age in beauty terms.
f) You have to postpone middle age which means you stay fitter and wear trendier clothes.
g) You are more patient, so standing at the swings for hours or playing endlessly in the sandpit is actually fun instead of a bit of a faff.
h) Despite having lots of toys you think "This might be my last" so paradoxically it is an excuse to acquire a great wooden climbing frame, classic toys, super clothes and all sorts of things you wanted for yourself as a kid but always put off buying as an adult.

Oh yes, and people think you are some kind of supermother when you are still having babies in your 40s, and defer to you on all matters to do with parenting, which is just fabulous.

my mum's just become a nan at 47! wow.
I'm on the opposite end being a young mum, and I spent my whole pregnancy practically apologising and telling everyone it wasn't planned. One or two witty remarks pre-prepared wouldn't be the worst thing but don't make yourself bitter thinking stuff over that no-one has even said!

Congratulations That is fantastic! Also gives me hope as I have been worrying about getting no.2 in ASAP (recently turned 43) and now think I might be able to relax a bit - not for the conception part - would need help anyway - but for the "too old to have a baby" part.

BoffinMum gives loads of good reasons for having a late baby - they definitely keep you young. DC1 has taken years off my parents who run round like mad things now, and I like to think she has done something similar for me....

I have ordered This vintage car for DC4's Christmas present. And this from a woman who has an Austerity Housekeeping blog and promotes filling Christmas stockings with jumble sale buys! I am a bit but also because it's due to arrive today and I absolutely can't wait to see it!

AIBU to want to buy him the matching mechanics' overalls and teddy with goggles on as well?

I could use DH's credit card!